previous owner harrassment

katie4

Hi, sorry for the long post!


we bought our house 5 years ago and the day we moved in the previous owner from 15 years ago! turned up and at first seemed like a nice chap telling us what he had done in the house etc etc
but he keeps coming back, he spoke to my husband, he has never spoken to me, its always been my husband or other family members who have been visiting


anyway he was asking my husband if he could come back with his ipad to show us photos of what the house used to look like and was trying to invite himself in my husband respectfully refused, at one point he asked if we had found anything up the attic as he had hidden something for future generations to find


since then we have seen him drive past and just recently he stopped when he sae my father in law taking the old fire out of the house to take to the tip, and hee stopped and said that he had put that fire in


anyway i wake up this morning and he has somehow found out that i own the house and has found me on facebook and sent me a message basically saying he live there for 15 years he built the extension put in all the fitted wardrobes etc etc etc and he'd love to tell us about the history of the house


i havent replied as of yet. any advice on what i should do? as its bordering on harrassment now i feel. i understand he is enthusiastic about the work he did on the house but most of that we have ripped out now anyway


is he just being over friendly, should i ignore him or ask him to stop?

buggy_boy

Maybe he is lonely? Its kind of a difficult situation, if it were me I would let him tell me (Even if was not that interested) in the hope that it would get it out his system, it obviously means a lot to him... But after that if he continues put a stop to it.

davidmcn

It's not really harassment if you've been polite and friendly in response - how would he know the attention isn't wanted?

katie4

buggy_boy wrote: »

Maybe he is lonely? Its kind of a difficult situation, if it were me I would let him tell me (Even if was not that interested) in the hope that it would get it out his system, it obviously means a lot to him... But after that if he continues put a stop to it.

No he has a wife and kids so wouldn't think he's lonely
My husband has told him before we're not interested he just seems to have a great attachment to the house and I don't think he realises he's harassing us and our family members every time he sees anyone outside the house he has to stop and come right up to us

katie4

davidmcn wrote: »

It's not really harassment if you've been polite and friendly in response - how would he know the attention isn't wanted?

my husband has told him we're not interested but he still approaches anyone he sees outside our home in the hope that they will let him in

davidmcn

katie4 wrote: »

my husband has told him we're not interested but he still approaches anyone he sees outside our home in the hope that they will let him in

Then tell him to eff off. And if he persists, then it's harassment.

ScorpiondeRooftrouser

I would have a look in the attic for a dead body if I were you.

Tink_x

I!!!8217;d tell him he!!!8217;s making you feel uncomfortable and to please just stop.

LandyAndy

Do you know where he lives?

Take some pics of how your house is now and go round and offer to show them to him.

Mojisola

katie4 wrote: »

we bought our house 5 years ago and the day we moved in the previous owner from 15 years ago! turned up and at first seemed like a nice chap telling us what he had done in the house etc etc but he keeps coming back, he spoke to my husband, he has never spoken to me, its always been my husband or other family members who have been visiting

since then we have seen him drive past and just recently he stopped when he sae my father in law taking the old fire out of the house to take to the tip, and hee stopped and said that he had put that fire in

anyway i wake up this morning and he has somehow found out that i own the house and has found me on facebook and sent me a message

i havent replied as of yet. any advice on what i should do? as its bordering on harrassment now i feel.

You've been very polite, putting up with this for five years!

He's got serious attachment issues with the house if he hasn't lived there for twenty years and is still obsessed by it.

I wouldn't accept his message on FB and I would start being very firm if he turns up.

Aylesbury_Duck

How odd. If you've ruled out any mental health issues then I would start to be suspicious that there's something there he wants to access, or is trying to discover if you have discovered. I can't see any other reason why he would be continually trying to get access to the house. This goes way beyond curiosity about what a new owner may have changed.

Next time he contacts you, perhaps ask him outright: "You seem very insistent on viewing the house. Is there a particular reason?"