help re baby sleep (merged)

sooty&sweep

Hi

With my little boy he used to go to sleep with his last bottle and so he went to bed asleep but as he got older that stopped.

We used to put him down and sit with him until he fell asleep but gradually reducing the amount of time we stayed with him.
There was some crying sometimes if he realised we were leaving but we would leave him for a few minutes and then return to settle him back if he didn't settle. It did work but took a little time.

My daughter didn't go to bed asleep as the milk didn't have the same effect but she would settle herself down very easily. She's now two and she's got a little harder because she's in a cot bed and can climb out but a bed time story does help her settle and she'll go off to sleep.

Issy has to settle herself you can't settle her the same way
as you could my son.

Alot depends upon the child.

Does he have a bedtime routine ? Both of mine have a bath followed by pj's, milk, story and bed. My daughter is alot harder to settle if we don't follow her routine.

Good Luck

Cornishpixie_2

I can sympathise. Perhaps get him into routine of bath, story, milk and bed. Start of maybe 9 o clock, then work backwards, knocking off around 10 minutes for the 2nd week. Sometimes found mine who are a hungry mass at times:rotfl:used to get hungry so gave them tea bit later rather than overload with tea then supper. Also used to put bottle of milk at end of the cot incase they got hungry in the night,though not everyone comfortable with that. My DS3 was always crying for a drink in the night, gave him warmed water in bottle, he soon got fed up. Also got OH to help they soon got used to each other. Whilst I had a bath :rotfl:

becks.989

How can i get my baby 10 months to sleep & settle in his own cot.

I am currently t rying to just leave him for 15mins to let him cry to sleep but he just cries and cries. I was under the impression that if you leave him long enough he would eventually settle asleep and then from then on sleep in the cot and settle on his own. How long is too long to leave him crying?

What have you dont in the past to get baby settled.

Hi i read your post and felt i had to reply.
I am with NOT leaving your baby to cry. I have had 2 babies, One trouble sleeper and one good sleeper. I have always used the pick up put down routine that Tracy Hogg (The Baby Whisperer(google)) uses.
Basically you put baby in cot till he cries.

Pick him up calm him then put him back down.

Repeat Repeat Repeat.

Until he actually goes off to sleep himself.

She sadly passed away a few years ago from cancer but you can buy her books still off ebay tho. Follow the guidlines through from the book. She also has other great tips in the book .

Here is a link to one of the books on ebay now.

http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/Secrets-of-the-Baby-Whisperer-Tracy-Hogg_W0QQitemZ170204110691QQihZ007QQcategoryZ53678QQssPageNameZWDVWQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem

GOOD LUCK
Becks

siren13577

I had a similiar problem with my ds, he just would not settle alone, I tried a mixed method of controlled crying and also patting, I don't know whether this is part of the same technique as I can't quite remember, it was four years ago. It's from Tracey Hogg's fab book The Baby Whisperer which I really recommend, it was all about being quiet and not making eye contact with your baby which stimulates them, but settling them down with their blanket or dummy etc and patting them very gently on their tummy or side until they calm down. The important bit is not to speak or make eye contact, I found it took around a hour and a bit the first night and then a hour the second and so on and so forth until my son settled himself. Babies also really like routine so everything was exactly the same each night and was really relaxed and low key. I've just noticed the above post so I'm basically echoing everything. It does really work, good luck and hth.

The only noise I began to make was ssshhh, ssshh, it's quite rhymic and reminds the baby of your heart beat. You might notice your baby looks at you but don't respond, this is for reassurance and you being there is enough.

squashy

fac73 wrote: »

Please don't leave your baby to cry. CC only works because the babies learn that when they cry, no one comes - not a nice thing to teach IMO.

What about a gentle approach - the No Cry Sleep Solution is based on getting your baby to sleep without the harsher techniques like controlled crying, and making your baby feel comforted and safe so they are happy to fall asleep on their own.

I agree. Babies are born with the phsyical need for their mothers and so it is a pretty harsh thing to do, leaving them to cry for you. Imagine you wanted a cuddle off your DH but he shut you in a room until you cried yourself to sleep!

I have the book above and it has lots of gentle tips to help.

shelley_crow

pm'd you op.

No one method suits every child so see what works for you x

daphne_descends

Crying makes the body produce cortisol, which is linked to depression in later life

http://parentingbabytosleep.blogspot.com/2008/02/baby-crying-or-cry-it-out-and-cortisol.html

scoobydo_2

i too need help I'm a childminder and at the moment have a 10month old baby who will only sleep on me in my arms I know that mum has cuddle off to sleep and goes for a drive to get him to sleep .I can't do that ! another minder (we had shared care) let him cry for some times up to an hour !!
I know that by letting him continue to sleep on me isn't helping but I'm not sure what else to do because if mums doing the cuddling to sleep then I'm not going to make any progress at my house .
I'd welcome any help he's a cat napper too , and a VERY determined little one that he'll have it his way .

squashy

scoobydo wrote: »

i too need help I'm a childminder and at the moment have a 10month old baby who will only sleep on me in my arms I know that mum has cuddle off to sleep and goes for a drive to get him to sleep .I can't do that ! another minder (we had shared care) let him cry for some times up to an hour !!
I know that by letting him continue to sleep on me isn't helping but I'm not sure what else to do because if mums doing the cuddling to sleep then I'm not going to make any progress at my house .
I'd welcome any help he's a cat napper too , and a VERY determined little one that he'll have it his way .

Maybe invest in a good sling?? Interestingly, does the parent know the other CM leaves him for an hour to cry? I would not be happy!

sheppylove_2

hey im a nursery nurse and i used to be a home carer! what about a baby light show as a distraction! I personally use this and sit in the room next to the cot or wherever till they are asleep! i dont speak to them and i dont look at them but i am there! also with bedtimes the routine is soooo important cos even if your fone rings unexpectedly it will affect them! initally it can take a while for them to go to sleep with you in the room! after a couple of days or weeks they will fall asleep easier! I had lots of probs with my nephews sleep! he was allowed to sleep with his mum till he was 2 and a half, so he was much bigger and was not in a cot! i used the supper bath pjs cetain program on tv think it was scooby doo! doesnt matter as long as its at the same time each day! then up to bed 2 stories and kiss! i would then sit in his room but not speak or look at him till he slept, after a while i would read my own book! we did this for quite a while but it did get shorter each nite! I then said to him one nite out of the blue i had to go and do job and i would be back in ten mins! he was asleep and we are still doing this now! he is always asleep! Blimey what a long one sorry!