I will cut my coat according to my cloth. {Edited by Forum team} 2019

thorsoak

Oh Mooloo - my heart breaks for you - but you have done the most loving, most caring thing for your family that you can do. You are giving these two little boys a chance to have a good life with parents who will be young enough to wrangle them around in a manner which you, because of your age, would find extremely hard. And at the same time, you are giving DGD your time, time in which she will blossom - and not make the same mistakes that her aunt and uncle have made.

Your son has had every opportunity - and sadly has proved inadequate - you cannot be held responsible for the choices he has made - only he is. You will still be able to give your mum the time that she needs - time which will sadly be running out - but you will be able to spend valuable time with her.

And you - you can breathe, you may be able to fulfil your dreams - or amend them - but you can be you.

We are all behind you in applauding your courage in this step. xxxx

jackieblack

Thorsoak has said everything I was thinking, but so much more eloquently than I could.

Savvy_sewing

I am hurting but I know it's the right thing to do.

I am waiting for the social to respond when they get my message.
I am sure my Son is not going to be happy with me.
ANd I will have to live with that.
Baby is on melt down number two got ta go

beanielou

Mooloo~~ Have you thought about what you will do if SS’s come back & offer you everything that you need?
Highly unlikely I know.

Tescodealqueen

Mooloo, I have just caught up with what has been going on. You have given it your best shot but I think you were placed in an impossible position. I think the decision you have made will prove to be the best thing though I know it won't feel like it now or for some time to come. Thinking of you all . Be strong as I feel that pressure will be put on you to change your mind xxxxxx

BrassicWoman

Let's see what they come back with. You live in fluid and somewhat chaotic times. I have a feeling this is not done with yet.

ivyleaf

Mooloo that is a very brave decision and I know it must be horribly painful, but i agree with other posters that it is the right one in the circumstances xx

hb2

Mooloo, when you look back at this decision, please remember that you did not let the little ones down. The system that is supposed to offer support let everyone down

Whilst you have thought about what is best for you, you certainly have not been selfish. You have come a decision that feels right for everyone concerned and put the needs of the little ones above your natural desire to care for them yourself.

Please be gentle with yourself, you are a special person in your own right, not just as a mother, grandmother, daughter etc.

beanielou

hb2 wrote: »

Mooloo, when you look back at this decision, please remember that you did not let the little ones down. The system that is supposed to offer support let everyone down

Whilst you have thought about what is best for you, you certainly have not been selfish. You have come a decision that feels right for everyone concerned and put the needs of the little ones above your natural desire to care for them yourself.

Please be gentle with yourself, you are a special person in your own right, not just as a mother, grandmother, daughter etc.

This. Oh this.

NeilCr

beanielou wrote: »

Mooloo~~ Have you thought about what you will do if SS’s come back & offer you everything that you need?
Highly unlikely I know.

To be honest I think Mooloo has to stick with the decision.

She talked to a lot of important people in her life and has come to a conclusion. At least partly this was based on the age factor which isn't going to alter whatever SS come up with. I presume this has been communicated to DGD and you can't keep throwing change at kids. Given the level of distrust with SS even if this started again I can't see how anyone could feel settled.