Huge wedding problem :(

POPPYOSCAR

leighavfc wrote: »

Thank you.

See the more i think the more i agree. Without going into detail i cant stress how much my pal has done for me, almost to the stage where he is more like family to me than some of my own family. I really am in a tough place at the minute with this.

Then he should understand when you put your partner first.

I know someone who invited a friend and said she could bring either her husband or her son. They were very put out when the invitation was declined.

Yes a couple can invite who they like as long as they are understanding if the invitation is declined.

POPPYOSCAR

leighavfc wrote: »

No his brother is best man to be fair!

No i totally agree its their wedding, and it is what it is. The last time they spoke it was sorted so to speak.. then this happens. I just feel so sorry for my partner as people like my brothers GF have never met the bride. I think this is the hardest part for her and she just does not get why things were ok and now she has not been invited after thinking things were not gret but at least ok.

I get the distinct impression then the bride is just being spiteful.

How about you just going to see them married and then going home and taking your partner out for a nice meal?

leighavfc

in_my_wellies wrote: »

I would just go to the evening do with your partner

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Then he should understand when you put your partner first.

I know someone who invited a friend and said she could bring either her husband or her son. They were very put out when the invitation was declined.

Yes a couple can invite who they like as long as they are understanding if the invitation is declined.

Again agree! Hmmmmm im stumped... going to be a rather long 48 hours i guess. I am tempted to go to the wedding for my mates sake and then come home before reception if she doesnt want to go. I dont know!!

leighavfc

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I get the distinct impression then the bride is just being spiteful.

How about you just going to see them married and then going home and taking your partner out for a nice meal?

Yes it is the bride being spiteful and this is what she has been like all the way through tbh. Not even being reasonable when my OH tried originally to diffuse it all. Shame really we had a lovely relationship between the 4 of us. Things happen for a reason im guessing.

Yeah i think the ceremony and then home maybe the best way. I can show my face but then also show thay im not happy either to the bride. Im apparently the only friend of the groom she genuinely likes, so maybe doing this will give her a clear message.

POPPYOSCAR

leighavfc wrote: »

Again agree! Hmmmmm im stumped... going to be a rather long 48 hours i guess. I am tempted to go to the wedding for my mates sake and then come home before reception if she doesnt want to go. I dont know!!

I think that is a good compromise and shows you are supporting your partner at the same time.

Afterall, surely the most important part is the ceremony itself. and not the reception.

leighavfc

Right going to attempt some sleep...work in 5 hours!! i will keep posting over weekend to update you all. Thanks for the replys so far, nice knowing people listen to me and offering their thoughts.

Tabbytabitha

leighavfc wrote: »

Yes it is the bride being spiteful and this is what she has been like all the way through tbh. Not even being reasonable when my OH tried originally to diffuse it all. Shame really we had a lovely relationship between the 4 of us. Things happen for a reason im guessing.

Yeah i think the ceremony and then home maybe the best way. I can show my face but then also show thay im not happy either to the bride. Im apparently the only friend of the groom she genuinely likes, so maybe doing this will give her a clear message.

Why would you expect someone she doesn't "genuinely like" to be invited to her wedding?

GDB2222

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

Why would you expect someone she doesn't "genuinely like" to be invited to her wedding?

Manners? Politeness? And a wish not to cause upset to another human being.

jackieblack

If you're not going to turn up to the reception, having previously said you'll go, you should at least let the couple know. They've almost certainly had to give their final numbers to the venue and will be charged for your meal now regardless of whether you turn up or not.

Frankly, if you've said you'll go, I think you should go. You knew your partner wasn't invited when you accepted the invitation.

If the venue only has the capacity for 36 people, I can completely understand why the couple has carefully chosen who they invite, and who they just can't accommodate, even for the sake of manners/ politeness, as inviting your partner may well have meant not being able to invite someone else they are closer to.

Spendless

I know it's the early hours, but I'm confused. Who is Jess? I'm guessing that she's your brother's girlfriend?

Why was your partner under the impression that Jess would only get an evening invite too, when the reason behind your gf only getting one seems to be her fall out with the bride?

I think I'd have just accepted the evening do invite only for the pair of you.