19yr old £1000+ debt due to drugs

GreyPilgrim

sneak wrote: »

hahaha grey pilgrim you legend.

I have thought of doin this for just a day but man it drives me mad its all i think about, and gettin to sleep at the end of the day wud be a bloody impossible difficult and mind messin task.

Now i have cut down alot it does feel good to go home and have 1 bong and actually be quite stoned off it. at least if i dont quit entirely i can cut down alot...

It's like any addiction mate. You have to put your mind to it and want to do it. Mine got to the point where even a few puffs would make me want to shut the door and lock the world out. All my problems, even the little ones would suddenly become really big in my head and I'd end up lying there terrified at night. Thats when I decided to pack it all in.

Probably get slapped down for sounding irresponsible here, but I had some of the biggest laughs and best times during me smoking years so I'm not really fond of demonizing it. But for me it turned bad (maybe my brain chemistry change, or maybe the weed did. i dunno) and I had to stop or I think I would have ended up going a bit insane to be honest. I'm sure some people can smoke it all there lives and not have a problem.

I still love the smell of it. I'm still tempted to have one (like at the party last week). I just know it's not for me and honestly mate, I feel loads better for not using it now.

Stick around on the forum and let us know how it's all going. We're a friendly bunch in general!

GP

MissKJ

Getting a job, finding enjoyment in life, and being in control are more important than keeping your GF sweet.

May sound harsh, but look at your posts? Some sound chaotic, and alsmost illegible. Othes make more sense. DO YOU REALLY WANT TO BE SO OUT OF CONTROL. May sound boring, but get down to your local college/ library and find cheap and wonderful ways to stimulate your brain, fight boredom, and find your true meaning in life. Drugs are for no-brainers. You are not a typical no-brainer, you have a computer and know how to use it. Make the best of your skills, which will lead to better things. You need a mentor to help you achieve your true potential and improve yourself.

I can't pretent to understand your addiction, I can't imagine how you can bear to hand your money over for cannabis. Don't start drinking or gambling instead, get out for a run to help you sleep. Nothing quite like it. In fact, take your GF or your Mum! Oh and keep talking to Mum, make her understand how much you want to change. Good luck.

dsljfreeman

Hi Sneak,

You've made the first step already, admitting the problem and wanting help.

I don't smoke (have never even tried) but I know about addictions and it's mostly psychological, I also know how you feel as my hubby is giving up smoking too, he has major mood swings which aren't pleasant but he tries to keep them under wraps, he says it's not really the high that keeps him wanting more, it's b'cos he's so used to coming home from work and relaxing with a joint and now he's trying to give up, he's having to find other ways to relax.

He's beating his demons, but it's been a long, hard journey, he used to smoke all the time, now he only smokes if he goes to see his friends and they share :rotfl: , he wont buy any for himself and since we moved 50 miles away it's about twice a month if that.

You say you and your gf are very close, would it be worth getting her help too, I don't allow my hubby to have his bank card and I keep track of every single penny he spends, he has admitted he wouldn't be able to give up if I hadn't supported him, I'm not pretending to be a martyr but it helps to have someone who will be with you every step of the way.

You will have to deal with your addiction before even attempting to deal with your debts, set yourself little weekly tasks, like I will only smoke x amount for each day this week then the next week lower than amount and so on, my hubby has done it this way, through sheer willpower of wanting to give up, sometimes he has setbacks but I'm very proud of him and I'm sure your gf will be proud of you too. xx

Gillianh2

Sneak,
Cant really add any more advice than has already been posted. But have you tried contacting the Drug Rehab team in your area. They can offer you support to kick this habit, it is done in groups or singly and is done by people who have been thru this.:o

Well done for admitting that you have a problem and please keep coming back to keep us updated:o

Good Luck

kisto

Hi Sneak,

My relationship was completely destroyed by cannabis. My ex was spending about the same amount of money on it as you. We were on benefits. It got to the point where he'd take the kids birthday money to buy it, as he was that desparate for a smoke. Cannabis use in my small rural town is widespread, it's hard to avoid it.

In order to get over your battle with 'the herb' you need to steer your life in a completely different direction. It's very likely your social circle smoke a lot of weed, making it easily accessible (and acceptable) to you. What interests you?...or what new interests could you immerse yourself in? Choose a new path in life. New skills? New talents? New adventures? Go running, mountain biking or go down the gym. Get the endorphins and adrenaline going!

You need to get through that first smoke free day. Plan ahead. Quit it at a time when you have your wits about you. When you can occupy yourself. You probably won't sleep. Prepare yourself for this and accept it, rather than be angry and frustrated about it. Once you've got one smoke free day behind you, keep strong for the next smoke free day. Life is so much better without weed and you'll soon feel the difference in yourself.

Your debts will be easier to confront when not clouded by a stoned mind. Not spending money on the weed will instantly give you more disposable income and your finances will no longer be so scary and daunting.

I doubt very much that you will get any help from your GP. There just doesn't seem to be any NHS resources available to help with cannabis use. Certainly that's the case in this area.

Good luck - you *CAN* live without weed.

Gale_10

Hello,

Two of my friends have just given up grass, and another one of his friends also. A friend of a friend did music, he got a record deal but then lost it because he was out of his mind - actually that was coke - but same difference, he lost a record deal! He actually has another chance, a big company has bought some of his music and he is determined not to mess it up this time cos of the grass.

Another mate had a miscarriage, and she has given up the smoking too now.

Her OH has given up too, mainly because his mate and gf have given up! See it shows how much depends on what people around you are doing.

What I am trying to say (no idea why the writing has gone in italics - don't worry man, you aren't seeing things!) is it is totally possible to give up, with the right motivation. And it seems to me thats what you have, with the debt problems you have realised. So go for it, do your best, take the all the support you can get from everyone around you, and all of us.

Keep posting!

Gale

Bunnyinthelights

Keep posting and good luck,
Addressing the issue is the hardest step.
Bunny

nicola1982_2

Sneak you need to combat your drug use. Cannabis is not a drug you should be smoking before work. I smoked it a bit in my teens, but at a festival or a Sat evening with friends as one-offs. I have had problems with drugs and alcohol in the past which climaxed with me ending up in hospital overdosing. Yes this is an extreme and I took harder drugs than cannabis but in principal it is the same thing, rather than your problem climaxing in risking your life, you are risking your financial future and possibly your career. You sound like you have a psychological addiction which needs to be addressed.

Triker

Hi I have 2 words to say to you.....


hash headache...

ever heard them before? Well I hadn't until many years ago someone said them to me.

What happened, well I only bloody well went an got a thumping great headache if I had a smoke or was around people who smoked.

Psychological, mebbe, who knows but I do know that it was quite soon thereafter that I stopped having a 'smoke' and cut it out completely.

It may work for you, cutting down certainly will. Some people can stop completely and not touch anything with immediate effect, some need to slowly but surely wean themselves off, like saying 'I won't have a smoke before 11am', just extend the time by an hour when you can truly give it your best shot.

You'll be ok, it's all a process and you seem ready to start it.

Good luck and keep us posted on your progress.

sneak

i wish i could explain to you people how much i appreciate every single second anyone has put into replying to my post. i have had a lot more feedback than i imagined, i thought people would just tell me to go elsewhere! thank you very much this will help me address my issue alot, this is a good start to me sorting it all out, i can always look back to the start of this and realise what iv done and see what im doing to fix it.

Frosty: thanks very much for that info your son problem was alot like mine and reminds me of myself at the moment, at least i know others have been in my situation. thank you

Pilgrim: your not wrong mate, this is how i feel, i have alot of really good laughs when am having a smoke with my friends and i have alot of good memories(well i av trouble remembering but their there lol) an i dont wana deamonize it either, but i feel the same, it is turning sour for me, its a combination of smoking way to much of the weed and the fact that the stuff i get is usually really strong. no one really knows how bad skunk can mess up your mind, its not been around long enough for the full effects to work through a person entire life. people who have been around the weed back in the day etc are around to prove how bad it can be, but the cannabis available today is about 10x stronger than all that crap so people just dont really know. It could send us all absolutly mental by the age of 60 or somethin! thanks for your reply mate your a great help and i feel i have a brother whos been in the same situation and can help me out, cheers!

MissKJ: Your advice was really the most hard hitting for me, what you say was absolutly right in everyway. you have let me see how i look from another persons point of view if you get me. you have made me realise i can do other things to get to sleep etc and you telling me i have good skills i can use is good motivation for me, i only need to be praised a bit an i feel much better i dont know why but it makes me want to do something about my situation, i think im just too used to beating myself up over it all lol and jus smokin maself into oblivion. Most of all talking to my mum, this is important thank you for reminding me of this, i need to keep ma mum in the loop. have only jus really started tellin her bout stuff, she knew i smoked weed but not the extent and wasnt happy when i told her. its hard for her though becuase she has alot of stuff she gotta sort out too so i really need to sort my act out before i destroy our relationship! thanks

DSLJfreeman: "it's b'cos he's so used to coming home from work and relaxing with a joint and now he's trying to give up, he's having to find other ways to relax."

this is so true. in the last week or so i have managed to get myself out of the habit of smoking loads of weed when i get home from work, mostly because i get home at 5pm after cycling from work about 20minutes, then i have to go another half an hour to my dealers(this is optional really but he has the best bud so i go) then iv gotta get home, smoke a bud eat my tea then go up to my girlfriends for 7 pm. i dont have enuf time to do it and it screws my eating habbit up, i smoke the weed then dont feel hungry straight away, go to my girlfriends and want to go home coz a feel hungry! its daft so iv stopped going straight after work now. i get home i relax normally tv etc, then i have my tea eat as much as i can( everyone says i need to put on weight lol so i jus try eat loads at moments i have a really small stomach tho thru my messed up eating habbits) then i go to my dealers get my weed and have about 2 bongs on the way to my girlfiends. this has helped me cut down because i used to smoke a ten bag before i went out and a ten wen i went to bed so £20 a day is alot of money. i now jus buy 10 and smoke the majority before i go bed, saving about 1 bong for work the next day. this is really helping me and i can actually feel the effects of the stuff instead of smoking it for the sake of it. i just need to try and buy a bit less and not smoke b4 my girlfriends, then a wont need as much for bed! it will be hard for me to quit in the long term coz i find cannabis is us too damn good at relaxing you its annoying! cheers for the reply mate it helps!:)

Gilian thanks for the advice i think i will try and find out about this as they may do things like organised days out and stuff maybe? cheers!

Kisto: thanks for the reply this is really how i feel i would be when im older if i carry on and i dont wana be doing stuff like using money for bud when i could be buying my kids stuff, but i know if i dont sort it out this is exactly what il be doin! i already pawned half the !!!! i own its rediculous, i can get it back its jus guna cost me dearly, but im doing it weather or not coz theres one less thing i have to pay towards every month, will save maself bout 100quid a month in interest charges.
i also think that the smoke free day u sugested is really good idea i will most probably go ahead with something like this, but as you say i need to clear my head first, this is what i was thinking too, then it will be easier for me to relax. thanks a million!

gale10: thanks for the support i feel for your friends. the guy on the record label, wow! this is exactly what i would do, id end up ruining a chance of a lifetime thru doing stupid stuff. this is what i wana do, be successful, its motivation to know someelse in my boots has done it, why cant i?! nice one gale appreciated!:)

bunny thanks for the support its good to know a lot of people feel they can help you in anyway they can! thanks a million.

anyone iv missed out thanks too, iv got some PMs i need to read iv not read em yet an i dont wana loose this message its too much information out of ma lil fragile mind hahaha. Thanks again people, im off to smoke some bongs before bed now but im keeping everything in mind and i will try and smoke only half my deal!

Thanks people appreciated so much you dont understand

Peace