Complaint from next door neighbour

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It's such a shame that she took this path.
From the sounds of it, you don't know the layout of her home.
How were you to know the room you take phone calls in, is next to her child's bedroom?
I would leave it a week or so until the emotions attached to the letter have calmed down and then maybe respond to her.
Just let her know you are always open to speaking, rather than sending such letters.
I live in a flat and try and keep my music down after 9pm but in the same respect, the family upstairs have a crying baby & screaming children.
Lifestyles in such living situations are never going to match perfectly, but I think your neighbour should be more aware that everyone will have different kinds of noise & it'd have been a lot nicer just to speak to you.

coffeehound

Norman_Castle wrote: »

You've probably got them. "Normal" volume isn't measured by whether the neighbours can hear it. Your "creepy, workless" neighbours sound respectful and considerate.

No, he's not considerate; he's a control-freak who bullied the previous (female) occupant of this flat into leaving.

Norman_Castle

coffeehound wrote: »

No, he's not considerate; he's a control-freak who bullied the previous (female) occupant of this flat into leaving.

And your previous neighbour?
"This is the second flat I've lived in with creepy workless single male neighbours who are at home 99.998% of the time and who apparently sit in pin-drop silence all the time I'm at home."

coffeehound

Norman_Castle wrote: »

And your previous neighbour?

A seriously unpleasant piece of work. I ended up having to move out at great inconvenience and expense.

Smodlet

I would give my eye teeth for neighbours I never had to hear at any time and, if they objected to the very slight amount of noise I make, would tell them to advise exactly what they could hear when as, when I have considerate neighbours, I am extra considerate in return.

When I am forced to live next door to pig-ignorant chavs, I fail to see why I should be quite so careful...

@doozergirl: Were my means within the same hemisphere as your annual income (what with your £3,000 "air vent" and all) there is no way on this earth I would live within earshot of any neighbours. If you choose to do so, you really cannot complain, can you? Most of us have no choice.

I'll get my coat.

Freecall

IF THIS THREAD PROVES ONE THING, IT IS THAT UNREASONABLE NOISE IS ALL ABOUT PERCEPTION.

IT IS MORE OR LESS IMPOSSIBLE TO OBJECTIVELY QUANTIFY.



Sorry, didn't mean to shout.

shhh....

staffie1

coffeehound wrote: »

No, he's not considerate; he's a control-freak who bullied the previous (female) occupant of this flat into leaving.

Is that a fact or your opinion. Or local gossip. There are two sides to every story.

staffie1

Freecall wrote: »

IF THIS THREAD PROVES ONE THING, IT IS THAT UNREASONABLE NOISE IS ALL ABOUT PERCEPTION.

IT IS MORE OR LESS IMPOSSIBLE TO OBJECTIVELY QUANTIFY.

Absolutely right.

Doozergirl

Smodlet wrote: »

@doozergirl: Were my means within the same hemisphere as your annual income (what with your £3,000 "air vent" and all) there is no way on this earth I would live within earshot of any neighbours. If you choose to do so, you really cannot complain, can you? Most of us have no choice.

I'll get my coat.

a) I'm not complaining. Quite the opposite.

b) My new house is uninhabitable, so you're wrong again and it's my choice where I live anyway.

c) That piece of land took five years to turn into a plot. It nearly cost me my marriage and our home and it cost me my mental health for a good while. I absolutely deserve every little bit of it, and am hugely proud of building something sustainable. Being in the privileged position of owning a house doesn't stop me from being nice to be nice to people, neighbours included.

d) That 'air vent' will keep our carbon footprint and the bills low.

I have never been spoken to in such a manner by a regular on this forum and don't expect to again. I've displayed nothing but integrity, don't pick on people and don't display what looks like outright jealousy for a perfect life I've picked out of thin air for someone.

Simby

I checked this thread to see if the op had come back with an update. Sadly I see he hasn’t but given where the thread has gone I can’t really blame hi. For running away.

Doozergirl I have always found your posts extremely helpful and I am sure other users do too.