Parents want to meet boyfriend

Kirstie_

thorsoak wrote: »

Time to phone Mum and say "actually, I'm not coming home"?

You think that is the right way to go?

Marvel1

Kirstie_ wrote: »

You think that is the right way to go?

Assuming they mean permanently, then not before checking with boyfriend if ok to move in and discuss bill payments.

krlyr

Kirstie_ wrote: »

You think that is the right way to go?

The whole point of this thread is that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. It's about what you want, and what works for you.

If that's staying at home so you can save, fine. It it's moving in with the boyfriend, great. If it's getting a houseshare, hooray for you.

But don't move out because some strangers on the internet have told you to. That's no better than staying home because your mum wants to you to. Grow some balls and start making decisions for you.

thorsoak

Kirstie_ wrote: »

You think that is the right way to go?

Not to move in to your boyfriend's - not yet - not until you are both certain that is the right thing to do - but time to become an independent person in your own right - you are obviously well-thought of at work, to be sent to a trade fair for a fortnight, now start to think independently - look at what accommodation is available in your area - what you can afford, how much you will need to move - in other words, start making plans - and do not involve your mother - or she will be taking over.

Learn to live independently before living with someone else x

Kirstie_

I will have a think about things, Money wise I'd like more savings and a safety net. My boyfriend said he would give me the deposit and help me get on my feet if I wanted a place on my own or a house share

I'd love to live with my boyfriend but I'm thinking of waiting for a little while.

It is my first big trade fair, so I am really nervous about it, everyone says I'll do well, My boyfriend got me a bracelet with charms, however I feel really really nervous about

Kirstie_

I am totally scared for tomorrow

thorsoak

Kirstie_ wrote: »

I am totally scared for tomorrow

You KNOW you can do it, kiddo ...your bosses trust you - we look forward to hearing just how well you do, every day x

Kirstie_

thorsoak wrote: »

You KNOW you can do it, kiddo ...your bosses trust you - we look forward to hearing just how well you do, every day x

Thank you

I really hope I can. I am so nervous

hollydays

There’s no way you should move out of your mother’s home to live with your boyfriend to get away from her.

You don’t know your boyfriend that well yet .

You need to learn to live on your own. There’s some people who’ve never lived on their own their whole life .
You need to know that you can stand on your own two feet.

Kirstie_

If I was to move out, I'm not moving in with my boyfriend just yet. My boyfriends said he will help me look for a place if I want and he'd pay the deposit for me if I needed him to. He said that he'd talk to me about it after the trade show has finished.

The trade show. I had directors come and see the stand and other important people. I felt it was going wrong, The internet failed, I was panicking as I thought it was our stuff breaking. On the phone to IT and they were telling me they were sending someone but it would be 5 hours for them to come because they didn't consider it high priority. I ring my boyfriend in tears and he turns round and says "Oh that venue this issue happens a lot. On the router simply switch it off and back on"

I did and it worked. All in all it ended up an alright day.