Wife taking surname

maman

Zandoni wrote: »

A small part of my job is to make ID badges for my colleagues, I'm very careful with the ladies to ensure I get the title correct, Miss, Ms or Mrs. I've not come across a married colleague yet that has adopted the Ms title.

Why isn't there an option to just have 'Jane Smith' or similar. That's what I'd insist on. Do all the men have 'Mr John Smith' on theirs?


Incidentally my DH doesn't wear a ring, never has but I'd like to put it on record that he's not available!:D

maman

p00hsticks wrote: »

Actually at least one case (Jake Forster-Caskey) is named after father (Darren Caskey) and step-father (Nickie Forster)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jake_Forster-Caskey

That's interesting.:)


I was thinking originally of Alex Oxlade-Chamberlain and the Wright-Phillips brothers. I must investigate further.

Lolly88

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

I think we've all forgotten the "wild card" too.

That being that some couples that get married are both the same sex as each other. Now it's never occurred to me to wonder what they do about surnames as I dont know any.....guessing they each keep their own?

I don't know if there are any offical polls on it but in my experience the younger same sex couples a fair few change their names - opting for double barrelled usually or create a new name together whereas the older ones tend to keep their names.

Gloomendoom

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Ever heard of wedding rings? - which both partners wear these days.

I don't. I'm at a pre Christmas party/informal get-together at the moment and looking around the room, none of the married men are wearing rings.

phoebe1989seb

amateur_house wrote: »

I didn't change my name when I married, 20 odd years ago. My in-laws took it badly and insisted on addressing cards and cheques for the kids etc to me as Mrs... I could still pay the cheques into my account, just had to sign the back.

Oh yes, we actually had a period of this now you mention it. My inlaws chose to address us as 'Mr and Mrs His Surname' instead of 'Mr and Mrs My Surname-His Surname' on cards etc for the first few years. When questioned, they said they'd 'forgotten', lol!

I just wrote 'From Mr and Mrs My Surname-His Surname' on the back of everything we sent them and they eventually got the idea.

We both wear wedding rings and always have, although DH got a new (titanium) ring ten years ago after his gold one got damaged. Among our married friends all the women wear rings, while only a few of the men do.

A few of DS's old school/uni friends have married in the past year or two. From what I've seem among them (mid-late twenties), some do, some don't. DS - not married and with no intention of doing so - wears a ring on his wedding finger, while his GF of twelve years doesn't

maman

Gloomendoom wrote: »

I don't. I'm at a pre Christmas party/informal get-together at the moment and looking around the room, none of the married men are wearing rings.

A practical theory is that as heavy industry has declined so the wearing of rings has increased. Much more feasible to wear a ring in an office than a steel works. Also it could be generational, allied to the above. It's become more of a fashion. Older men of my father's generation perhaps had a signet ring given on their 21st birthday or inherited rather than a plain gold band. Or those awful rings with sovereigns in them that went with medallion man!:eek:

Tabbytabitha

Zandoni wrote: »

That's my point most people wouldn't think they are married if they have different surnames.

In 1917 you would've been right - fortunately things have moved on in the last century!

Tabbytabitha

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

I think we've all forgotten the "wild card" too.

That being that some couples that get married are both the same sex as each other. Now it's never occurred to me to wonder what they do about surnames as I dont know any.....guessing they each keep their own?

In the recent news story where a newly adopted baby had been murdered by one of its gay parents, the couple had the same surname. That awful Rylon(?) bloke off the TV seems to have double marvelled his with his husband. I expect it varies.

Gloomendoom

maman wrote: »

A practical theory is that as heavy industry has declined so the wearing of rings has increased. Much more feasible to wear a ring in an office than a steel works. Also it could be generational, allied to the above. It's become more of a fashion. Older men of my father's generation perhaps had a signet ring given on their 21st birthday or inherited rather than a plain gold band. Or those awful rings with sovereigns in them that went with medallion man!:eek:

You're probably right about the generational thing. Not many steel workers or medallions evident though. Apart from family (me and my wife) most of the people here are members of the local yacht club.

Zandoni

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

In 1917 you would've been right - fortunately things have moved on in the last century!

There has been lots of changes in the way people do things not all of them are good. Lots of traditional things are being eroded which in my opinion is a bit of a shame.