previous owner harrassment

Cakeguts

NAEO wrote: »

Do not be cruel people.

There are some people who get attached to objects, houses, antiques etc.
If the guy really did live there i believe he isnt totally crazy.
you must have sympathy, he may lost his home in some way, maybe he needed the money to pay for his mother medical expenses, you cannot know.
you bought the house and with all of its history attached to it, and it includes this man. better than buying it than finding out your neighbors just rented the flat out to a young loud karaoke loving couple, eh?
I recommend to be always on good terms with this guy, dont involve any authorities as it will just make things worse. i even go so far as actually inviting him into the house when he comes around again, of course when your husband is around.. it will make him feel really good and he may actually stop coming by for awhile.

all that said, these type of people are never fully "normal", so always act with caution and go with your feelings.

This works both ways. The ex house owner wasn't the last owner people have lived there after he moved out and before the OP bought the house. This has been going on for 5 years. In that time he should have got the message that he isn't welcome. They don't have to make him welcome. They don't actually know him and he doesn't live locally. It is 15 years since he lived there. Plenty of time for someone to have got over why they moved out.

If you haven't got over moving out you don't stalk people on facebook to get access to a house. It is exactly as if he is stalking their house. Trying all different ways to get access. That is not even approaching normal behaviour especially in light of the 15 years since he moved. It is extremely unpleasant for the people who live there and it is about time he got the message and stopped doing it.

It is well past the time when he should have stopped this behaviour especially since he knows that they aren't going to let him in.

HampshireH

...... How would he know your name to find you on Facebook.:eek:

You said he found out you owned it...... So he has done a Land Registry search on you too just to make contact?

Bass_9

NAEO wrote: »

Do not be cruel people.

There are some people who get attached to objects, houses, antiques etc.
If the guy really did live there i believe he isnt totally crazy.
you must have sympathy, he may lost his home in some way, maybe he needed the money to pay for his mother medical expenses, you cannot know.
you bought the house and with all of its history attached to it, and it includes this man. better than buying it than finding out your neighbors just rented the flat out to a young loud karaoke loving couple, eh?
I recommend to be always on good terms with this guy, dont involve any authorities as it will just make things worse. i even go so far as actually inviting him into the house when he comes around again, of course when your husband is around.. it will make him feel really good and he may actually stop coming by for awhile.

all that said, these type of people are never fully "normal", so always act with caution and go with your feelings.

That is absolute madness, do not do this on any account OP.

Personally I would reply telling him to stop harassing you and warn him that if he contacts you or approaches your house again you will go to the police. Snapshot this message and block him. If he approaches your family or the house again go to the police with your evidence.

He may be autistic etc. but you don't know that. He could actually be dangerous and advising the OP to entertain him in any way is ridiculous.

RedFraggle

cooltt wrote: »

@katie4

Ignore all the rubbish reply's on here and go with your gut instinct, the guy is a nut job plain and simple, treat him accordingly.
I don't care if he's lonely, has Asperger's, autism or any other made up illness the guy is a hairs breath away from strangling the life out of you.

Go to the police and let them deal with it, this has gone on long enough and you've been more than patient.

That is incredibly offensive

Ogriv

OP, what does your gut instinct tell you about him? Is he someone to be fearful of? Try to be honest with yourself.

Asperger's is real - my ex was diagnosed at age 39. If he has this condition you will need to speak to him kindly but bluntly, as otherwise he might not take a hint.

Perhaps you are in danger from him; or perhaps he is harmless.

Either way, you need the behaviour to stop.

Cakeguts

Have you reported the facebook contact from him to the police because that is bordering on stalking? It might actually be stalking because he has had to make an effort to find you especially since he knows that you are not interested in talking to him about the house.

Cakeguts

I wouldn't talk to him about this at all for the simple reason that should he gain access to the house all the lovely fitted cupboards that he fitted are no longer there so the photos that he has got of the interior of the house are probably nothing like what it is like now. My worry would be what his reaction was going to be when he realised that his improvements were no longer there. He has already shown signs of unreasonable behaviour by watching the house and making contact on facebook so no one has any idea of what his reaction would be to the interior not being as it is in his photographs.

The police need to know about the facebook contact situation because it seems as if he is escalating his attempts to gain access to the house.

davemorton

NAEO wrote: »

Do not be cruel people.

There are some people who get attached to objects, houses, antiques etc.
If the guy really did live there i believe he isnt totally crazy.
you must have sympathy, he may lost his home in some way, maybe he needed the money to pay for his mother medical expenses, you cannot know.
you bought the house and with all of its history attached to it, and it includes this man. better than buying it than finding out your neighbors just rented the flat out to a young loud karaoke loving couple, eh?
I recommend to be always on good terms with this guy, dont involve any authorities as it will just make things worse. i even go so far as actually inviting him into the house when he comes around again, of course when your husband is around.. it will make him feel really good and he may actually stop coming by for awhile.

all that said, these type of people are never fully "normal", so always act with caution and go with your feelings.

:eek: Your him, arnt you!!!

NAEO

well it was just sad to see some of the cruel comments here, but i have to say i did not read this long post fully, after reading abit more and realizing he isnt local and still coming by, and his comments about hiding stuff in the house that might still be there, those would raise a red flag for me. i would still not think to involve authorities, but i take my comment back and think its best to avoid contact or keep it to a minimum.