Wife taking surname

Zandoni

Cheeseface wrote: »

Nicer and easier how?

I had one child with my first husband. I changed my surname to his, and it never felt like my name. I’d spent two and half decades with my birth name, changing it felt wrong. I can’t explain why but it wasn’t me.

I reverted back as soon as I separated, when I explained it to my child, they found the whole concept of changing your name when you married unnecessary

When I got married and had a second child, I kept my birth name. Both my children have their fathers surname, so they have different names to each other and different names to me. It doesn’t effect how we feel abou each other and I don’t understand why it would be easier for my children if we had the same surname.

It just is nicer, kids like to have the same name as their parents, it gives them a sense of belonging.

pollypenny

I wish I’d kept my name, as it’s much nicer than OH's, but it was unheard of when I married. We get fed up of spelling it.

OH often says that he wishes he’d changed his name to that of his grandparents who brought him up.

Tabbytabitha

consumers_revenge wrote: »

It is lol

In most cases they see a woman without the same surname ( unless for professional reasons ) as still available. Suppose that was part of the sticking point.

You should've said that you lived in the 19th century, you might've got different answers!

"Still available" ye gods!!

Tabbytabitha

Cheeseface wrote: »

Nicer and easier how?

I had one child with my first husband. I changed my surname to his, and it never felt like my name. I’d spent two and half decades with my birth name, changing it felt wrong. I can’t explain why but it wasn’t me.

I reverted back as soon as I separated, when I explained it to my child, they found the whole concept of changing your name when you married unnecessary

When I got married and had a second child, I kept my birth name. Both my children have their fathers surname, so they have different names to each other and different names to me. It doesn’t effect how we feel abou each other and I don’t understand why it would be easier for my children if we had the same surname.

Zandoni wrote: »

It just is nicer, kids like to have the same name as their parents, it gives them a sense of belonging.

I expect most children would prefer for their parents to actually be married to each other!

Gloomendoom

My wife considered keeping her own name but took mine in the end.

She now regards it as her name. Which it is.

Zandoni

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

I expect most children would prefer for their parents to actually be married to each other!

That's my point most people wouldn't think they are married if they have different surnames.

Zandoni

A small part of my job is to make ID badges for my colleagues, I'm very careful with the ladies to ensure I get the title correct, Miss, Ms or Mrs. I've not come across a married colleague yet that has adopted the Ms title.

consumers_revenge

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

You should've said that you lived in the 19th century, you might've got different answers!

"Still available" ye gods!!

Sorry didn't say me but ask a few blokes to be truthful and I suspect it's the same view deep down lol.

consumers_revenge

A rose by any other name is still a rose...

consumers_revenge

Going to start a new poll