Partner and Friend issues

Sea_Shell

If she's now your ex, who broke up with who?

If you broke it off... what's changed?

If she broke it off...sound like she's playing games and just wants you to come begging.

You are worth more than what she's offering...you CAN do better!!

spirit

Runningfast wrote: »

Not as such but has claimed that my mother and sister don't like her and wants nothing to do with them. I am close to both my mum and sister.

You have recognised that you are not compatible. I realise it's easy for some of us to say, you must run for the hills. If you do, then you will look back in a year's time to see that you dodged a bullet there.

spirit

Mojisola wrote: »

This person will make your life a misery.

Get some therapy to understand why you're attracted to someone who treats you so badly.

If you manage to move on from her but don't build up your self-esteem, you will be targeted by another abuser.

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/319873.php co-dependent relationships

Grezz24

Personally i would tell your ex to foxtrot oscar, anyone who tries to drive you away from your friends and family is neither healthy for you or worth your time.

AndyPix

She wont change.


You need to decide if this is how you want your life to be ??


Is this your lot ? Or do you feel you deserve more than this ?


If its the latter just block her number and move on (hard as it may be at first)

snilloct1957

We, the unwashed, are giving the same advice your mates are giving you and still you hesitate to give her the elbow. She's a wrong un and you're better off without her.

Hectors_House

OP it looks like we’re all giving you the same advice you’ve been getting from your friends and family.

Now just stop for a moment, make a cup of tea and think about this.

Her demands keep escalating. It is clearly an abusive, controlling relationship. The reasons why she’s like that don’t matter. If it’s something like NPD she can’t change.

If she is like this with you now what would she be like with you if you had children together?

What kind of mother would she be to those children?’

More then likely she would see them as more of her surroundings she would need to keep under control.

Very unhealthy.

Run and keep running.

Runningfast

Mojisola wrote: »

This person will make your life a misery.

Get some therapy to understand why you're attracted to someone who treats you so badly.

If you manage to move on from her but don't build up your self-esteem, you will be targeted by another abuser.

I'll be honest that post has put a lump in my throat because I know its true. For some reason it takes me back to my birthday last year were she belittled me in front of a group of people (mainly her mates and one of mine), said something that shouldn't be forgivable to my mate (male) and then told me she did it to hurt me. Oh throw in not even getting me a card, drink or gift or even saying happy birthday etc. but bought other blokes drinks that night as a side matter. I paid for my own birthday night that she organised. Anyway!

I have texts of her saying I hurt her at times unintentionally (quoting the stuff I have stated on here) but that she has gone out intentionally to hurt me and get me back. I don't think I have done anything to hurt her to be honest!!

Barny1979

Runningfast wrote: »

I'll be honest that post has put a lump in my throat because I know its true. For some reason it takes me back to my birthday last year were she belittled me in front of a group of people (mainly her mates and one of mine), said something that shoJeuldn't be forgivable to my mate (male) and then told me she did it to hurt me. Oh throw in not even getting me a card, drink or gift or even saying happy birthday etc. but bought other blokes drinks that night as a side matter. I paid for my own birthday night that she organised. Anyway!

I have texts of her saying I hurt her at times unintentionally (quoting the stuff I have stated on here) but that she has gone out intentionally to hurt me and get me back. I don't think I have done anything to hurt her to be honest!!

Jesus! You stayed with her? Did you ever ask why she treated you like that on your birthday? How old are you? You need to stop being treated like a doormat and mug and move on, surely being single is better than being treated like a muppet?

Pollycat

Runningfast wrote: »

I'm seeing the trend in the replies and to be honest it is the same from my mates and family. One told me to watch it with her over 2 years ago, said they couldn't help but think I'd be in for a hell of a time long term. Probably should listen lol.

Then listen.
Don't 'lol'.
There is nothing remotely funny about your situation.