husbands left me

moneysaver12

sending hugs and thinking of you

withabix

URGENT SITUATIONS CALL FOR DRASTIC ACTION:

Empty His Bank Account As Fast As You Can!

If It's A Joint Account, Clear It Out.

Before He Can!!!!!!

GET DOWN TO THE BANK ASAP!

suzysue_2

If only we could teleport ourselves to the future and avoid the pain, it's what I kept saying for the first few days. I just wanted someone to pick me up and move me a yr on to show me I would be ok. Now I'm rambling!

Good luck at the docs, will be thinking of you.

X

Siouxie_2

Jamangie....im so sorry your going through this. Please take the good advice thats already been given. Such as going to the CAB.Also ring a friend to come over and sit with you. I know its the last thing on your mind, but if you have a joint bank account please empty it asap! (as previously mentioned)... you will need the money for you and the children. Get it before he does!
I feel helpless here. Im thinking of you *Hugs*
S xxXxx

MXW

I have been where you are today and can only confirm the good advice that has already been given to you, in so much as you need to get your finances sorted. You have got children and you need to think about them, believe me, that will keep you going through all the heartache. I know you will be all over the place now but you need to get focused and going to the cab is the first step. You can do it! You will probably think that your world has fallen apart, but you need to calm down, think positive and look to the future. I don't want you to think that i'm being hard, I know exactly what you are going through, being focused got me through it and I came out the other end in one piece! Don't struggle through this on your own, ring family/friends, post on here, get it off our chest...........it really helps! You can do this!!!! If you need an ear pm me. Good luck xxxxxx

crutches

((((((hugs)))))))))

you will get through this.Lots of us have.
Anyone bringing up 4 children has an incredible inner strength even if it feels hidden at the moment.
take it minute by minute,ask for help,see the CAB,tell their schools,tell your friends and family.People will be pleased to help especially with practical things.
GOOD LUCK

cazziebo

Big hugs, Jamangie

many years ago I was where you are now, but I can still remember that pain.

The most important thing you have to do over the next few months is look after you. Eat well, rest, and be good to yourself. I know that sounds easier to say than do, but you need your energy to get through this. And you will.

Some wise words from other posters here. Get some advice on entitlements as soon as you can ( I didn't, and really regret it. I was hoping he would come back so didn't want to rock the boat. Took me 18 months to face up to reality!) Not so sure about emptying the bank account - suppose it depends on circumstances - but no one would blame you if you did. (well no one here!)

My doctor was very supportive so hopefully yours will be too. Use lawyers sparingly - get as much advice as you can before you see one, and meet them with a clear idea of what you want to achieve. Don't use them as counsellors - they're not. And if you're not happy with a lawyer, find another one. (I went through three!)

Really really wish I could be more constructive. Take it one day at a time. Someone said to me when it happened that I would look back and see it positively and I thought that an outrageous statement. No money, no job, two kids under three, no family around. However, they weren't far wrong. I discovered fantastic friends, got a great career and now have two lovely daughters who get on great with both their parents.

You have lots of friends supporting you here, Jamangie.

Take care

XXx

Busybody

I have been through 2 broken marriages, and I know what you are going through at the moment, you are in shock! Don't let it beat you and I believe once you begin to take the actions advised in the other posts you will feel a lot better.
Soon you will get your self respect back and be able to cope on your own with the kids and feel a stronger person for it.
If you stay parted I bet that one day you will look back and realise how well you coped really and feel proud of yourself.
I know these words look feeble today.. wait and see... X X X;)

Believe me he will come off worse in the long run.

Nicifer_noonoo

I am in the same situation, my partner left on Saturday. Although I don't have children to look after just yet, I am pregnant, so I understand a little of what you're going through. If you want a !!!!!ing partner, just pm

Jamangie

thanks everyone i've been to the doctors not much help just anti ds and 2 weeks off work.
i just dont know how to go on the kids still want to go to devon today but i dont think i can face it.
i just feel lost