Parents want to meet boyfriend

Kirstie_

hollydays wrote: »

Well your mums briefly met him-I see no rush for her to meet him too quick again.
It was very rude of her to speak to him
Like that.
As someone else said , prepare for more of the same.

I know, I'm expecting a lot more of the same. I'm expecting a lot of lectures about him..

I said it was rude and she replied, she needs to makes sure that he isn't some Pablo Escobar or some master criminal.

thorsoak wrote: »

Your mother said WHAT to him? I hope you have told her just how rude and despicable that was! Has she no faith in your judgment? After all, she has brought you up. I would certainly be having very Strong Words with her, were she my mother - and if I had said anything so insulting to any of my children they would have chewed my ears off!

I did and apparently not, I said it was rude and she came out with a load of excuses. I just felt really bad on my boyfriend and what he must have thought.

Mojisola

chesky wrote: »

Your b/f sounds a saint. I'm afraid if I'd been you, I'd have said 'yes, mum, actually, we're both drug dealers and the trade fair we're going to is to set up new chains of suppliers and distributors. So what are you going to do about it?'

:rotfl:

When someone is so rude and so oblivious of just how rude they are being, humour is a great way of deflecting their comments.

Kirstie_

My boyfriend is a saint. He joking said to me that he had some pain killers he could have offered. He might do that next time he said!

I think what's more hurtful is I'm running a stand at this trade fair and its a big thing, I'm petrified if I'm honest. My boyfriends been great, He bought me a little good luck charm bracelet thing so "He's always with me". My mum knew how important this was to me and she hasn't even said anything

My boyfriend has been so supportive both on a personal and work level, telling me what to do if I need his department or his help, So he is protecting me

pollypenny

Why on Earth would your mum ask if your bf is a drug dealer?

Is there anything about him that makes her so unhappy with him?

Money_maker

Yes, he's dating her daughter and possibly may come between the mother and her incredible hold over her daughter who lacks the courage to stand up to her. In a nutshell.

thorsoak

Ask yourself : where do you want to see yourself this time next year? Still at home, with your mum still making the same comments about your personal life?

Start taking steps to improve your life - not your relationship with your mother.

Kirstie_

pollypenny wrote: »

Why on Earth would your mum ask if your bf is a drug dealer?

Is there anything about him that makes her so unhappy with him?

She picked/ gave approval to my sisters boyfriend. I didn't seek such approval, I genuinely fell for my boyfriend "Love at first sight"

thorsoak wrote: »

Ask yourself : where do you want to see yourself this time next year? Still at home, with your mum still making the same comments about your personal life?

Start taking steps to improve your life - not your relationship with your mother.

Living with my boyfriend, when I do I feel so different

Kirstie_

Oh and apparently he has a "Drug Dealers car"

Ames

Maybe you should ask her how she has so much knowledge about drug dealers...

Most people if they worried about a big flash car would jump to the conclusion that he'd got into debt for it. Not that he was Pablo Escobar!

I've been trying to think of a way of putting this that won't offend anyone, but I can't so I'll just go ahead anyway. Usually these types of threads have most replies on the side of the parent. The fact that all the replies are on your side - including ones from older posters - really shows that it's your mum who's in the wrong and not you.

'Picking' your sister's partner sounds worrying. You do know that's not normal, right?

Kirstie_

Ames wrote: »

Maybe you should ask her how she has so much knowledge about drug dealers...

Most people if they worried about a big flash car would jump to the conclusion that he'd got into debt for it. Not that he was Pablo Escobar!

I've been trying to think of a way of putting this that won't offend anyone, but I can't so I'll just go ahead anyway. Usually these types of threads have most replies on the side of the parent. The fact that all the replies are on your side - including ones from older posters - really shows that it's your mum who's in the wrong and not you.

'Picking' your sister's partner sounds worrying. You do know that's not normal, right?

I agree, My boyfriend even said he saves hard for his cars, the last one he put a bit on finance but then paid the finance off quickly,

Thank you it means a lot, My boyfriend also gave me a key to his place and said if things ever get too much at home I can just go his even if he isn't there, which I thought was sweet.

I know it isn't right, I didn't let her pick my boyfriend