Caught up in a fight over money

Tabbytabitha

It would've been nice if she'd repaid it as the same monetary value as today but nothing more was really needed.

[Deleted User]

She sounds like a genuine lovely lady who has had a bit of luck after difficult times. She could have kept quiet about her windfall and not paid a bean back but she hasn't and it would probably hurt her to think that people close to her are [EMAIL="b@tching"]b@tching[/EMAIL] behind her back.


My advice, be grateful she has returned the money borrowed and sent little notes of thanks and personally I wouldn't begrudge her any profit she has made.


The only codicil to this would be if she profited by millions in which case she could have been more generous

Primrose

I think moral or actual debt (not that anybody regarded it as a debt apparently until profit suddenly and expectedly entered into the equation) has been more than honourably discharged.

Isn't it amazing that some people always have an over developed sense of entitlement to other people's good fortune, especially where money is concerned?

It was perhaps tactless of Aunt Aida to have mentioned the profit involved but she was the one who worked hard to rebuild her life and not be a continuing burden on the family after your collective initial generosity. Some families have relatives who "bleed" their relatives for all they can get out of them over a lifetime! She has not done this and has remembered with gratitude your earlier support. She may not know that other family members are now perhaps struggling a little financially.

She has behaved honourably according to her own code and would doubtless be bitterly upset to see those who helped her initially now regarding her as a potential "cash cow". Although she has now sold her caravan this probably went for very little money compared with the equity she might have built up had she been living in a "bricks and mortar"property.

The debt has been honourably repaid. Write your aunt a very sweet note thanking her for her lovely gesture, wishing her every happiness in the future and isolate yourself from your other relatives in their reactions.

Oh.....and take the lesson on board thst this is possibly how they might react to YOU in the future if ever similar circumstances arise !

Elinore

BBH123 wrote: »

The only codicil to this would be if she profited by millions in which case she could have been more generous

She gained £75K approx after repaying everyone. she added about 5% to the cheque.

To be fair no one is being mean about or to her - The 20 percenters just feel it's rather unjust. There is no one more passionate and focused than someone that thinks they are due money.

I categorically stated they can do as they wish but i will NOT be asking for anything further.

Tabbytabitha

Elinore wrote: »

She gained £75K approx after repaying everyone. she added about 5% to the cheque.

To be fair no one is being mean about or to her - The 20 percenters just feel it's rather unjust. There is no one more passionate and focused than someone that thinks they are due money.

I categorically stated they can do as they wish but i will NOT be asking for anything further.

That's fair enough.

-taff

SO they gifted her some money, got it back with added interest, but they want more?
They sound lovely [yes, that was sarcasm]
More power to you [that was not]

Red-Squirrel_2

Elinore wrote: »

She gained £75K approx after repaying everyone. she added about 5% to the cheque.

To be fair no one is being mean about or to her - The 20 percenters just feel it's rather unjust. There is no one more passionate and focused than someone that thinks they are due money.

I categorically stated they can do as they wish but i will NOT be asking for anything further.

5% is not a bad interest rate, but its not brilliant either.

That said, they didn't go into it as an investment so had no reason to expect a good return at all!

McKneff

You all gave her a gift so the statement 'wrote it off'
Does not apply.
That term implies it was a loan, it wasnt.
Move on

Emmel

Who paid for all the works done to the caravan? Did she ask you and the 20% help finance this?

Its perhaps been valued at a good price due to plot and the condition she has kept it in too. Being honest, I would have been overjoyed to have the money I had written off, she obviously didnt think it would be an issue, thats why she has been honest and told yoh

BrassicWoman

You are only caught up in this if ou choose to be. Ignoring and changing the subject are great options.