Money Moral Dilemma: Should I make my grown-up daughter pay to live at home?

MSE_Sarah

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Our 30-year-old daughter recently moved back in with us, after her relationship ended. She'd been living with her boyfriend and splitting the cost of rent. I've said that it's only right she contributes towards extra expenses we incur, eg, utilities and food. What do you think... and how much?

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hasn't this topic been done to death already ?

Iva_Hugh_Jarce

here we go again

Mojisola

MSE_Sarah wrote: »

Our 30-year-old daughter recently moved back in with us, after her relationship ended. She'd been living with her boyfriend and splitting the cost of rent. I've said that it's only right she contributes towards extra expenses we incur, eg, utilities and food. What do you think... and how much?

Isn't that the sort of thing you'd talk through and agree about before she moved back in?

Pollycat

How can anyone say 'how much' is reasonable without knowing how much the daughter earns and what the increase in utilities and food is?

NBLondon

Actually - I'm going to go out on a limb here and say you should be pleased that she wants to come back home and be giving her £100 a week pocket money to stay with you

Marvel1

You shouldn't have to ask, she should automatically do it.

pollypenny

How many more threads on adult children contributing to the household budget can there be? :cool:

silvercar

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userererer

You should cut her some slack. I can't imagine anything worse than living at home with the parents and being single all while going into your 30s. Something has clearly gone wrong with her life so she needs the support to get herself back on track. This is usually tougher for women as they are the more sensible ones (usually!) who often have their lives together at this stage of their lives. Of course everyone is different so I'm not trying to pass comment.

Choosing not to add to her financial obligations may allow her to move out sooner.

Plus, the sooner she can be out of your hair the better! Because no-one wants a failure of a child hanging around their neck like a millstone! :rotfl:

sheepy21

I'd say say £100 a week, if you provide all food, cook, clean and to cover utilities etc if she's on a good wage. If she's autonomous and not using facilities so much or having food, then £50 a week. There again, also dependent on her income