My year of living dangerously

doingitanyway

I have a plasterer coming this evening. I dislike evening appointments for quotes as I spend all day with nerves kicking in. He will be quoting for plastering my kitchen. My kitchen is a dump. Embarrassing. All I can do is ensure it is clean and tidy so the quote can go ahead. If I can get the plastering done the kitchen will be less of a dump.

It is a bit like feeling too fat to go to the gym even though the answer is going to the gym.

Yesterday I met up with a friend. It was nice to see her, but I am going to start being more protective of my time and cashflow.

She is late 90% of the time we meet. :mad: I felt a bit irritated as she was 40 minutes late this time and I was standing outside a station. We have very different ideas about time so I am not going to meet again when time is an issue. She can drop in and see me and vice versa instead as I find our meetings stressful instead of relaxing.

I wasted money in fares and frittering money away playing Lady Bountiful

I ended up feeling resentful and it is my own fault. I don’t want to become mean as I dislike meanness. BUT…

I am going to work hard on:

--Not saying yes when friends/family want to meet up. I can think about it and work it into a day when I am out and about so fares are already paid for.

--Not paying for everything for friends and family on autopilot.

--Not giving away my time (especially important when I am working on my creative project full time in the Autumn)

Wishing you all a good day

jwil

I'd be interested to know how much the quote for plastering your kitchen was, if you don't mind sharing - mine needs doing badly and I don't want to get someone in for a quote if it's going to be way above any budget. (I know it will vary, but I'm just curious).

I don't think you are being mean by getting annoyed, your friend is being disrespectful of you. I hate lateness and leaving you standing around for 40 minutes is just rude.

redofromstart

I find the gentle reminder of 'is it my tune, I cant remember, did you pay last time or did I?' a good reminder that these things should take turns.

I agree about the need to be protective with time, I get so little free time at the minute and thieves of time really wind me up.

Puddleglum

I don't think that you are being mean either. Friends don't do that to each otherrWF.

Sorry about the funny typing, a guinea pig just walked over my keyboard. Yes literally one did!

another_casualty

Puddleglum wrote: »

I don't think that you are being mean either. Friends don't do that to each otherrWF.

Sorry about the funny typing, a guinea pig just walked over my keyboard. Yes literally one did!

That guinea pig sounds brilliant :rotfl:

doingitanyway

jwil wrote: »

I'd be interested to know how much the quote for plastering your kitchen was, if you don't mind sharing - mine needs doing badly and I don't want to get someone in for a quote if it's going to be way above any budget. (I know it will vary, but I'm just curious).

I have a very small kitchen so I don't know if it helps you much but to replaster the whole kitchen will cost no more than £300

redofromstart wrote: »

I find the gentle reminder of 'is it my tune, I cant remember, did you pay last time or did I?' a good reminder that these things should take turns.

I agree about the need to be protective with time, I get so little free time at the minute and thieves of time really wind me up.

Good advice Redo. Thanks you

Puddleglum wrote: »

I don't think that you are being mean either. Friends don't do that to each otherrWF.
Sorry about the funny typing, a guinea pig just walked over my keyboard. Yes literally one did!

Haha to the hamster! :rotfl:

doingitanyway

I did it. The plasterer came. He came on time. He seemed nice and I would feel comfortable to have him in my home. The quote he gave was reasonable and less than the previous (flaky) plasterer quoted. :T He can do the work in the next few weeks. I have been feeling nervous all day but I can relax now and enjoy my evening.

redofromstart

Hurrah for the plasterer. I hate these things too. Never did get the cleaner in, she quoted for a deep clean then I got Ill and neglected everything so now the house is so much worse. We are having a clear it up push this weekend.

HairyHandofDartmoor

That's brilliant about the plasterer .

I would be cross too about waiting for 40 minutes at a station :mad: and I definitely wouldn't offer to pay. When I go out with friends we usually pay for ourselves, unless what we've had is very similar and then we just split the bill equally.

jwil

doingitanyway wrote: »

I have a very small kitchen so I don't know if it helps you much but to replaster the whole kitchen will cost no more than £300

Thank you That's great. Ours is really small too, hopefully that's in the right ballpark. Even if it's double it's manageable so that's really helpful.