previous owner harrassment

katie4

Cakeguts wrote: »

So actually we don't even know if he ever lived in that house or not? He says he did but there doesn't seem to be any actual proof he did.

There are actually photos on his facebook of him stood in the house and garden from when he lived there

moneyistooshorttomention

katie4 wrote: »

No neighbours left from when he was here sadly

But present-day neighbours could say whether he's been coming round and bothering previous owner of your house or no presumably?

KxMx

Don't reply on Facebook, screenshot the message then block him.

If you are like me then being rude is simply something you don't do, unfortunately some people/situations only respond to rudeness.

Cakeguts

katie4 wrote: »

There are actually photos on his facebook of him stood in the house and garden from when he lived there

When he says he lived there. He has tried to get into the house when you live there. There is no evidence that any photos he has are actually from him living there.

Also who has photos on any site of yourself from 15 years ago? Aren't there any more up to date ones of him in his current house? Unless he has been a member of facebook for 15 years it sounds as if he is uploading old photos of himself? Who does that? Especially if they are of you in a house that you don't live in any more.

Smodlet

Cakeguts wrote: »

When he says he lived there. He has tried to get into the house when you live there. There is no evidence that any photos he has are actually from him living there.

Also who has photos on any site of yourself from 15 years ago? Aren't there any more up to date ones of him in his current house? Unless he has been a member of facebook for 15 years it sounds as if he is uploading old photos of himself? Who does that? Especially if they are of you in a house that you don't live in any more.

Only a complete saddo. I do realise that was a rhetorical question,
Cakeguts.

I would be hearing alarm bells and start compiling evidence (both video and audio) without which no-one will do anything these days, with a view to taking out an injunction on this creep.

hazyjo

katie4 wrote: »

There are actually photos on his facebook of him stood in the house and garden from when he lived there

Cakeguts wrote: »

There is no evidence that any photos he has are actually from him living there.

Was going to say the same. They could be from when he was telling the people before you with the same story.


He may never had had any connection to the house at all!


I've always found the way to deal with 'strange behaviour' is to tell someone they're close to. Is his missus on FB too? Kids? I would be tempted to ignore him completely and send her a message (and hope she gets it) saying something like "Been trying to respond to a message from your husband (/whoever), but for some reason it won't go through. We just wanted to confirm that after five years, we have no interest in seeing any old photos to do with our home, nor hear any stories, history or enter into any further discussion, and our neighbours and guests have nothing further to share with him either. We hope he finds the peace and happiness in his current home as we're finding in ours as we trust we won't be bumping into him any more.'

westernpromise

katie4 wrote: »

No neighbours left from when he was here sadly

They are probably all in your house somewhere and that's why he wants to get back in.

NAEO

Do not be cruel people.

There are some people who get attached to objects, houses, antiques etc.
If the guy really did live there i believe he isnt totally crazy.
you must have sympathy, he may lost his home in some way, maybe he needed the money to pay for his mother medical expenses, you cannot know.
you bought the house and with all of its history attached to it, and it includes this man. better than buying it than finding out your neighbors just rented the flat out to a young loud karaoke loving couple, eh?
I recommend to be always on good terms with this guy, dont involve any authorities as it will just make things worse. i even go so far as actually inviting him into the house when he comes around again, of course when your husband is around.. it will make him feel really good and he may actually stop coming by for awhile.

all that said, these type of people are never fully "normal", so always act with caution and go with your feelings.

eschaton

If he has got mental health issues then that's another matter.

If he is on the same planet as the rest of us then just tell him to !!!! off.

lincroft1710

NAEO wrote: »

Do not be cruel people.

There are some people who get attached to objects, houses, antiques etc.
If the guy really did live there i believe he isnt totally crazy.
you must have sympathy, he may lost his home in some way, maybe he needed the money to pay for his mother medical expenses, you cannot know.
you bought the house and with all of its history attached to it, and it includes this man. better than buying it than finding out your neighbors just rented the flat out to a young loud karaoke loving couple, eh?
I recommend to be always on good terms with this guy, dont involve any authorities as it will just make things worse. i even go so far as actually inviting him into the house when he comes around again, of course when your husband is around.. it will make him feel really good and he may actually stop coming by for awhile.

all that said, these type of people are never fully "normal", so always act with caution and go with your feelings.

The OP is being harassed by this person. They do not welcome nor want his attention and they certainly don't want him in their home. Sometimes it is necessary to be cruel for your own self preservation