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Does my ex need to know where I live when I have my daughter?
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My situation is slightly different, as in my case it’s about my ex wanting some kind of control over me, trying to manipulate situations. This was a constant in our relationship, controlling mind games. It got to a point where I had become a different person. Like a lot of people you only realise how bad things were once your out of it.
Honestly... to get down to the bones of it.... I am still struggling to understand any real reason you don't want your ex to know where you are living?
I know a great deal about Bipolar, you couldn't be more wrong, sadly - although I wish you were correct in your assumption
People with Bipolar go through a life time of discrimination, from every perceivable angle
Bipolar does not make you any less trustworthy
What is the real reason you won't give the mother the address? Do you fear she will turn up unannounced starting trouble? Has she been violent?
It just does not match up with the fact you are happy for your daughter to live with someone you say you don't trust. You will give her your daughter, but not your address..
What is the real reason? What has gone on before? What are you scared will happen?
Not very safe, kids should be able to tell someone their parent's address and phone number in case of an emergency, shouldn't they?
How many realationships where children are involved end where trust is lost or betrayed. Although you no longer have any trust in that person you hope they can be trusted with the welfare of a child.
In my case my ex has very erratic behaviour towards me, it’s all fine for a few months then there is a trigger and for a few weeks / months she will not allow me to see my daughter. This is the 3rd time this has happened in 18 months.
For her it’s all about control.
It’s a form or mental bullying / control and sooner or later it has to stop.
For me it’s to protect my current situation. And my two eldest children who do not need to be exposed to such a person.
This has all deviated from the original question of legally having to inform my ex of my address not personal opinions.
Fair enough, you don't like her anymore, but there are no real reasons here for not telling her your address.
It seems you have two choices
1- Give the address and continue the relationship with your daughter
2- Don't give the address, ....and lose the relationship with your daughter. Eventually drag it through the courts and maybe a long time into the future, reunite with your stranger daughter
Unfortunately your EX is going to be in your life for a long time to come. As you know yourself having older kids...You need to find a way to make it work...but IMO any attempt at keeping the address secret is going to be short lived and barely worth the dramatics
See latter part of above post.
It really doesn’t matter what I respond with. If I elaborate more I will be accused of BS or just morning. I only wanted to understand from a legal standpoint where I stand.
You need really GOOD reasons and yours are not exactly convincing.
To be honest, you sound more like the one playing control games from the story so far.
Whether you legally have to disclose shouldn't come into it really.