Money Moral Dilemma: Should I miss my sister's wedding?

Pollycat

[quote=[Deleted User];75267923]I'm not going to my brothers
wedding in the summer. Nothing to do with presents though....

Hes the type who says hes doing one thing and it never happens. Take everything with a pinch of salt. He told everyone he was getting married but I thought, we'll see.

Never got an invite or told date officially. I found out date via his facebook posts. I'm away on holiday that day. Ryanair flights so can't cancel or anything anyway (And its £1000 total).

So I'm not going. Lets just say I'm not popular....[/QUOTE]

I guess you're not going to your brother's wedding because you've not been invited...
If your brother doesn't send you an invite or tell you what date the wedding is... that's a pretty good sign that he doesn't want you there.
Which is a very different scenario to the 'dilemma' in this thread.

Tripod

You should go, buy her £10 worth of lottery tickets, then tell her to think big. Hope this helps

Wendymarf61

we put this in the info with the invitations. K & S both have a learning disability and we just wanted the day to be a celebration. It was an amazing day. Some people gave gifts, some didn’t. But they all made it a day to remember. “K and S are already enjoying sharing a home together and thanks to so much generosity when they were moving in they have all of the things that they need to enjoy their time there. Because of this, we are not intending to produce a gift list. We are however working hard towards a memorable honeymoon, hopefully in Italy, and are saving carefully for this. If you did wish to make a small contribution to help S and K to experience this then we would be very appreciative and will have a method on the website for gifting or a post box at the venue. Ultimately, attending a wedding is an expense for everyone whether you are travelling from far and wide or making arrangements for others care while you attend so the greatest gift would be your presence on this day.

kevChan

my sister had the same expectation when she got married on me, but after knowing I was out of a job she said nothing and I still attended. I did not prepare a gift.

Every family's own issue. Figure it out yourself.

JayD

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

Say to your sister "I can just about afford to come but I can only afford a small gift, does that mean you'd prefer me not to be there?"


(If she wants you there you should get a small gift, even if its a token for a tenner, and put some thought into it, if she only wants you there if you give her £100, hell no, don't bother.)

Sounds like the perfect answer to this 'dilemma; do me!


She sis your sister - tell her frankly what you can afford, ask if that means if you are still welcome or not and wait for HER to make the decision about whether you go or not.


Are families really this money grabbing?

~_Daisy_~

Pollycat wrote: »

This 'dilemma' is particularly poorly-worded.

Is the author of the dilemma intending to miss the wedding so she can give a gift of 'at least £100'?

Personally, I'd miss the wedding because the sister is a grasping, demanding, thoughless b i t c h...:rotfl:

This ^^^^^^

[Deleted User]

Pixie5740 wrote: »

Did the sister specify the gift had to be 100 Pounds Sterling? 100 Egyptian Pounds is less than £4.50 Sterling so gift her 100 Egyptian Pounds and attend the wedding.

My idea was a 100 pounds of spuds. It would be a sod of a job to wrap over 7 stone of potatoes though!

Pollycat

JayD wrote: »

Sounds like the perfect answer to this 'dilemma; do me!


She sis your sister - tell her frankly what you can afford, ask if that means if you are still welcome or not and wait for HER to make the decision about whether you go or not.


Are families really this money grabbing?

Yes.
Apparently some are.

Ebenezer_Screwj

It's disgraceful that you are being blackmailed by this grasping woman. If you can afford to attend, just take a token gift, or if this continues to be an issue don't attend at all.

Pollycat

Spider_In_The_Bath wrote: »

My idea was a 100 pounds of spuds. It would be a sod of a job to wrap over 7 stone of potatoes though!

No it wouldn't.
Just buy 2 x 56lb bags from a farm shop - they will come in a brown paper sack - and remove 6lb from each bag (in the interests of fairness). :rotfl: