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19yr old £1000+ debt due to drugs

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  • sneak
    sneak Posts: 383 Forumite
    hey guys thanks for the replies:)

    ok today i have gone thru really my first propa kinda no smoke day. i went to bed las night after a few bongs and woke up with nothing so went to go ma dealers. i rang him on the way an to ma suprise nothin in til later. so rather than what id normally do and go around til i found one, i jus went to my g/fs. we went and met up with one of her mates whos havin probs with her boyfriend etc, so we all went an chilled and fed the ducks on the local pond! was quite good, but i was really kinda cravin all day, but i jus thort try stay occupied. then bout 4 we got back to hers an chilled for a bit. id txt ma dealer an he told me bout 3pm so i rang him bout 4pm wen at ma g/fs and he still said about 8pm. i rang sumone local and they had some so as i was nippin home for ma tea ma g/f gave me a tenner an a got a weed and am now eating ma tea. am guna have a small smoke after it now bu only about 3 bongs then il go back to my g/fs for about half 7 and not get home til bout 10/11pm which means iv gone all day on 3 bongs lol! thats like my best acheivment in bloody ages, id say the whole time id been smokin lol! and its a sunday too which is usually my worst day i just smoke alllllll day!


    Dsljfreeman: "Whichever it is aim at cutting back at least 1 a day and only when you feel ok with that then cut back 1 more again, don't try to rush it as it will make you crave it more."

    yeh mate this is a good idea. i do smoke bongs yeh and i do smoke a hell of alot more bongs than spliffs. in a day id smoke about 20/30 bongs, 4 bongs would make about a spliffs worth. i really dont like smoking spliffs its jus the hit of the bong that i love, just feels so good on ya chest and relives all ya stres, a spliff thers no excitment in it for me lol. i think this wud be good tho jus smokin spliffs instead of bongs gradually, and then cut down gradually how much goes in then how many i smoke. cuttin down on bongs is quite hard coz id well loose track of how many id had haha and the size of your bowl can be different everytime its mad, but i understand what your saying mate thanks for the advice:)

    Big up all crew you are all legendary and thank everyone who is helpin me you shud be blessed by god himself
    debt free wanabeee
  • You can quit is sneak. I don't know anyone that is actually addicted to it though to be honest but I know it can be done. My BF and some of my flat mates do it and I have joined in too. We only do it when they have the money though and £140 will do a month quite easily between 5 or more people. It is getting more difficult to find now though as the police are really cracking down on it (one of my mates dads is helping with this and ironicaly his wife and my mate do it :rolleyes: ). I do not know how you could/did get through so much but I guess that's how addicted to it you are/were. I would ease down on it and not go cold as that could make you worse if you fall off the wagon. I wish you all the best as when it's an addiction it IS a problem. Think of what else you could do with that kind of money like put it towards a mortgage so you have a home sucured for when you are older. That for me would drive me to quit in your situation.

    By the way sneak just so you know bongs done every day can damamge your lungs more than a J due to it acting as an artifficial lung and how deeply you have to breath in to then get the hit after you cream the bong which is also a very deep and hard to do for your lungs. Your health could suffer more than you think from all you have done if you have done that many bongs.I would think of your health on this one aswell.
    I am a vegan woman. My OH is a lovely omni guy :D
  • An addiction is a myth, its all controlled by your mind :)

    Get control of you mind/will power and you can do anything, (well, not literally anyway) :)
  • bigstevex wrote: »
    An addiction is a myth, its all controlled by your mind :)

    Get control of you mind/will power and you can do anything, (well, not literally anyway) :)
    Not completely true. It is said that around 10% of cannabis users are dependant on the drug and therefore addicted. It is possible to come off the drug but the will power has to be from within the sufferer not an outside voice (although sometimes what someone else says may help them). They may need help or guidence through the process (sp?) of giving up the drug to help them stay on course but if the will and drive are strong enough the person on their own can do it :) .
    I am a vegan woman. My OH is a lovely omni guy :D
  • sneak
    sneak Posts: 383 Forumite
    Recovery From Cannabis Addiction

    This website has been constructed by recovering cannabis addicts who would like to offer some simple help and advice to other people in a similar situation.
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    Although some argue that cannabis is not addictive, there are thousands of us whose lives have been seriously affected by our use of this drug and our hopes and plans for life have been gradually eroded by regular cannabis use.
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    There are thousands of us who are doing exactly that.





    Here is a general outline of our own process of recovery from cannabis addiction:
    • We realised that we had a problem and were willing to address this.
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    debt free wanabeee
  • :j Well Done Sneak:j You are taking small but signifcant steps to help you beat this habit. You are obvioulsy seriously trying to cure your "addiction" as you are taking action.

    Good Luck and please keep us updated.
    :j I have a persecution complex. Everytime I pass a shoe shop they persecute me till I buy them:j
  • sneak
    sneak Posts: 383 Forumite
    holy !!!! people iv been paid £1,124.55p!!! iv worked from the 02nd of october and got paid on the 24th, so about 16 days of work init.

    this is the most money i have ever had its like really daunting but i dont wana f*k it up so am tryin to limit ma speding. im estimating ma bud costing around £400 this month if i take it easy, so after i payed ma debt i got easily that left and some to spend aswell on other !!!! than dope. guna try take it easy maybe get this price down a bloody notch.

    Peace crewwwwww update soon when am not to stoned to type for an hour hahaha
    debt free wanabeee
  • Tustastic
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    sneak wrote: »
    holy !!!! people iv been paid £1,124.55p!!! iv worked from the 02nd of october and got paid on the 24th, so about 16 days of work init.

    this is the most money i have ever had its like really daunting but i dont wana f*k it up so am tryin to limit ma speding. im estimating ma bud costing around £400 this month if i take it easy, so after i payed ma debt i got easily that left and some to spend aswell on other !!!! than dope. guna try take it easy maybe get this price down a bloody notch.

    Peace crewwwwww update soon when am not to stoned to type for an hour hahaha

    Well done for earning the money sneak! Quick - as soon as you are not too stoned, do a little budget for this month, work out what you have to keep for essentials (I know this includes some dope at the mo) and then get some money paid off those overdrafts, as well as paying your gf what you owe her. Don't leave yourself so short that you will have to borrow again this month.
    I promise you will feel sooo good about reducing your debts a bit. :)
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  • clive_2
    clive_2 Posts: 29 Forumite
    how can you get 20-30 bongs aday when you only spend 20 quid per day on pot
  • sneak
    sneak Posts: 383 Forumite
    wheeeeey got all ma stuff out of the pawn shop yesterday, cost me bloody £250!!! feels good though to know at least a quarter of ma debt is gone now:) i also ordered some herbal stuff off the internet, its called KAVA KAVA. its sounds like it could help me out alot so am guna give it a try. look it up its quite interesting.

    That was all a bit ontop with the DDOS'in the other werent it!!

    peace all
    debt free wanabeee
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