taking responsibilty to get me where I want to be

efes_shareholder

ok , feedback the 2nd viewer is considering making an offer , I'm anticipating it being a low one if it comes as she put a figure on the work required but it will @ least be something to work with.

one thing I've learnt is she doesnt do anything quickly , its taken 2 - 3 weeks to get the 2nd viewing in place.

There are 2 more viewings tomorrow , I'd like the 2nd viewer to offer as she is sold to a FTB and using cash to finance , fingers crossed.

I need to move a mammouth amount of money to my solicitor , nervous times but needs to be done to progress and a step in the right directions.

No spend day yesterday , should be the same today - every penny counting at the moment 

Humdinger1

@efes_shareholder things are moving, albeit slowly!  I always look forward to your updates and am standing by for the next one love Humdinger xx 

efes_shareholder

still nothing from 2nd viewer who was anticipating an offer. beginning to think a complete waste of time..
one potential interest from the weekends visit  , seems people arent expecting to get houses with much of a reduction.

Very much considering an offers in excess of listing.

everything in the world worries me right now , from health , to cost of living , to relationships.............everything 

efes_shareholder

So NM and I had our first proper disagreement or should I say I kopped the massive hump with him.

I can't decide if I'm being petty and over sensitive but circumstances have definately triggered me. He has lots of friends , lots of them , both genders however there are 2 females that I know he has been friends with well before my time who do not acknowledge me in any way if we are out at the same event but will run over to talk to him the minute I leave his side. I don't like that , its rude although its also completely out of his control. What is within his control is choosing to have phone chats with them and not being honest about it and thats where my problem lies.
I ended up bringing it up after a bottle of wine , not my best move and I ended up getting up and sleeping on the sofa as I wouldnt let it drop.

I've apologised for not dealing with things the right way but I won't apologise for being upset about the situation , Is it to much to expect an honest answer to an honest question , I may not like the answer but at least I'll be dealing with the truth 

Anyway it just amplifies how I am not dealing with anything the right way at the moment , everything just feels overwhelming and when I'm overwhelmed I can be difficult and destructive.

The money for the house from my PB has hit my account and I don't want to transfer it , I feel like I'm stalling and I dont know why 

The only light amusement at the moment was my work friend seeing me in a shop buying a cucumber and bubble bath - it wasnt a good look 

Seasidegal58

I've caught up with your diary after a few months and am sending belated condolences on the passing of your mum. I've always thought what a wonderful daughter you were in looking after her so well in what was sometimes very trying and difficult circumstances. 

Reading about the two female friends of your OH, I think I too would not be happy with the 'not so honest' phone chats. Do you think he doesn't tell you because he thinks you'll get upset about the calls so in a rather typically male way he goes for an easy life in not mentioning it?  Of course then you find out and it all blows up and it makes things worse. With regard to the two women ignoring you, I think he could back you up somewhat in tackling them nicely and asking them what their problem is with you. After all, you are his partner and as you say they are being incredibly rude in the way they treat you. I doubt if they'd be happy if the boot was on the other foot!

Enjoy your bubble bath! 

efes_shareholder

Seasidegal58 said:

I've caught up with your diary after a few months and am sending belated condolences on the passing of your mum. I've always thought what a wonderful daughter you were in looking after her so well in what was sometimes very trying and difficult circumstances. 

Reading about the two female friends of your OH, I think I too would not be happy with the 'not so honest' phone chats. Do you think he doesn't tell you because he thinks you'll get upset about the calls so in a rather typically male way he goes for an easy life in not mentioning it?  Of course then you find out and it all blows up and it makes things worse. With regard to the two women ignoring you, I think he could back you up somewhat in tackling them nicely and asking them what their problem is with you. After all, you are his partner and as you say they are being incredibly rude in the way they treat you. I doubt if they'd be happy if the boot was on the other foot!

Enjoy your bubble bath! 

Thank you for your kindness

he 100 per cent doesnt tell me as he knows I don't like them , the thing is I'm done with them now and even if they made the effort to even just acknowledge me now I'm not up for being friendly with them 

Seasidegal58

I do see your point......

efes_shareholder

Seasidegal58 said:

I do see your point......

Believe me I do not want to be that person who dictates who their partner can and can't be friends with however I'm not happy that he is comfortable allowing them to just completely ignore me and I'm not happy that he keeps the "calls" a secret.

He said himself he wouldnt be happy if it was the other way round , right now though i dont see how we fix this.

WinterWarrior

It sounds like he enjoys the attention and being in the middle of it. The correct response would be to tell them they can’t ignore you as you are part of his life 🤔 You don’t need, or want to be best friends with them, just a little politeness would do. 

efes_shareholder

WinterWarrior said:

It sounds like he enjoys the attention and being in the middle of it. The correct response would be to tell them they can’t ignore you as you are part of his life 🤔 You don’t need, or want to be best friends with them, just a little politeness would do. 

good advice but they have triggered me so much I don't think I can be polite back !!