19yr old £1000+ debt due to drugs

esthomizzy

sneak wrote: »

haha cheers esthomizzy this is kinda what i was thinking. i dont really drink but the other night i leather a huge taquilla and was quite feelin ill in bed lol! then last night i had a stella which helped a bit too. i have said to my g/f bout going to the docs for some sleeping pills, they'd have to be pretty high strenth business to work tho. i find this stuff that whitards tea company makes called dreamytime tea helps me alot you should try it:)

Hey that's cool I also drink the dreamytime tea

nickelodeon

sneak wrote: »

Iits screwing up my head big time i go crazy in arguments and start smashin stuff up i feel like a completely different person. Dont smoke weed lol!

Hey,

I've quoted the above part of one of your posts as I think it is really important. You know the drugs change your personality and not for the better! Please think about this more, you obviously really care for your girlfriend, just imagine if you went crazy whilst stoned and hurt her. You need to tackle your drug problem so you can take control of your life and be yourself, not the person that the weed makes you!

you can do this, don't make the weekend a big issue, it is just another couple of days. Keep yourself busy, take your girlfriend out, find something interesting to do so you're not sitting around the house with nothing to do but smoke, you need to break the habit, but try not to replace the drugs with alcohol too much!

Good luck and we are all here to support you and by the sounds of it your Mum and your girlfriend are there to support you as well, you are very lucky!

sneak

hey nicolodeon, thanks for the reply.

i think ur right bout the change of personality, i have changed alot since i started with it. its my temper more than anything, im a chilled out person but no within the last year id say, if something annoys me a bit or whatver i jus like let it all build up then jus explode in a fit of madness. i havent hit my girlfriend but i have gone really mad an banged doors etc shouting in her face and sayin propa evil things, she absolutly hated me for doin it and she gets really scared, she does wind me up a bit but i jus go propa mad and take it way to far.

i dont feel i can change this either like in myself, if something iritates me i get sound wound up its unbelieveable, even when im stoned! i think though the weed will contriute to my extreme mood swings and if i cut it out it mind mend itself over time.

my mum and my g/f are very supporte of me but sometimes i think im just blind and ignorant to this. i really want to sort ma situation out and being able to talk open an hoestly to you people is helpin me a great deal. i do wana turn it around and actually have some money to spend on nice things like clothes and aftershaves:)

im tryin to get a weekend job in a restaurant round the corner at this place coz my sister jus got a part time job a few weeks ago, i jus want to work a few weekends like in next couple of weeks so i got extra money to clear my debts away as i feel im guna struggle off 1 month wage an then live for a month too! i feel really bad though coz i always out with my g/f at weekend and know she wil be unhappy at me working and wil probably cause an argument, i need to do it though i cant jus keep messin around like i am can i! iv worked in a few hotels/resttaurante before so i think i wil be alright maybe gettin taken for a trial shift an if they like me keep me on. my sister did the same and she got paid like 3/4 days later for doin it so il see how it goes.

SkintButTrying_2

Im probably going to get slated for saying this, but couldnt you at least switch to resin rather than weed while your trying to sort out your "addiction"?

Its cheaper and doesnt taste so nice, like I switched to rolling baccy before i gave up smoking cigs to kind of put me off.

and to be honest, I dont know anyone who smokes weed and still gets as angry as you say you get. and im friends with alot of stoners! (theyre the mellowest people i know) Perhaps its brought out some anger issues that were underlying in you, but i woulnt blame the anger 100% on the weed as that sounds like a bit of an excuse to me. Ok, its not going to be helping, but i dont honestly believe that you will give up the weed and a magic wand will have waved your anger issues away, they will need dealing with individually on top of everything else

pointypenguin

I think SkintButTrying has a valid point that not everyone who smokes weed gets angry. But in the same way certain spirits affect different people (eg. some people get angry when drinking whiskey and others get overly cheerful) sometimes the anger as to do with other things and is just brought on by the smoking.

Might be worth looking into some counselling not necessarily for the smoking but in general do see if there are any underlying issues.

nicola1982_2

sneak wrote: »

nicola thanks for your reply i understand what your saying, its pretty deep that you got in hospital im glad your ok though. its not juse cannabis it was alot more thnings, i started hangin with the wrong crowd, i ened up taking ecstacy pills everynight in the week, so bad my dealer refused to sell them me after a while only on fridays! i started cocaine and bombed so much money up ma nose it was crazy. i stopped all this when a got with ma bird coz i wanted to, the coke was hard to stop but a did it, i think it was mostly cos it was costing so much i jus cudnt keep it up and was in alot of debt with dealers which is alot worse than banks lol! now i just smoke alot of cannabis as i got nout else to do, i hardly drink and have only recently started stella so i dont smoke as much at weekend nights. thanks for the reply was appreciated

My real vice was amphetimines, it started as a way to lose weight, then I moved on to taking it socially, then I 'needed' it to wake my up in the morning. I thankfully avoided both E and Coke, but many of my friends did take it, some too much. Sometimes you think using artificial substances for other reasons is ok - like to sleep or in my case to lose weight, but it still isn't right.

You have been given a life, a body and (in my eyes - I'm Christian) a soul. Respect these things - you are so lucky to have them.

If I were you I'd take a step back and reflect. Think about what you really want from life. Your wildest dream - it may not be what you think. I spent many miserable years thinking I wanted lots of money and a super career. In reality what I really want is a family and a somewhat simple life. It's so much easier to clear debt when you are living the life you truly desire.

JCD_Capulet

Kevicho wrote: »

How he can stand up on 10 quids worth of weed a day is anyones guess

Debt Free Wannabe is for help and support, remember. And for the record, when I was smoking through, lets just say more then £10 per day I was still able to function normally. So yeah, thanks for your constructive post there, I'm sure that helped.

frosty wrote: »

My son is 23 and he has been smoking cannabis for about 5 years.Then thankfully he decided to stop,:j he cut back a little each day and the spliffs were rolled a bit thinner each time.He was spending £60.00 a week on cannabis,I have had doors punched and kicked in anger,(when he has no drugs)it really does cause mental health problems,please please try to stop.
We are so happy to have our son back,he has a full time job now (before he was so spaced put he didnt know what day it was):eek: money in his pocket,new friends that dont do drugs,I really hope you can turn your life around and sort your debt out.YOU CAN DO IT.

Well done to your son!

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Sneak, the only advice I can give is from my own experiences and from others I've watched around me and how they've cut down or given up on weed. Please bear with me whilst I ramble on a bit.

Right, you're working through £10 of grass a day. It was grass, wasn't it?
That's a drain on your funds straight away, as skintbuttrying suggested, try moving to resin. Yes it's generally cheaper but don't congratulate yourself on saving money here.

Of the £70pw you're spending on grass, instead, only buy £50 of resin. It's easier to watch a quarter work down to nothing than it is grass (because the grass is too easily/quickly put in a joint and before you know it your stash is gone).

Grass is generally more pricey because it's homegrown in the UK, and because given the choice, any smoker will choose grass over resin. You know the diference in smoke you get between the two, I know the diference and so will any other smokers on theese boards.
Anyway! So you've decided to say yeah to moving to resin to try to get yourself off this (or at least cut it down enough to become manageable). Over the weeks as you try to cut down your weekly spend on the resin you'll no doubt WANT to smoke grass again. What I'd suggest here is buying the herbal stuff that you can pick up in bong shops. Use it as a placebo for grass when you're rolling.

Hopefully with time you'll be able to get acustomed to smoking like this, and be able to remind yourself when you're tempted to go buy a half of resin or a bag of grass, that you're doing all this for YOU. You're looking out for yourself in trying to cut down as much as possible and to get yourself more financially sound. Then after you, there are the loved ones around you. You're doing it for your mum, she no more wants an angry son than you want an upset mother I'm sure. And then there's your girlfriend. No doubt the lass loves you, and you love her. Think about how you'll feel if you loose her because of the ammount you smoke.

Try this.
Imagine you've got all your stuff around you in a circle. Your bongs, pipes, rolling tray ect. You've got your bags of weed at your feet or resin on your tray. You've got LOADS of gear kicking around and it's formed a circle around you. Happy times.......you think? Now picture your girlfriend on the other side of this circle. She can't get to you because of this barrier of your smoking gear, and you can't get to her because you're enjoying a smoke and content with all the things that make you chill. Imagine, she leaves you because you can't get to eachother.

When you REALLY picture it in your head, it makes you think, eh?

Now consider this. Weed is the product of a plant. When leaves fall from plants to the ground and they rot, who consumes them then? Worms.

Imagine that all the things around you, your bongs, pipes, rolling tray, weed, resin ect, the things you were busy enjoying whilst you lost your girlfriend and continue to upset your mum have decomposed and in their place are worms. You're sitting there - in a circle of things which have no benefit to you what so ever. You realise that it's horrific and you need to get yourself out of there as theese worms slime all over your feet and you held some in your hands.

:rolleyes: Right ok, I did say I would ramble on a bit. I hope you understand where I was going with the worm thing, and please do try to imagine it. It helped me devellop negative conotations with weed and alcohol (and steroids actually) when I was addicted.

I wish you all the very best as you get through this, Sneak. I'm not around as often as I used to be, but if you need a gab/someone to listen feel free to drop me a message on here.

Take care hon x

JCD_Capulet

Oh! And NEVER - EVER take stuff on tick from a dealer! You'll not be able to get into work and sort out thoose finances if your dealer gets p1ssed off at you not paying your debt and you get kneecaped for mucking him around.

JoeHel

I just wanted to add one thing about the mood swings. Drugs are well known to cause mental health problems in some users and all sorts of behavioural problems. My OH is schizophrenic and daren't touch drugs because he would just be completely out of control. But even in his "normal" state, if he takes his medication late he starts acting exactly as you've described. It terrifies me. I love him more than anything and I know he can't help it, but if he was acting like that through some substance he was taking on purpose, I'm afraid to say I would walk away. I know you're scared of life without your "crutch" but the only reason you take it now is to satisfy the craving from your last "fix". If you stopped completely you'd soon lose the urge. It's a case of deciding what's more important to you - a quick fix escape from life for a bit that causes everyone who loves you pain, or having the courage to turn things around, stop the drugs and sort yourself out. Please don't let it get to the point where you lose people you care about before you realise you have to stop.

I've seen what drugs can do to people. My step-son is 23 and he's just come to live with us from prison where he served a year for burglary. He was a heroin addict and he started with a bit of weed and a few pills. He's now been clean for over a year, has a lovely girlfriend and a good job and he's happy for the first time in years.

The only person who can do this is you. Wish you all the luck in the world.

bigstevex

IMO, your not going to be able to give up straight away, you need to cut yourself down gradually etc kinda as JCD_Capulet is saying. If you stop altogether you'll get so annoyed or stressed on day you'll just go and waste all your money on it somehow!

Oh and be careful of your work, 99% of companies now don't like 'drug users' and i'm sure you don't want to lose your new job, so stay off it if your in work etc, depending on what you do, you could end up hurting others!