5 OS pleasures in your day today - part 3

Frith

Pleasures for today (Sunday).


1) Not a bad sleep.


2) Crumpets for breakfast, left over korma for lunch then salmon for tea.


3) Hens OK.


4) Bigger son moved out today, to his outdoor adventuring job. He's not terribly impressed as yet as all the people being trained (5 or 6 different sites) are crammed into what should be the school pupil's overnight chalet, no phone reception, no internet, sharing a room with 2 others and for tea they were presented with chicken nuggets and ravioli! Also, he thought he'd be staying in Shropshire (so able to come home when he wanted) but they've been told after 3 weeks training they can be sent to any site in the UK or France! Had a slightly grumpy phone call at 9.30 saying he'd gone to bed to read a book.


The pleasure was smaller son trying to cheer him up this morning, "Don't worry, it'll all be stuff you like. All that climbing... and wassailing" :-D


5) Had a good tidy up and moved tables around to make using the computer easier.


6) Watched Ski Sunday (purely for the theme tune) then Skyfall.


7) Sort of vaguely planned the talk I'm supposed to be giving to the people at the museum tomorrow.


8) Did some Welsh on Duolingo.

DigForVictory

Frith - wishing you & both your amazing lads all the Very Best with this next step & I adore the wassailing.

Traditionally we love the “tooling up scenes” in films, where the good guys get the armour, the weapons, the ammo, check it over & get ready to kick *ss & take names. Today we rounded up three sorts of bag to start on our boy’s flat. We have areas, we have priorities. Just half of us have never been in the room before & half last saw a body there. Still, armed with hugs & kisses, on we go.

Oh gods, meeting people in shops. It’s sweet of them to care but I can see my husband standing so still it’s as if he’s bring flayed. Charming, civilised, so polite and stood rigid against the curiosity and the concern. The lads scattered in sight but with distance.

Toddler in loo “ friend having a pretend wee” “not bring rude, being pretend rude!” Aww.

Marie Kondo would have approved. We turned a young man’s retreat back into something resembling a bedroom. You still can’t see the floor but it’s covered in bags, rather than Everything. The first wave “stuff to come home” - Miword what a lot of clothing went to the flat with him from socks to serious waterproofs to things that make me think he must have had jackdaw in his ancestry - small bright things kept in a treasure box. Recognising where & when is a strange sweet tearful happy game. Middleson has had some of eldest’s son’s Family things & blinked & sagged slightly as the weight of ‘eldest’ lands on him.

I’m no great writer. I just keep jotting stuff down & being a spelling monster (oh & chivvying the offspring into thankyou letters - I think my work there is almost done)

Beware the Jabberwock - or guest who says they’ll call before they pop in but Doesn’t. If he finds more photos though, I’ll overlook it this time. He wanted to hear tales & so I obliged with the architecture, not the grief. An old house has many charming quirks. Defending its occupants just one!

villagelife

DforV how you feel is right for you whether anger, grief or any other emotion. Hugs to you and all your family.

1. Woke up late for me.

2. Spent time in the garden. Cleared veg plot and planted some bulba. It was dry and the fresh air was good.

3. Spoke to my neighbour. They had a good Christmas.

4. Went to MIL house and collected bricks from there In case we need them for the garden. The building work there is still going on and costing a fortune still.

5. Went for a Chinese meal and staff were lovely as normal.

CRANKY40

DforV, having been what is optimistically labelled a "young widow" at the age of 42, the best words that I have for you are the ones from my then 4 year old. He said "Don't worry mum, we're still a family, it's just that one of us is invisible now". The wisdom of children huh?

If nobody minds I would love to join this thread - I've been reading along for a while. In the face of solo parenting as detailed above, autism (mine not the boy - he's my "translator" some of the time) and the general challenges of the teenage years, he and I like to look for the positive and to find the humour in most situations.

mhagster

cranky just dive on in...we all did at some point

I think it’s sometimes hard when it’s such an established group that post each day. I know I felt like that 9 years ago. I’d just emigrated. I was really struggling and would read 5 OSP and think that looks like a plan...and it’s now just so much a part of my day to write them down.

And some days the pleasures come easier than others and others you have to really think...or just bank them for another day!

Hope everyone had a good day.

Suffolksue

dfV I think the ones who speak (preferably briefly ) are better than the ones who cross the road .

LaineyT

Hope things settle & improve for eldest Frith
Oh DFV I have no adequate words but know am thinking of you and hoping you are buoyed by those who care.
Welcome Cranks

Sunday pleasures,

Bacon butties and catching up on all things Ambridge.

Listening to the cricket whilst preparing the veg and watching Mama blackbird take her bath.

Twelfth Night loomed so the taking down of tree and decs, sigh. I busied myself with the dusting and hoovering up of pine needles but oh so miss the twinkly lights.

However, we did keep the cone garland above the hearth and various winter decs on the mantelpiece, I also found a gingerbread candle that I had picked up rtc in the event of such an emergency

Another episode of Wisting and then an early night with book.

VJsmum

Welcome Cranky and other newbies...

Continued strength DforV and others 'going through it'

Pleasures for yesterday

1. Clean sheets at bedtime
2. nut roast for dinner
3. DS seems calmer after a bit of a melt down on Saturday night
4. gin
5. not 'OS' but dried the laundry in the tumble drier...

Have a nice day if you can all - I am on a deadline to send 3 chapters to London tonight (going on hols tomorrow) and have just decided to tear one of them apart...

Jazee

I'm joining in too. Pleasures for yesterday.

Rare day with DH at home.
Lovely roast beef dinner.
Cuddles with my dogs when they returned from their weekend retreat aka DDs.
Dr. Who
Xmas snacks

Nargleblast

Pleasures yesterday....

Work, a twelve hour shift, was busy enough so as not to get bored.

Small but significant progress made with my project for the day, and grateful people all around.

Lunchtime at last, received the longed-for phone call, from son saying he'd finally got home after his Christmas and New Year holiday in Thailand.

Son had gone out to see his friend in the next village when I arrived home, but the plate containing the massive roast turkey dinner I'd left for him was empty in the sink.

My Christmas gift from Thailand was waiting for me - a beautiful gold bangle with a mix of gold and sparkly blue charms on it. Absolutely beautiful. Doubt it's real gold (if it were, it's substantial enough to cost hundreds of pounds) but that doesn't bother me, it's lovely and I shall wear it every day on my days off.

A day tinged with sadness today as son goes to London today to start the next phase of his life in a new job. However, I am so fortunate that he is alive and well and doing well in life. DigforVictory, your terrible news of your son's death has been a wake up call for those of us who complain about our children. Sorting his stuff out, dealing with other people's messages of sympathy, difficult but necessary. I think you might find, when it comes to his funeral, the day will be uplifting as well as sad. It will be a tribute to a wonderful young man. Keep on being kind to yourself.