Wife taking surname

Cheeseface

Zandoni wrote: »

It just is nicer, kids like to have the same name as their parents, it gives them a sense of belonging.

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

I expect most children would prefer for their parents to actually be married to each other!

My children know they belong by our actions and our behaviour. Most children know their parents as mum and dad, not by Mr/Mrs/Miss/Ms/Mx. My eldest is closer to their step dad rather than their bio dad.

Both my children also see marriage as unnecessary. They’re not bothered with if we only cohabit or are married.

Cheeseface

Zandoni wrote: »

A small part of my job is to make ID badges for my colleagues, I'm very careful with the ladies to ensure I get the title correct, Miss, Ms or Mrs. I've not come across a married colleague yet that has adopted the Ms title.

I feel like I’m playing devil’s advocate but I’m a Ms. Mainly because I don’t want making assumptions about my personal life in my professional life.

moneyistooshorttomention

consumers_revenge wrote: »

Reading the comments today though has made me realise one thing and that's if nothing will change then probably no reason to ever get married so I'll save a fortune lol.

This did turn out to be a money saving question after all!

Put like that - it sounds like you're refusing to marry her because she won't take your surname!! - even though you have mutual children....:cool:

SingleSue

Post divorce I got annoyed at being addressed as Ms, I still use Mrs. Pre marriage, my ex mother in law called herself Mrs (she had been with her partner for 26 years before marrying).

Also post divorce, ex husband expected me to revert back to my maiden name...my married name (which had caused arguments back when we married as I was more inclined to keep my maiden name), had been my identity for longer and it was the same as the children's.

Eldest son has unofficially doubled barrelled my maiden and married surname as he wanted to have my maiden name post divorce but couldn't as he knew his father would never give permission (he was too young to do it without permission from both parents at the time). He still intends to change it to my maiden name legally now that he is free to do so.

moneyistooshorttomention

Zandoni wrote: »

A poll on a forum is no way to decide. Have a look what friends and family have done, I'll bet it will be the complete opposite of the poll result.

Sounds like a get-out clause to do what one particular section of Society are doing - rather than going with a countrywide/all ages/all backgrounds/etc viewpoint.

consumers_revenge

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

put like that - it sounds like you're refusing to marry her because she won't take your surname!! - even though you have mutual children....:cool:

wrong lol.

moneyistooshorttomention

consumers_revenge wrote: »

It is lol

In most cases they see a woman without the same surname ( unless for professional reasons ) as still available. Suppose that was part of the sticking point.

Sounds like time to mix in different company then...:cool:

Zandoni

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Sounds like a get-out clause to do what one particular section of Society are doing - rather than going with a countrywide/all ages/all backgrounds/etc viewpoint.

https://yougov.co.uk/news/2016/09/13/six-ten-women-would-like-take-their-spouses-/

moneyistooshorttomention

Zandoni wrote: »

That's my point most people wouldn't think they are married if they have different surnames.

Ever heard of wedding rings? - which both partners wear these days.

moneyistooshorttomention

Zandoni wrote: »

https://yougov.co.uk/news/2016/09/13/six-ten-women-would-like-take-their-spouses-/

Can't see anything differentiating between, for instance, areas of the country/education levels/etc.

It may well be that in some areas/education levels/etc taking "his" name predominates for instance - but maybe professional people in metropolitan areas have keeping their own name predominating?