Wife taking surname

Tabbytabitha

Mojisola wrote: »

As your first name makes if clear that you are a woman, you're more likely to get Ms on correspondence.

Some computer systems insist on a title being ticked so the human has to choose one for you if you don't declare one.

MothballsWallet wrote: »

My wife is Russian, so her maiden name is rather difficult to pronounce for English speakers (until they're told how to say it).

I think she'll be glad to get her UK citizenship so she can use her married name instead since it's easier for English speakers to say (now spelling it can be a different matter).

Genuine question, why can't your wife use your name before her citizenship comes through?

jackieblack

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

Genuine question, why can't your wife use your name before her citizenship comes through?

I wondered that too

Fireflyaway

I'd say if you have been together a while and have 2 kids and only just got round to getting married is it that important?
It does seem a lot more common for married women to keep their names these days. I know sometimes if they are the last in their family to have the surname they don't want to change it. I'd be curious to know the reason.

moneyistooshorttomention

Mojisola wrote: »

As your first name makes if clear that you are a woman, you're more likely to get Ms on correspondence.

Some computer systems insist on a title being ticked so the human has to choose one for you if you don't declare one.

Right - Dr it is then - though I'm not one of any description:rotfl:

moneyistooshorttomention

Zandoni wrote: »

Are you doing it just to be awkward or is there a reason?

Maman's explanation covers it neatly.

Unless you want to make a New Years Resolution of "Don't assume someone is 'being awkward' because they have a different personal opinion to your personal opinion".:)

Zandoni

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Maman's explanation covers it neatly.

Unless you want to make a New Years Resolution of "Don't assume someone is 'being awkward' because they have a different personal opinion to your personal opinion".:)

I just wondered why it was so important not to have a title.

Callie22

Zandoni wrote: »

I just wondered why it was so important not to have a title.

For me, as a woman, I am 'judged' on my title much more than a man would be. A man is 'Mr' from a fairly young age and that doesn't change (unless of course they get some kind of professional qualification - Dr, Reverend, Captain etc etc) - there isn't any baggage associated with that title as it really just means 'a bloke' nowadays. For women, we are first known as 'Miss' and this title becomes more problematic the older you get. There are lots of slightly negative connotations with being a 'Miss' once you get beyond a certain age and it almost becomes a bit of a joke. We can use 'Ms' but again this has a lot of connotations with it - people assume you're either a divorcee or, if you're choosing to use it, an angry feminist. And then there's 'Mrs', which you can take once you're safely married. Either way, female titles tend to define relationships (or not) with men in a way that a men's titles don't - men don't change their titles on marriage, for example.

For me, my 'proper' title would be Miss but I don't feel comfortable with that anymore, given my age and partnership status! I don't use Mrs as I'm not married so I tend to use Ms now in situations where I need a title. I wish I had enough money to pursue a doctorate so that I could just be Dr and have done with the Miss/Ms/Mrs dilemma!

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moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Right - Dr it is then - though I'm not one of any description:rotfl:

I'd go for Admiral :rotfl:

maman

Fireflyaway wrote: »

I'd say if you have been together a while and have 2 kids and only just got round to getting married is it that important?
It does seem a lot more common for married women to keep their names these days. I know sometimes if they are the last in their family to have the surname they don't want to change it. I'd be curious to know the reason.

I think it's probably more common now as more women have forged a career before getting married and so their name is part of their professional identity. I know that was one of my main reasons for not changing my name on marriage.

maman

Spider_In_The_Bath wrote: »

I'd go for Admiral :rotfl:

Is Major General on the list. I fancy that!

I knew a guy who signed himself F.R. O'Callaghan. His name was Frank. He got mail addressed to Father O'Callaghan. A good Catholic boy.