I will cut my coat according to my cloth. {Edited by Forum team} 2019

pollyanna_26

Savvy_sewing wrote: »

Highways painted a white line across the front of mine and the neighbours either side, which is supposed to mean no parking.
It's frustrating, especially when you have disabled and or children in the car. (Or shopping!)

I was just looking randomly on Facebook and saw a post about Argos recalling stairgates. We have 3 of them. It says to stop using them and to return them immediately. I am surprised that they didn't contact me as I have an Argos account/credit card, so they must have been able to trace them on such purchases.
So tomorrow I will have to visit Argos! I can't carry three at once. This is going to be quiet a hassle.
And now I need three more gates asap

I can never understant why recalled goods can't be collected from the buyer and if a suitable replacement is available that can't be delivered. It's not the buyers fault something is withdrawn.


I and other residents have a white line outside Ss. Reading the posts here we seem to have a very proactive council as they do act on complaints. I can only imagine it depends on local council policy.


I think stepping up advertising the shop makes is a very good plan and should relieve some of the stress as they're already done.


Hope the cough eases soon hb2. My recent sleepless nights have been dur to a hacking bronchitis cough. The only relief I found was piling up pillows but the problem with that was it impacted both the arthritis and fibro and my neck, shoulders and back were agony.


Sue I know you'll always be climbing mountains but I hope you can get some respite from trying to keep all the balls in the air.
pollyx

Savvy_sewing

Time to get small children into bed (again), and then get cosy in my pjs and dressing gown, make a cuppa and curl up with my diary and start to sketch out December!

I can do this. Be the first Christmas home in 4 years.

hb2

Ss, sorry to hear that you are going to have yet more hassle, this time due to the babygate affair.

Polly, I'm sorry you are unwell (((hugs))). I empathise with your issue of needing to sit up but that causing other problems I have found my recliner chair the best place to balance the conflicting demands of cough and back. Mind you, I managed to stay in my own bed, asleep, all of last night and feel better for it

Sue, you are another person who is stretching the elastic band very thin by the sound of it (((hugs)) to you too.

SingleSue

Hb2 - I'm known for it!

I have had to make the hard decision that if things do not go well with brother and sister in law, I will not be able to take my niece on on a permanent basis. Physically I can no longer do it as I am more or less wheelchair bound these days (and some days bed bound), educationally, behaviourally and emotionally I can still play a part but my get up and go has quite literally, gone and that wouldn't be fair on her, I would not be able to give her the full life she deserves.

When she was placed with me it was as an emergency thing (police at the door scenario) and my disabilities could be overlooked in the short term but it is just not viable long term. They still want me to play my part though as I am seen as a steadying, responsible influence.

Savvy_sewing

SingleSue wrote: »

Hb2 - I'm known for it!

I have had to make the hard decision that if things do not go well with brother and sister in law, I will not be able to take my niece on on a permanent basis. Physically I can no longer do it as I am more or less wheelchair bound these days (and some days bed bound), educationally, behaviourally and emotionally I can still play a part but my get up and go has quite literally, gone and that wouldn't be fair on her, I would not be able to give her the full life she deserves.

When she was placed with me it was as an emergency thing (police at the door scenario) and my disabilities could be overlooked in the short term but it is just not viable long term. They still want me to play my part though as I am seen as a steadying, responsible influence.

Sue, it is such an emotional pull, but you are right, it will be difficult or neigh on impossible for you to do it long term. Although I have passed and jumped through their hoops, I still um and ha about the future and I am relatively fit these days. When Twin2 s children were this age, I was too ill to take them on. We know that they are loved and looked after, now they have been adopted, but reading the letters the family is facing a lot of issues. Something that I may have to go through with this branch of the family.

I hope her parents are sorted out asap. If only my son had seen the wood for the trees years ago these children could have had a better start in life.

Savvy_sewing

I seem to be much more relaxed than of late. Things go up and down but the pressure of the assessments are now over ( except going to panel), which has helped me sleep etc.
The funding is regular now, so that stress is also lifted.
Mum is getting stronger and more positive so that is also a bonus.
Dgd has gone to school and come home on her own the last two days.
DS has had to wear a surgical glove over his burns but has managed to go to work.
This afternoon I have a wedding dress fitting, and then Dgd and I are going shopping for the gloves and scarves needed for the winter.
Tomorrow we're going to watch the Adams Family at the Cinema in the afternoon. Our time away from the house.

hb2

Sue, it must be terribly hard to see such a need within your family and be unable to help However, you would be doing your niece no favours if you were to take her and be unable to cope. I'm sure she will benefit, in many ways, from having you still in her life though.

Ss, I'm glad that things are starting to come together for you, I am hoping there is nothing waiting in the wings to upset your equilibrium again!

pollyanna_26

Savvy_sewing wrote: »

I seem to be much more relaxed than of late. Things go up and down but the pressure of the assessments are now over ( except going to panel), which has helped me sleep etc.
The funding is regular now, so that stress is also lifted.
Mum is getting stronger and more positive so that is also a bonus.
Dgd has gone to school and come home on her own the last two days.
DS has had to wear a surgical glove over his burns but has managed to go to work.
This afternoon I have a wedding dress fitting, and then Dgd and I are going shopping for the gloves and scarves needed for the winter.
Tomorrow we're going to watch the Adams Family at the Cinema in the afternoon. Our time away from the house.

Such a positive post full of real progress. I hope you and dgd enjoy the film tomorrow and some time just for you two. I know it's not long since the Happy pill was changed but perhaps apart from other stressful issues being sorted it may be more suitable than the previous one.


Sue A steadying, responsable influence with educational, behavoural, and emotional support is more than many children will know in life.You obviously love her a great deal too. Let's hope mum and dad sort themselves out and between you all your niece will have a full and happy life.
Take care of youx


Good to hear you're feeling a lot better hb2. I slept better last night. I'm glad dd and I pushed on through Wednesday to do everything we would normally do over Wednesday and Friday. No way could we have done anything yesterday.
Your recliner sounds useful. I've tried a few while out and about but have a feeling I'd never leave it once I got one! I'd be posting from the recliner while everything went to pot around me.


It doesn't seem like almost a year since Ss and I were debating whether it was worth her getting the tree out of the loft.


I hope you have fun with the cookie cutters Ss. Apart from cookies dd and I made lovely stars and hearts from Fimo to hang on narrow red and white ribbon in the smaller window. Of course there are cheaper options than Fimo in the shops now.
pollyx


ETA That should have read snowflakes and hearts. Brain fog!

Savvy_sewing

We didn't go out in the afternoon in the end, Dgd wanted to watch TV and just hunger down with me down stairs. Fine by me as it was a horrible weather.
The stool we ordered for my Mum has arrived so on the way back from the Cinema I am going to drop in on Mum and see if I can assemble it. If I cannot then I will ask Biggest's hubby to.

I don't have a fireplace here, so I have ordered a bunk picture of one, as part of the Christmas fun.
I am going to put it on the old chimney breast that is still here.
I am thinking of adding a shelf as a mantle that would be handy on that wall anyway, as the folding table is usually up against it, and a few ornaments wouldn't go amiss there as they are currently on the bookshelf.
(Along with anything that small people can't have!)
I will definitely be getting the tree down from the loft this year, and also see if I can find the advent bunting to put up. I think my tree decorations are fine, but most others are probably past it. They were Mum and Dad's originally.
I can't remember when I bought anything in the decorations department except baubles when I went to Prague and that must have been before Dgd was born. So I have decided that next weekend I will be up in the loft taking a good look at what I have and haven't got. The decorations may be up a bit earlier than Christmas Eve. It seems that most of the people I know are decorating at the beginning of December? Eek.
My friend round the corner has already brought and wrapped all her presents.
I feel rather inadequate. I have drawn up a list of who and what I have or possible ideas in the back of my diary.
I have a box of items handmade for the shop last year, so I am going to dig them out, see if I want anything for us, and then put the rest back up for sale on Facebook.

Time to find the fun and enjoy the build up ( well I can try!)

hb2

I always enjoy the build-up to Christmas, more than the day itself now that my son has grown up. We moved to this flat in April 2017 and I had given my Christmas tree away before we came. Decided we would see what we wanted in the new place when we got here. I didn't bother with a tree at all the first year (Mum died in the November) but bought a ready-lit fibre optic one last year. We will be away for Christmas itself but I'm sure my young (well, she's 28, so that is young to me!) cat-sitter will appreciate having something festive, so I will get the tree out and use minimal decorations on it. We don't decorate the place other than the tree, although OH used to go to down when son was small.

These days I have few pressies to get, but that tends to lull me into a false sense if security! When we bought for everyone (OH is one of seven), and did stockings for us three + Mum, I used to get started early.