Caught up in a fight over money

LilElvis

Elinore wrote: »

Being fair i doubt they have a 'coming' 'not coming' 'cold shoulder' set of lists

As such I will have been punted into the not coming list, hence the generic catch all card.

My cousin did say they have respectfully requested no vouchers unless its for the store the registry is at- and prior to this request being passed around the family she'd sent them some short dated house of fraser ones (also £50 also regifted lol).... between hers and mine i think we will have irritated them a little.

:rotfl:

The House of Fraser ones should be fun! There's no online store at the moment and the physical stores aren't accepting the gift cards. Heard on the radio earlier in the week that you have to send your gift card in and then they will give you a refund. That should give the happy couple something to do on their honeymoon

Elinore

I know, hence their imagined irritation. I have some house of fraser gift vouchers. I wish i had thought of it

ska_lover

I think you have been more than generous under the circumstances OP

Out,_Vile_Jelly

A friend of mine who doesn't get on with a very greedy and materialistic relative always sends them Oxfam goats/wells for Christmas. So technically it's a gift, but not one that benefits them personally.

Let's hope Aida enjoys the wedding and OP has a relaxing weekend doing something else!

Elinore

Argh.

Voicemail from Aida. I had totally forgotten that i promised to bring up the blanket i bought on her behalf while in Africa.

She left a lovely breezy message that she was looking forward to seeing me and not to forget the blanket!

Option one - keep out of the drama and just call after the wedding

Option two - bend the truth but keep out of the drama and say i wasn't able to make the wedding, something came up (being dis invited is what came up)

Option three - wade in hip deep tell all and hurt her feelings, upset everyone at the wedding when it comes out and drama drama everywhere!

badmemory

option 2 - option 3 would really upset her because she would feel she had caused something which was not her intention & option 1 would have her wondering why you hadn't said anything about not going & may cause her to ask questions at the wedding which again would upset her.

happyandcontented

Yes, I agree, option 2.

warby68

I don't think I could let someone I'm fond of walk in unawares to this wedding.

Although she may be hurt to know what they think, the fact that you as the 80% person are more than happy with her repayment should help her to keep perspective. I'm sure she knows what the various people are like anyway. They disinvited you after all which is pretty awful. Perhaps they want you out of the way to ambush her.

Elinore

Phew - I got her answerphone. (yeah yeah, total chicken)

Left a message saying i couldn't make it and I will post the blanket first thing, then realised i dont have her new address, but I will work something out.

Because Aida is universally respected there is this powerful unwritten rule that shes just not dragged into family shenanigans, it just doesn't happen. Its like the first rule of family fight club - we don't talk to Aida about family fight club (a position i have coveted for years and would love to know how she made it so)

I am hoping years of conditioning will hold true and they wont want to break the peace for what amounts to...... Oh heck - I thought it was a few quid but on doing the maths i think the 20% think they are due £15K between them.

Well, we will see as the gig is today.

annandale

They aren’t due that money. Surely it’s time to let all this go.