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Does my ex need to know where I live when I have my daughter?

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  • pickledonionspaceraiderpickledonionspaceraider Forumite
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    cjdavies wrote: »
    Denying a child to see their Father and using child as a weapon is much worse.

    If all he need to do is provide his address - considering no real factual evidence that this ex is a psycho?

    He is using his address is a weapon. and then feigning victim
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    elsienelsien Forumite
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    edited 6 October 2018 at 4:57PM
    No he isn't.
    He's saying that while the child is in his care, he is the responsible parent and it's up to him where they are and where they go. He doesn't need permission or consent from the other parent for that.
    It's all a big tit for tat, which is silly. But if it's due to concern about the other parent wanting more say over what happens when the child is with him, I can see why he'd want to draw a line at some point. Although I think he's picked the wrong way of doing it.
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  • badmemorybadmemory Forumite
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    Her changing her mind about his access, when she had no address for him, did not just come out of the blue, & was not an act of vindictiveness. It happened because the child was injured on his watch & he didn't do her the courtesy of telling her about it.


    This is not a controlling act, this is the act of a mother who is worried about her child.
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    But he isn't a responsible parent. The child got hurt whilst in his care and he didn't tell the other parent about it. If the child had taken ill , the doctors wouldn't have had a full account of the child's health as the mother didn't know . If a school or nursery did this , parents would rightly be up in arms about it. Absolutely irresponsible behaviour .
    elsien wrote: »
    No he isn't.
    He's saying that while the child is in his care, he is the responsible parent and it's up to him where they are and where they go. He doesn't need permission or consent from the other parent for that.
    It's all a big tit for tat, which is silly. But if it's due to concern about the other parent wanting more say over what happens when the child is with him, I can see why he'd want to draw a line at some point. Although I think he's picked the wrong way of doing it.
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    duchy wrote: »
    But he isn't a responsible parent. The child got hurt whilst in his care.

    That means that no parent is responsible as children get hurt all the time?
  • badmemorybadmemory Forumite
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    It isn't that the child got hurt, of course children get hurt all the time, it's in their job description, it is that he didn't tell her.
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    badmemory wrote: »
    It isn't that the child got hurt, of course children get hurt all the time, it's in their job description, it is that he didn't tell her.

    Like when she didn't say she introduced a new bloke to the child's life? :naughty:
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    Tell her or go to court. What else is there?


    That said the child probably will in the near future anyway. Unless you are going to tell her not to tell mummy where you live.


    Out of interest. She moves, wont tell you where and you have to pick them up and drop off outside Asda, that ok?
  • Its reasonable for a parent to know WHERE their child is at any time
    Although its also reasonable for a child to see both parents irrespective of their own differences
    edmond wrote: »
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    As her biological father do I need to give my ex the address.
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    badmemory wrote: »
    It isn't that the child got hurt, of course children get hurt all the time, it's in their job description, it is that he didn't tell her.

    And as stated I admit this was a mistake on my behalf. Doesn’t make me irresponsible parent.

    Similar to when I collect my daughter and there are grazes on her knee from where she has fallen over. I don’t expect to be to be told of an accident. These things are her age happen.
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