help re baby sleep (merged)

Rachie_B

fkelanne wrote: »

Is it ever possible!
Hiya, my youngest little one was 10 weeks prem,and when he came home he did sleep well.he is 17 months now.
i start getting him ready for bed at 5.30pm bath him, get him ready for bed and then give him his supper. i put him up to bed at 6.30pm, with a bottle. Most of the time he goes over to sleep no bother, some nights he cry for a little while so i go in lie him back down and leave him again.
He sleep till about 11pm then starts crying, i give him another bottle of half water half milk and hes back off 2 sleep. the same at 3.30am, and then we get up at 6am.
S9ome nights hes up abit more. Is there anyway i can stop him wanting his bottle through the night?
please any help would be great.

this is the problem

he is associating going to sleep = bottle of milk.so when he wakes in the night he cannot get himself back to sleep without it

breaking the habit will be hard,as he has had 17 months of it.

but it can be done,you need to be tough ( the whole being cruel to be kind thing! )

it may take a few days / week of very disruptive nights

fkelanne

i no its my fault, ok ill start 2nite, i wont give him a bottle b4 he goes 2 sleep. and if (when) he wakes up ill just let him cry. i did do this to get him 2 go 2 sleep in his cot, so i should be able 2 do it again. the only thing is. i have 2 go 2 work and his dad and oldest bro has 2 go 2 school!
He hasnt been like this for 17 month just about 3 months i blamed theething

Rachie_B

fkelanne wrote: »

i no its my fault, ok ill start 2nite, i wont give him a bottle b4 he goes 2 sleep. and if (when) he wakes up ill just let him cry. i did do this to get him 2 go 2 sleep in his cot, so i should be able 2 do it again. the only thing is. i have 2 go 2 work and his dad and oldest bro has 2 go 2 school!
He hasnt been like this for 17 month just about 3 months i blame teething

maybe try starting at a wkend ,so it doesnt matter so much if everyone sleep is disrupted

does he have any other comforter to take the place of the bottle ? dummy ,blanket etc

try rapid return ,and maybe pat his back etc til he settles a little

its got to be better than feeding him to sleep

can you "camp" out on his floor for a few nights

i did this with my youngest ( taking in turns with his dad) when he was waking lots at night

all it took was a reassuring pat / ssssssh from me and he would fall back to sleep

after a week or so, we didnt need to get him back to sleep at all,he had re learned to do it himself

dont feel bad or blame yourself,you do these things at the time to get through a tough time,and before you know it a habit has formed ,and its much harder to break that habit
and there never seems to be " the right time"

Bella79

all i can say is my daughter is 17 months old and she now sleeps through the night i have to say i think your bed time is a little early im no expert but this is whati do ...........the only time shes distubs is when shes ill tething etc

bath at 7pm
dried in night clothes by 7.20
then i sit on my bed with her and give her 8oz milk
put her straight into her cot and no matter how much she used to sceam i dont let her back out of her room. She started to make herlsef sick by crying so hard i would jst go back into room clean her up no eye contact or talking then lay her back down (this takes nerves of steel lol)
i never feed her in night now if she doesn wake up they dont need it at this age i think your little one is waking due to wanting bottle
she sleeps till about 7am

she also has a 2 hr nap 11.30 till 1.30

i would jst go for it from tongiht and carry on u HAVE to be CONSISTENT or it will not work i would say within a week u will start to see a diff

if he wakes in middle of night jst go in give dummy etc if he has one and lay back down

also if he started crying moment he goes down stand on landing and count to 15 slowly in your head if shes startiing to calm down dont go in but if shes still crying go in give dummy or lie back down and come back out again

if she eats her tea at 5pm she jst has bottle for bed althoguh sometimes she doenst eat it so about 6.30 i will give her some porridge then bottle for bed

hope thi helps x

RustyFlange

Ouch! There are a couple of posts on here, one of which I don't agree ...
The post where it says that the bedtime bottle should be stopped, he is only 17 months old, still a baby. I have a 5 year old and he still has his milk before bed every night, albeit not in a baby bottle. This helps him to sleep, I had warm milk every night til I was almost 13 and I now have a daughter who is 1 she has a bottle before bed every night.

Just curious as to why OP gives half milk and half water during the night? surely all milk would be more filling and better for the baby?

My daughter and son go to bed at 7pm I would say 6:30 is possibly a little early but if that is what they are used to then stick with it. Although saying that both of mine are now fast asleep as both were extremely tired tonight!

Consistency is definately the key to all of it, but I would say that it does sound like he is hungry through the night.

LittleTinker

I would let him drink his milk from a cup, rather than a bottle after bathtime but before bed.

Bedtime and read a story.

Lights out.

And absolutely NO giving in to the crying.

If he wakes up screaming for more than 3 nights then Ill eat my hat

jackomdj

I would give milk downstairs in a beaker then take LO up to bed. I stopped bottles at 1yr for both of mine as I believe they are not good for babies teeth.

Personally I do not give milk if my LO wakes in the night, she has water then back to bed.

I think your bedtime timing is fine, my LO's are in bed by 7:00 most nights, sometimes by 6:30 & 7:15 at the latest (unless we are out for the night with them)

I think it is a lot harder when they get older, my sisters DD used to scream herself sick when my sister got around to settig a routine. Just get your routine in your mind & stick to it - your little one will soon get used to it.

Nicky

Rachie_B

RustyFlange wrote: »

Ouch! There are a couple of posts on here, one of which I don't agree ...
The post where it says that the bedtime bottle should be stopped, he is only 17 months old, still a baby. I have a 5 year old and he still has his milk before bed every night, albeit not in a baby bottle. This helps him to sleep, I had warm milk every night til I was almost 13 and I now have a daughter who is 1 she has a bottle before bed every night.

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I did NOT say get rid of before bed milk :rolleyes:

But not to go to sleep with ,there is a difference

I would do as suggested above, and give milk in a beaker downstairs,possibly
so the child doesnt associate the milk necessarily with going to sleep

[Deleted User]

I don't have a problem getting my 18 month old off to sleep or staying asleep since we did controlled crying when he was 11 months old.

However, i do have a question. My son has 2 bottles a day, morning and bedtime. He drinks these himself, but when I have tried in the past to put the milk in his tommy tippee beaker he won't drink it, that's where water comes from apparently. Milk comes from bottles. I clean his teeth before bed and after breakfast, so is there any reason why i should force this issue yet? Is there a difference really between sucking a bottle or sucking a tommy tippee spout?

PS, he also finds his bottle still a comfort. Plus his little sister has a bottle as she's 3 months old, I think it would be hard for him to see her have one and not himself. Finding this with his dummy at mo too.

CB1979_2

nip of brandy in the before bed milk, should just about do the trick