Parents want to meet boyfriend

ognum

I have an overwhelming feeling from this thread that the OP is very immature. She appears to have gone from relying on her parents to relying on her boyfriend.

Op, stand on your own feet, refuse help from your boyfriend, don’t seek approval from your parents. You have a job to do and your parents should not be visiting you at work.

Move forward and stand on your own feet not other peoples, stop crying, do your job and be independent.

Kirstie_

I'm not immature. I am not taking my boyfriends money! He offered and I said no as I want to do things on my own.

As for crying I did it in a back room, The issue was logged with IT, However my direct report manager even said I should ring him because "He is the only one in IT to get things done or fixed quickly".

As for the company supplying working kit. They say they do and this was beyond what they would prepare for.

Comms69

Kirstie_ wrote: »

I'm not immature. I am not taking my boyfriends money! He offered and I said no as I want to do things on my own.

As for crying I did it in a back room, The issue was logged with IT, However my direct report manager even said I should ring him because "He is the only one in IT to get things done or fixed quickly".

As for the company supplying working kit. They say they do and this was beyond what they would prepare for.

But you shouldn't be crying at all! Sorry but that's just the way it is.


Crying at work, especially because of something like this, would make me seriously consider your future at the company.

ognum

Kirstie_ wrote: »

I'm not immature. I am not taking my boyfriends money! He offered and I said no as I want to do things on my own.

As for crying I did it in a back room, The issue was logged with IT, However my direct report manager even said I should ring him because "He is the only one in IT to get things done or fixed quickly".

As for the company supplying working kit. They say they do and this was beyond what they would prepare for.

You have not addressed your need for your Mum and Dad to visit you at work!

Well done for not taking your boyfriends money. Walk tall and alone for a while!

Mojisola

Comms69 wrote: »

But you shouldn't be crying at all! Sorry but that's just the way it is.

Crying at work, especially because of something like this, would make me seriously consider your future at the company.

If you do reach that stage, hide away in the loo for a few minutes and let the tears flow - then pull yourself together and face the world with a confident air (no matter that you don't feel it!).

It's not fair on your BF to be in tears on the phone to him about a work issue during working hours!

Money_maker

ognum wrote: »

I have an overwhelming feeling from this thread that the OP is very immature.

Agreed, or really emotional. Crying at the drop of a hat, being very upset over a few words, I hope the boyfriend can cope with needy.

Kirstie_

ognum wrote: »

You have not addressed your need for your Mum and Dad to visit you at work!

Well done for not taking your boyfriends money. Walk tall and alone for a while!

I wanted them to see that I can function on my own. They aren't coming so it doesn't matter

Mojisola wrote: »

If you do reach that stage, hide away in the loo for a few minutes and let the tears flow - then pull yourself together and face the world with a confident air (no matter that you don't feel it!).

It's not fair on your BF to be in tears on the phone to him about a work issue during working hours!

I will be doing that in future, I shouldn't have rang him, My manager did say he was the best person to talk to.

Money_maker wrote: »

Agreed, or really emotional. Crying at the drop of a hat, being very upset over a few words, I hope the boyfriend can cope with needy.

Emotional. I'm not needy neither,

Mojisola

Kirstie_ wrote: »

I shouldn't have rang him, My manager did say he was the best person to talk to.

If your manager said to contact him, that's what you should have done - just not while you were crying.

If you can work on building up your self-confidence, it should have a knock-on effect on reducing how emotionally you react to situations.

Good luck with the rest of the trade fair.

ska_lover

Comms69 wrote: »

But you shouldn't be crying at all! Sorry but that's just the way it is.


Crying at work, especially because of something like this, would make me seriously consider your future at the company.

People cry, and have emotions, and feel overwhelmed, it doesn't make you needy or overly emotional or any other negative label = Just human.

I have cried at work before, in the toilet. Mixture of personal issues, tiredness, and some petty work prob = blubbering in the cubicle.

Poor_Single_lady

Trying hard not to be rude but to me your thread reads like a lot of peoples teenage diaries with school swapped for work. That might be why people think you sound young.

Also adults pay rent and don't really worry about the time they are away from the flat but still paying rent. In case you were wondering you can't reclaim the rent paid for this time from the landlord. It's called life and being an adult.

I still think there is a bit of embellishment of the truth. Because you seem very anxious for your boyfriend to be seen as a hero and your mum to be seen as a villain - an awful lot like my teenage self.