New neighbour noise

need_an_answer

gazzak wrote: »

Oh and please ignore the obvious trolls on here who are already trying to get a reaction from you.

I don't see trolls here,and I'm quite good at spotting them.

If this post was on the housing thread it would get similar replies.

Noise is subjective and neighbours don't always appeal to their neighbours that's life not trolling.

From what I see at the moment it's the OP who seems to have quite clear views on these neighbours and be judging them to get a reaction.

pinkshoes

Do you not have a local library you could go and work at?

All you can do is go and speak to them.

PeacefulWaters

LunaLovegood wrote: »

Just to clarify..

The being at home all day bit- was more about the boyfriend, she is obviously very unwell, but he has a big audi in the driveway and does nothing all day, so could take the child out a bit more to give her some peace and maybe the child wouldnt be so crazy being cooped up all day. I do wonder how they can afford the rent of £600pm and car etc with little or no income- would hate to think he was taking advantage of her situation, relationship seems fairly new.

Paternity- I did say in my OP I didn't think it was relevant but just pointing it out incase it would be inappropiate to discuss it with him and should I only speak to the childs mum but again dont want to give her more issues when she is so ill

And pointing out we can't sell- again this was just due to having seen similar posts in the past where people are just told to deal with it or move, so just making clear moving isn't an option so would like advice on how to deal with it.

Not really a fan of husband & I wearing earphones all the time in our own house. They irritate my ears so not going to wear them when trying to study.

I was surprised to get a Motability car with my terminal cancer diagnosis. But it's a lifeline I genuinely appreciate. I'd get rent paid too if I didn't have a large redundancy payment in the bank.

I suggest you focus on the noise issue, documenting events and times, and perhaps try to get to know them, rather than seeking out stereotypical issues about a situation you may know little about.

LunaLovegood

Comms69- sorry I don't know how to do the quote bit like you did! Lol so will just answer separately.

Without wanting to be really judgemental and this might sound awful- I highly doubt he works from home. On the couple of occasions I've spoken to them he has a very strong smell of weed/alcohol and lives in the same tracksuit all the time- so yes maybe I'm just assuming based on a stereotype but there you go. But usually if it looks, sounds and acts like a duck, it's a duck.

I don't really understand your teacher/social worker bit. I'm just saying that she might be a bit offended if I start talking to her new partner about her child rather than her which is the only reason I mentioned him not being the childs father. The mentioning it to strangers on the internet bit- this is a forum, is that not how this works?

Also, I know its our problem we can't sell..again I don't see your point? I was clarifying so people would know not to mention moving as a possible solution. That was literally the only reason for saying we 'own' the house, (well actually the bank do until we pay the mortgage off). We rented for years before that so I know its just as much 'their' home.

LunaLovegood

The child is definitely not deaf. There are times when she's been in the back garden talking normally and they speak at a normal volume back to her. But its more like screaming/shouting 99% of the time.

Also with regards to having the washing machine/radio going, they are on the other side of our house. Radio at low volume and can't really control the washing machine/lawnmower sounds other than I don't do anything like that after 5/6pm. I try to be mindful that she isn't well and the noise is probably driving her mad too. I wonder if maybe it's only since she has been sick that the child has gotten so bad and maybe she doesn't have the energy to deal with it. Just wish her lump of a boyfriend would help her a bit more. Also never seems to be family or anything round to help her.

need_an_answer

If these people owned the property how would you deal with the noise issue?

Or is this an issue of neighbour snobbery?

PeacefulWaters

LunaLovegood wrote: »

The child is definitely not deaf. There are times when she's been in the back garden talking normally and they speak at a normal volume back to her. But its more like screaming/shouting 99% of the time.

Also with regards to having the washing machine/radio going, they are on the other side of our house. Radio at low volume and can't really control the washing machine/lawnmower sounds other than I don't do anything like that after 5/6pm. I try to be mindful that she isn't well and the noise is probably driving her mad too. I wonder if maybe it's only since she has been sick that the child has gotten so bad and maybe she doesn't have the energy to deal with it. Just wish her lump of a boyfriend would help her a bit more. Also never seems to be family or anything round to help her.

You can't help yourself, can you?

thorsoak

LunaLovegood wrote: »

Comms69- sorry I don't know how to do the quote bit like you did! Lol so will just answer separately.

Without wanting to be really judgemental and this might sound awful- I highly doubt he works from home. On the couple of occasions I've spoken to them he has a very strong smell of weed/alcohol and lives in the same tracksuit all the time- so yes maybe I'm just assuming based on a stereotype but there you go. But usually if it looks, sounds and acts like a duck, it's a duck.

I don't really understand your teacher/social worker bit. I'm just saying that she might be a bit offended if I start talking to her new partner about her child rather than her which is the only reason I mentioned him not being the childs father. The mentioning it to strangers on the internet bit- this is a forum, is that not how this works?

Also, I know its our problem we can't sell..again I don't see your point? I was clarifying so people would know not to mention moving as a possible solution. That was literally the only reason for saying we 'own' the house, (well actually the bank do until we pay the mortgage off). We rented for years before that so I know its just as much 'their' home.

So the picture gets worse and worse, does it? Strange just how often his happens, in stories like this.....

I think that you are fixating upon this family and causing the problem in your head. Put yourself in the shoes of your neighbour .....you have a toddler who may have behavioural problems, you are suffering from ill-health - but you do have a partner who stays home to look after you. Maybe you smoke cannabis, to alleviate your pain. You have a lovely home, but the rent is £600 per month - and you have neighbours who are judgemental.

What a lovely position to be in ....NOT.

blues

I feel for you OP. I've had noisy neighbours before and it drove me insane. I had to move for my sanity-detached house all the way. It's the only solution. Get saving! In the meantime, get some noise cancelling headphones and hope they move out soon.

LunaLovegood

I don't know that it would make a difference if they owned the property- it hadn't crossed my mind.

People seem really fixated on the fact I mentioned we own and they rent. I've tried to clarify several times that I only mentioned that so no one would recommend moving- because we can't.

We are on good terms with the landlord who used to live in the house. He calls in to us every few months to make sure things are ok and asks if the house seems to be getting looked after- we've never had anything negative to say before so maybe that's another reason why I stipulated that they rent, I don't know.

Having grown up with a single mum and seen men take advantage of her yes, I can't help myself being a bit judgemental of this guy. This poor girl is clearly struggling, and doesnt appear to have much of a support network and he doesn't seem to be doing much to help.