Complaint from next door neighbour

Marvel1

Norman_Castle wrote: »

You've missed the point. No one is being asked to be silent.

Yes they are.

Smodlet wrote: »

If you share a party wall, you need to be quiet all the time.

shortcrust

Alan2020 wrote: »

Reading through this,
1. You may have depression go and see your GP
2. Certain cultures, people scream and talk in the phone and don't realise, this is one good way to get a thorough beating on a bus where there are racist characters, seen this happen many a times
3. Gamers and youtube viewing, loud volume and shouting is OK if you are living at student accommodation, not so cool if you have family sorts living next to you
4. Don't make matters worse, go and speak with the person, apologise and see their point of view. You can bury yourself and maybe you are making a racket, they may kick the door down and give you a beating of a lifetime, will you be calling the police when you are in a coma for 5 years?

Case in point, a geeky type used to listen to music with weed smoking mates once they moved to some flats. Told others it was their rights. One day door was kicked in by rough neighbour, who came armed with a samurai sword and cut up their music box, kicked the living daylights out of them and told them to phone the police, one tried and ended up badly beaten. Obviously guy who beat them up could have easily killed them, so just use a modicum of common sense.

This is the daftest post I've seen on here for a long time (which is quite an achievement...).

Norman_Castle

Marvel1 wrote: »

Yes they are.

Quiet and silent are not the same.

Alan2020

shortcrust wrote: »

This is the daftest post I've seen on here for a long time (which is quite an achievement...).

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-merseyside-19953814

Alan2020

VincentVincent wrote: »

This is just pure scaremongering. Why don't you save your sensationalist horror stories for your mates down the pub instead of trying to trying to convince a stranger he could be violently attacked over the most basic of neighbour issues. They came here for advice, not creative writing classes.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-merseyside-19953814

Happens quite a bit, the person claims they aren't local, I would bet if they lived in a dodgy area high chance of becoming a victim

Lilythecat

On a school night (sun-thurs) I would think it’s reasonable to be quiet after 10

RelievedSheff

If you live in close proximity to other people then you have to be thoughtful and keep your noise to a minimum during unsociable hours.

These hours will vary depending on your neighbours. For example if they have children or hours that you all work. It is part and parcel of having neighbours. You have to be respectful to each other and that works both ways.

You may not have realised your behaviour was affecting those around you but now that it has been brought to your attention, if you are a decent person you will try and change your behaviour to be more respectful to your neighbours.

If you want to make as much noise as you like you need to move to a detached property.

Tomg84

Personally I'd ignore the letter. Its rude, threatening and doesn't deserve a response. I'd try and keep quieter after 10pm but as someone who lived in a flat with an unreasonable neighbour who expected not to hear us watching TV or a movie (and received a very similar letter from them). It sounds like they have unrealistic expectations of sound.

RelievedSheff

That is just the crux of it though. Why should your neighbours have to listen to your TV?

Is it unreasonable to expect not to hear that? I personally don't think it is being unreasonable.

After spending 12 years living next door to unreasonable neighbours we moved to a detached property. We will never go back to an attached property again. We had not realised what an effect it was having on our lives until we moved.

For the neighbours to have written that letter there really is a problem that needs to be addressed before it escalates.

remembermee

I come to this from the opposite side. I have neighbours who clearly have no idea how loud they are.
They are also Asian. To begin with we thought they were arguing loudly but then they’d laugh so clearly weren’t. The tones they use sound very harsh compared to English. They shout at each other just in normal conversation.
And then there’s the phone! Wow! They have it on speaker all the time and it drives me insane!! But they are lovely! But I do get very frustrated!
I think the letter is from someone who is desperate. I actually think you could discuss with her calmly. You can say you’re sorry and had no idea. Tell them you’ll keep it down after x time etc. They’ll be thankful you’re trying.