previous owner harrassment

moneyistooshorttomention

theartfullodger wrote: »

Check that attic for money or valuables!

Errrm....hate to burst any bubbles on this

- but there may well be something to find - but not of a valuable variety.

As stated - I would be having a look in OP's position BUT it may well boil down to an analogous situation to what there is in my current house. That being - I've buried some crystals in the ground somewhere near my house (yeh....I know...I know....these wierd New Age or not-far-off types:rotfl:) and I honestly can't remember exactly where I buried them:rotfl::rotfl: - other than they will be somewhere on the boundaries of my home (yep....and my house has duly had stuff like smudging/etc done for the purpose of "protective vibes" surrounding it). Some of us do things like that....particularly if we have nfh (ie neighbours from hell).

cloo

I also wondered about autism spectrum and that he doesn't get his behaviour is off. I agree with those who have said to say something like 'Please leave us alone to enjoy our home, I think you mean well but you must understand you are making us and our visitors uncomfortable'

Caraway90

I would personally ignore his message, he doesn't live there anymore and you're not obliged to reply to him.

Cakeguts

theartfullodger wrote: »

Check that attic for money or valuables!

Or paintings?

Cakeguts

I think I would tell him the next time he tries to get in that you are not interested in the history of the house and ask him not to come again. I don't think it is a good idea to contact him on facebook. I do think it is a good idea to block him on facebook.

steampowered

I would send a polite but firm reply along the lines of

'Thank you for the information about the house. However, we now need to move forward with our lives and do not have time to discuss the house further. We would ask that you refrain from contacting us or guests seeking admission to the house in future.'

Doodles

Wow, he has been trying for 5 years?!

Personally I would reply to the message with a firm message. Most normal people would have got the message, so ignoring it won't help.

"I need to make you aware that we are not interested in hearing about the history of our house. We do not appreciate the constant efforts of you to engage us about this, and hoped you would have got the message over the last few years. We also do not appreciate you stopping our guests outside. Perhaps you do not realise how your persistant behaviour has made us (and guests to our home) feel very uncomfortable and is completely unwelcome. So I am asking you to respect our feelings and please don't contact us in any way again. Thank you. And then block him.


Something obviously isn't right mentally, so you need to explain clearly and firmly and hopefully he will receive the message.

One of two things will happen. He will get the message, and problem over. Or he doesn't get the message, in which case you can contact the police and can evidence that you have been clear to him that his behaviour is unwelcome.

I hope he backs off. What a pain.

kerri_gt

Cakeguts wrote: »

Or paintings?

Perhaps its the Fallen Madonna with the big boobies? :rotfl:

Mojisola

katie4 wrote: »

we bought our house 5 years ago and the day we moved in the previous owner from 15 years ago! turned up

Quizzical_Squirrel wrote: »

Poor soul. He's having such trouble letting go.

It's your home now and thank him for what he's done in the past but that stage is now over and it's time to move on.

It hasn't been his home for 20 years!

It's obsession rather than a normal 'not letting go'.

HampshireH

I think I would try as suggested in some posts above and keep a copy. That way you can evidence you have told him to back off and leave you alone if he don't.