5 OS pleasures in your day today - part 3

ampersand

Oh burger, again.
Post posted - and immediately lost.
Might try later if time+connectivity allow.

DigForVictory

SuffolkSue - just hoping you get some sleep in between times.
Ampersand - it is maddening when the invisible magic pixies slope off.
Frith - chuckled happily at nemesis thus startled!

The scouts have sent me a heap of photos, some over a decade old (times like this I am not asking about gdpr, these are tiny fragments of a good life happily lived & they help)

We had to tell our neighbours. The craven but careful graceful painful formal note through the door by night. We’ve had cards & flowers & offers of help, including Names & House numbers bless them!

The formal announcement is written, emailed, Facebook-ed. Good it’s done. It is possible funeral director types are worth their money. (Eyeing stationery costs I doubt it but to have had a template would have been so much easier.) Replies suggest that his vocation & brief career caring for the demented elderly will see the Alzheimer's society benefit & other relatives are planting the trees he loved but wasn’t allowed to climb.

We’ve been enjoying James May in Japan (amazon prime I think). It’s a wonderful mix of the comfortingly familiar & the utterly different & all four of us have crept into line of sight & earshot.

Scrambled egg on toast is wonderful. You can go from really not hungry nor wanting to cook to having healthy hot food in front of four in under 2 minutes. They’re all eaten, too.

Oh that Mary Beard interview with Clive James! Wonderful, moving, funny. Can’t agree with all of it, but hugely admire the grace.
Is this a place to admit anger? That medicine could & did give a rich famous man more time. My lad had 20 years & leaves no books, poetry, national treasure status & his conversation with Mary Beard would have been Very Different - food & phalluses and very bright raincoats. The anger ebbs as wry humour is easier to carry on living with.

VJsmum

Dear DforV - be angry, it is right to do so. Not that others lived but that yours did not. Also, he left behind you and his brothers and will be spoken of with love and humour for ever more. As you may know my BiL died young (though not quite so young as your lad) and we at least talk about him fondly and laugh at the memory of all the funny things he did (though anger at the mess he left behind often surfaces, 10 years on). (I say 'we at least', because his mother can not laugh, his wife a bit less so than us and deals with the fallout daily and the children barely remember. But his was suicide which throws up a whole load of different issues).

Frith - LOL at the comeuppance

Pleasures for yesterday

1. Sorting out DS's history assignment. It was fiddly to print but I got to read it and it's fab :T
2. Walked into town to the library (see 1 - it needed printing onto A3). Nice walks
3. Finally did the shopping - the pleasure was that, after 2 weeks, it was still only £60
4. Bought RTC strawberries and blueberries and had them with cream
5. Dinner at GBFs - superb meal as usual and lovely to catch up

Have a good day all - i'm still typing, the deadline is looming as i'm back from suspending my studies...

Suffolksue

DfV Anger is fine .
I am so angry at times it frightens me ,also the what ifs ( have you met those yet.)
Why is so much money spent on research into some illnesses but not others ?

Epilepsy is not “fashionable” neither is DHs assortment of letters
breast cancer is ,but even now I do not think DD could have been helped
,who knows in the future perhaps for all of us .

DDs friends help us too with their memories ,quite a discussion yesterday on The book of face as to what she’d have done with emojis ( another thing she missed) conclusion was she’d have had lots of conversations conducted with no words just emojis, made me smile .

Do whatever is best for you and yours

balabooberlies

'Food & Phalluses and Very Bright Raincoats'...........

A great title for a book or film. I can see all the above whizzing around psychadelically or popping up muted in the background. A little like the test I had yesterday for peripheral vision.

You are great writer. I imagine your family are too.

Do you remember the old photo albums ? The ones where you had to peel back a film of plastic to pop the photo underneath.

I know that this is recommending a tiny little plaster for a huge gaping wound but how about popping one of those somewhere so that your family can add thoughts or a picture of a tree.....anything that strikes as a reminder of your son.........for times when the spoken word is too painful......or not enough.

My Pleasures ?

Tea.........lots of it with digestive biscuits.
My poorly Tiggy (eye still bad) we are seeing eye vet tomorrow.
Taking Tallulah (my trolley) out and about.........chatting with lots of lovely people......she really has made a change in my life so deserves a name.
Realising that I really do like engaging with people and the last 4 or 5 years have been very bad for my mental health.
Reading Black Beauty again. So much said that is a testament to Anna Sewell's ability as a lay psychologist, animal/child advocate, social commentator, beacon for kindness.

And being able to find all of you everyday, here.

X

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Being angry is only being human and being human isn't something we can avoid besides which the lad has left something for his stay here, he's left this world a better place than it was just for his being alive, he's left love, laughter, shared with his family daftness and everyday normality which today will hurt like crazy but at a distance when it can be contemplated will bring smiles and fond memories, quite a build up of good things for one only 20 eh?

Coffee out this morning, they know us now and we don't have to tell them the order!

Found advent calendars for next year at half price.

Opened and enjoyed a small waxed Christmas cheese for lunch, wensleydale and cranberry deliciousness had with some Bath Ovals, yum!

Nice drive out after coffee and a bit of exploring where we'd not been before and there is some stunningly beautiful countryside in Gloucestershire.

Waiting now for DD1 and the family to come for an afternoon cuppa before dropping James's boys to church to meet their mum so I shall get some time to give them delayed Christmas gifts (they were both poorly on Christmas day) and also get to see Frieda for a while and have cuddles, lovely!

Blackbeard_of_Perranporth

Forts are with & as she burgered her post!
Thinks of DfV
:heartpuls to all in case!

Was inn emporium w8rs this morning. Poor lasy in front card did not work, second card did not work. Third and she announce that this was an American Excess card! I thought of NTNON! No, the don't travel by BR! Oh well, got all ours inn for less than £40 including Raffles food!

Watched some flicks on the river netz thing, Sex Tape and Instant Family. Though Ted would make an appearance!

All trimmed and groomed with a splash of the ship cologne of water.

Just whisking up the York pud mix for the snorkers in the hole!

I has a new toy, well it is dated but new. A Rubik's Cube!


PM2DD Just watching in the tube the right hook from Jonny Giles on Keagan 74 Charity Shield! Proper game. I See Ollie is on fire!

The frail old hand waits again for the …

Broomstick

Dear DfV, I am sending you and yours the biggest virtual hugs and love possible. I've only just seen your terribly sad news.

Hugs and love to SuffolkSue as well and everyone else in need, or who just wants them anyway

As the world news has been evolving over the past month or two or three, I've been thinking more and more about the need to focus on pleasures again - I last posted in August. I'm still living at my DM's caring 24/7. She's much frailer and now has had a dementia diagnosis (which we knew anyway) but there's been a great deal of positives so here's five recent ones:

1) We thought DM wouldn't need the side rails for her hospital bed initially but she's been falling out of bed without them. The guy who popped in today to fix them made her laugh suggesting that the rails were there to stop her running off to the pub when I wasn't looking.

2) Am getting the shopping delivered now and the brie and grapes that came with the last order were lovely for my lunch.

3) My best friend's regular phone calls and texts - too far away to help practically but a life-saver in all other ways.

4) The University Challenge Xmas final (which I watched on iplayer last night) was great. Agree the best team won.

5) Sitting at my work table overlooking some beautiful trees and the winter birds.

Have a good rest of today
B x

mhagster

Nice to ‘see you’ broomstick and to hear your news.

I’ve had the laziest day. Friend didn’t leave till late last night . We just sat chattering and laughing. Was woken through night by the ping of text from DD1 ( a vegan recipe and get back to sleep!) . DD2 up before me so she did the doggy duty. So I just stayed on in bed and caught up on Australian news ( so awful) and last nights Casualty .

Kind of pottered about. Laundry...always.

Made a veggie lasagne . Which was nice . Served with homemade coleslaw and from the freezer...scooped out mash from leftover baked potatoes from work with some spring onion chopped through. Also from freezer. Was most yummy, same again tomorrow night.

Also made some carrot cake cupcakes. Which were also very yummy...carrots are vegetables aren’t they?

Yay to Call the midwife!

procrastinator

Down day today so hard time finding 5 things

1. Slept most of the night
2. Next door out most of the afternoon
3. Fake Bailey's nearly done
4. Fluffy socks keeping toes toastie
5. Nice salad to end day.