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  • Comms69
    Comms69 Posts: 14,229 Forumite
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    ska_lover wrote: »
    People cry, and have emotions, and feel overwhelmed, it doesn't make you needy or overly emotional or any other negative label = Just human.

    I have cried at work before, in the toilet. Mixture of personal issues, tiredness, and some petty work prob = blubbering in the cubicle.



    People cry, sure. But about something so trivial?


    In anycase, I stand by what I said. I wouldn't employ someone like that, and that is my choice too.
  • ska_lover
    ska_lover Posts: 3,773 Forumite
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    Comms69 wrote: »
    People cry, sure. But about something so trivial?


    In anycase, I stand by what I said. I wouldn't employ someone like that, and that is my choice too.


    Sometimes, things are not as they seem on the surface - often tears are a result of a build up of problems, and a person becoming overwhelmed - there is always one 'straw that breaks the donkeys back'
    The opposite of what you know...is also true
  • Comms69
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    ska_lover wrote: »
    Sometimes, things are not as they seem on the surface - often tears are a result of a build up of problems, and a person becoming overwhelmed - there is always one 'straw that breaks the donkeys back'



    That's true. But requiring professionalism at work is hardly too much to ask.


    If you aren't able to work, you can sign off for 7 day self-cert. If you are able to work, then you need to be professional and capable.
  • Helen2k8
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    Comms69 wrote: »
    That's true. But requiring professionalism at work is hardly too much to ask.


    If you aren't able to work, you can sign off for 7 day self-cert. If you are able to work, then you need to be professional and capable.

    People aren't robots.
    I don't know anyone who would say that taking 5 minutes time out in a bathroom or back office to regroup, or cry then get it together, is unprofessional and incapable.
  • Comms69 wrote: »
    That's true. But requiring professionalism at work is hardly too much to ask.
    Apparently requiring compassion is too much, for some.

    Would be a poor excuse for a manager, never mind a poor excuse for a human, that took someone to task over a little cry when things they couldn't control went wrong.
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  • Comms69
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    Apparently requiring compassion is too much, for some.

    Would be a poor excuse for a manager, never mind a poor excuse for a human, that took someone to task over a little cry when things they couldn't control went wrong.



    Not at all. Compassion is totally separate.


    The way someone handles a crisis is exactly the kind of performance management that happens in workplaces up and down the country.
  • Helen2k8 wrote: »
    People aren't robots.
    I don't know anyone who would say that taking 5 minutes time out in a bathroom or back office to regroup, or cry then get it together, is unprofessional and incapable.

    But that isn't what happened here.
  • Apparently requiring compassion is too much, for some.

    Would be a poor excuse for a manager, never mind a poor excuse for a human, that took someone to task over a little cry when things they couldn't control went wrong.

    You have compassion when someone cries following a bereavement, not for someone who cries because of an IT problem.
  • I'm sorry for crying.
  • Comms69
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    Kirstie_ wrote: »
    I'm sorry for crying.

    Don’t be sorry!

    Just try to handle things better.
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