Parents want to meet boyfriend

Kirstie_

I am hoping for a better day today

My mum still hasn't asked how yesterday went, upset me a bit.

thorsoak

Kirstie_ wrote: »

I am hoping for a better day today

My mum still hasn't asked how yesterday went, upset me a bit.

Today is another day - you managed the problem of yesterday - well done for that. Your b/f was suportive and helped you out - and you didn't need your mum! She's obviously miffed that you are beginning to test your wings - so she is leaving you to it (probably hoping that you will fail and need her help) - and you are managing!

Now start saving and planning an independent life - and don't let negativity drag you down. Onwards and Upwards! x

Kirstie_

I suppose so. My dad did ring today ask how its going, I offered them some tickets to the trade show my dad said that mum might not want to go, he will try.

Today went better, Only had to ring IT twice, but he got in trouble for helping me from his boss as I apparently jumped the queue, He said he told them if he had me crying on the phone I became his priority.

I got back to the room and he had some roses waiting for me. He is sweet.

I've been thinking about the moving out, I'm going to do a lot of trade shows and I'll be paying rent on an empty place. How do other people deal with that?

dancing_star

Kirstie_ wrote: »

I suppose so. My dad did ring today ask how its going, I offered them some tickets to the trade show my dad said that mum might not want to go, he will try.

Probably better if they don't come. Don't mix work & family. You need to be professional at a trade show and if your mum says something critical or tactless it will be difficult. Especially if you already cry when things go wrong.

warby68

Kirstie_ wrote: »

I suppose so. My dad did ring today ask how its going, I offered them some tickets to the trade show my dad said that mum might not want to go, he will try.

Today went better, Only had to ring IT twice, but he got in trouble for helping me from his boss as I apparently jumped the queue, He said he told them if he had me crying on the phone I became his priority.

I got back to the room and he had some roses waiting for me. He is sweet.

I've been thinking about the moving out, I'm going to do a lot of trade shows and I'll be paying rent on an empty place. How do other people deal with that?

You and he need to be careful at work. He is dealing with you on a personal level in work rather than professionally- that will not go down well and neither will mention of you crying at an IT snag.

You can't break or ignore work protocols because you are personally involved.

chesky

I warned Kirstie on a previous thread about involving her relationship with her b/f in their professional life. Looks like the penny didn't drop.

chesky

I still don't understand why she's invited her mother to the trade fair - I'd pay good money to keep her away! I have this vision of mum at the stand, informing prospective clients that her daughter's boyfriend is a drug dealer. Enough to get them BOTH the sack.

Red-Squirrel_2

Kirstie_ wrote: »

I suppose so. My dad did ring today ask how its going, I offered them some tickets to the trade show my dad said that mum might not want to go, he will try.

Today went better, Only had to ring IT twice, but he got in trouble for helping me from his boss as I apparently jumped the queue, He said he told them if he had me crying on the phone I became his priority.

I got back to the room and he had some roses waiting for me. He is sweet.

I've been thinking about the moving out, I'm going to do a lot of trade shows and I'll be paying rent on an empty place. How do other people deal with that?

Just a warning, crying at work is really unprofessional. If you need 5 minutes take it in private but get yourself together before dealing with colleagues.

onomatopoeia99

You should avoid bypassing normal internal procedures to contact your boyfriend on work related matters during office hours. What you did is a good way to get you both a disciplinary.

As you both work at the same place, it is really important for your employment (both of you) that you keep your relationship during working hours strictly professional. Your employer can't do anything about you dating another employee or have a clause saying you can't in your employment contract (article 8 applies here and they would lose at an employment tribunal if they attempted it on that basis alone) but they can if you don't follow proper procedure.

Be really careful, basically.

Also, IT failures are not worth shedding tears over - if you're relying on it to do your job, it's the company's responsibility to provide you with the correct tools (in this case working IT systems) to do it.

fairy_lights

Kirstie_ wrote: »

Today went better, Only had to ring IT twice, but he got in trouble for helping me from his boss as I apparently jumped the queue, He said he told them if he had me crying on the phone I became his priority.

You're a full grown adult with a professional job - you shouldn't be crying down the phone to IT regardless of your relationship status, I'm not surprised he got in trouble.
And he's offering to pay a deposit for you if you want to move out of your parents house? It sounds like you've gone from relying on your parents to relying on your boyfriend without learning how to be independent at all.