Hey! Good morning! Tis a bit dark and dreary here this morning though dry. Very windy. A few plants strewn across the garden.
Yesterday did not go as I’d hoped. However today is of course another day.
Anyway in amongst the blah were some nicer moments.
Got my hair washed and blow dried for free at my salon but by apprentice. She did a very good job under supervision and then I was asked if I was free same time next week so she can do it unsupervised! Oh…go on then…who doesn’t want nice shiny hairdresser hair! And the girl was so lovely.
Finally…my porch is floored! Hurrah! Only taken me a year and a bit to sort it out! With a phone call to ask ‘where’s the beading? ‘ eh…nobody mentioned beading and I didn’t even think as when I got the rest of the flooring done I’d got new skirting boards. Anyway chap is going to pick them up for me and finish off on Saturday.
Also got a new outside the porch lamp that definitely works…as soon as anyone walks past it goes off!
A quick dash from hairdresser to home to pick up DD2 to finally get to see a GP ( who then said she should have been given an appointment on Thursday and then it was a local long weekend) it’s been a rough 6 days for her. Anyway she’s now been seen.
Then whilst in town i thought I’ll go pick up a voucher for a colleague’s leaving do. So whilst waiting fir them to write that I looked at my phone and my mum had messaged me that she’d fallen again. So phoned her to say I’m in town and waiting for DD2 at GP I’ll be up as soon as.
Then walked back through the park to get back to car and absorbed the niceness of autumn for a few minutes.
Then up to mums. Sigh. She’s not eating so therefor no strength so is falling but does not want me to call a doctor but I am going to call her specialist nurse today just as a matter of reporting the situation. Made her eat ( encouraged not forced) a wee yoghurt to take some painkillers with. She’d whacked herself on her poor ribs again. Got her back in to bed and an I’ll be round again later.
Dash back home to see worker chap. Quick lunch.
Then out to walk dog for friend who’s got poorly kids and can’t leave the house! Again just absorbed the nature around me. The rose hips. The colours. The crunch of leaves. Just needing to ground myself amongst the chaos of my day.
Thankfully between that and going back out I took in the washing as it started to pour!
Stood in a queue for pharmacy for 20 minutes and thankfully had a brolly in the car as I had shiny hair!
Then a very brief home before going back round to my mothers. She managed some toast but clearly didn’t want it and wouldn’t have eaten it if I hadn’t been there. I’ll be back round this morning.
And finally home and met two sets of friends as I pulled in the driveway and chatted with them separately so that was nice all the while admiring my new outdoor light working!
Then a huge chat to my friend as she told me her stuff and I told her mine!
Hoping for a less hectic day!
Sue you’ll know ( and you’ve recognised) when the right time is to talk. I was 14 weeks after my husband died . In Australia you get government funded subsidies to see a psychologist for mental health. So I’d been at GP about something else and had said could I get my referral but I don’t need to use it yet but I’ll know when I will and I did. And it’s good to talk to someone who’s neutral, who’s not being upset because you are, or they’re not upsetting you because they are.
it’s also hard to go from being responsible for everything…like the listening out for breathing changes. Time for meds. Are they okay? Are they okay? Are they okay? It’s a constant. To be the planner of everything related to them and yourself ( and for me my kids too) and then to just not have that function/responsibilities in your life and to have to try and seek your place in life again as you adjust to them not being there, as well as dealing with the grief and sadness, not to mention the paperwork. But also the day to day stuff too. I still don’t sleep terribly well but haven’t for so many years. Although I may moan about the alarm being set early I’m usually up anyway.
so I think you’re doing okay and sometimes okay is enough…we don’t have to be all singing / all dancing everyday! In those early days/ weeks/months it’s enough to get up and be clean and anything else is a bonus…my baseline was clean teeth and clean knickers. Not that I’ve never been without either but I just set that as my baseline for each day and obviously managed much more than that. I personally wouldn’t recommend a move your life across the world six months in however it’s what I did!
So be kind to yourself. Rest when you can even if you don’t sleep. I would and still do ( like yesterday) ground myself with nature. If I was overwhelmed I would look around and see what was there. What was a constant. It’s usually birds and trees and a sky. Take care my lovely 😊
Frizz Hair in the shower. Just like Ms Admiral!!! 5k No! The Admiral did 45k on the Windsor Walk in 1980! I still feel the aches! Hens OK! PK Jam of course! Happy Birthday VJ!
Ships Log!
Watched another film on the Netflix last night! Rush Hour 2 Soda water and cheeses were consumed, we had seen the first one a bit ago! Very good! Far better than ...
Fed Empress her royal jelly this morning and took her for a walks around her empire. Neighbour is looking after her this weekend, as I am of on the Not quite Coney Island tour!
Discount card arrived yesterday that magics 25% off the food bill and fizzy water, while on the tour!
Defrosting the refrigerator today, done every year at this time and have we timed it right. No frozen food in, all used up! Did not take long to defrost as it is done regularly! Have run the central heating so pump is declogged and bled ready for the cold nights! Running it every so often prevents mess later. Service, at £60 is due in March. Last time it was serviced, Dazza the local man was chuckling how good our system was! Bothe the refrigerator and the furnace are 20 years old!
Had the nice man from the bank on the phone wanting me to move my money into a safe place! Funny how they never know your name! As the Admiral is able to con back to them, it saved another person being scammed for ten minutes!
Well deck shoes are on, Cardigan today and my pipe!
Put your hand on your heart, feel that. That is worth going for!
Having overdone things a bit the other weekend, with mixing furniture and decorating, an aromatherapy massage yesterday really helped minimise the aches.
Treated myself to lunch out at Pizza Hut, a rare event.
Bought and put up a bit of fence screening in the garden, as neighbours that side will be moving later this year, and I wanted to sort out fence gap issues before new people moved in.
Enjoying the warm sunshine in the garden.
Dog was out for five hours with the dog walker - he collects and drops off other dogs too, and only lives round the corner so she's his last "drop off". Despite this, she was still up for a game of football in the garden.
Tried a Shirley Goode recipe for a no-bake cereal bar packed with nuts, seeds, fruits, cereal and oats - as well as the butter, syrup and brown sugar. Lovely, very more-ish.
Lit a small fire in the firepit as soon as it started getting dark and the patio coloured lights came on. Burnt dried sage, rosemary and lavender, grounded myself being barefoot on the lawn, celebrated the autumn equinox and all the blessings of the Earth, sent blessings out to all who need them.
Warm shower, clean pyjamas, new velour socks, glass of brandy poured and settled down to watch Changing Rooms.
Mhags ,Thank you a thousand times ,you have summed it up completely.
I am at a loss trying to find a point to my life or existence .
as a wise friend pointed out I retired (already planned ) 12 yrs ago 1 month after my DD was told her cancer had spread and was terminal ,I looked after her and her children for 14 months until she died,DH was still working ,I then looked after the children full time for 2 yrs until her husband found a new partner,then just picked up the pieces as needed.we then thought that now was our time (DH by then retired) less than a year later he started falling etc and an awful 5 yrs followed. Recently DGD has gone off to uni (the best thing for her ) lm now faffing around lost . The verdict seems to be that I must take things gently and not expect too much of myself,but I do wish I could sleep undisturbed Thank you all so much
big hugs suffolksue you have done an amazing job looking after others you love, no wonder you feel lost. Take time, be gentle with yourself. We're all here for you and for each other. 1) A lazy start, including sitting at the breakfast table doing puzzles 2) meetings 9 - 3 (meh) but was able to heat my hm mushroom soup during one of the meetings - it was lish - followed by toasted hm soda bread with not hm jam yum 3) by 3:30 I was done in and no meetings till 5 so decided to have a lovely bubbly bath and read my book - the Venetian Legacy 4) which put me in mind of prosecco so, after my last meeting of the day at 5 took a bottle up to mum's. she had cooked a celebratory chicken dinner for dd2 5) and now we're home watching episode 3 of The Cleaner.
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I— I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.
Hello and bedtime! Just in and straight up to bed .
Today has been dry and windy with the odd shower of light rain.
Round to mums this morning. And again late afternoon.
Walked friends dog again. DD2 came with me for half of the walk. Which exhausted her.
Did a bit in the garden. Just tidying up, cutting back. Put obelisks away as they kept on blowing over. The sweet peas are in a tangle but can have another weeks reprieve in case there’s anymore flowers ( and my garden bin is full)
Went for a reiki session…came away with a bag of crab apples! Which I shall attempt to make a jelly with.
Then it was pick up DD2 and back to mums then supermarket where I bought some RTC flowers.
Quick doggy walk.
Then up to boss to plan our next creation! So there was setting out, drawing plans…only I can translate the scribbles to create something amazing tomorrow night! Costing etc. Chatting.
Hugs to Suffolk Sue. MHags you’re a marvel 😊. Cathedral looks lovely Frith. Ahoy Admiral 😊
Not been on for a few days. Long drive, 350 miles, back from Northumberland and phone call from builders to say could they start on Monday? Well yes. So back home to clear out the lounge, hall etc and relocate to the kitchen/diner. Then dentist and packing for trip to Cornwall for 11 days with OH and escape the chaos! We’re now in Cornwall with an extra overnight stop at Premier Inn so we could visit Restormel Castle in Lostwithel, beautiful views. Good meal last night at the onsite tavern, didn’t sleep well despite comfortable bed. Visiting Lanhydrock today and then on to our beach cottage at Cadgwith. Happy days. Have a great Friday everyone 😊
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Yesterday did not go as I’d hoped. However today is of course another day.
Finally…my porch is floored! Hurrah! Only taken me a year and a bit to sort it out! With a phone call to ask ‘where’s the beading? ‘ eh…nobody mentioned beading and I didn’t even think as when I got the rest of the flooring done I’d got new skirting boards. Anyway chap is going to pick them up for me and finish off on Saturday.
it’s also hard to go from being responsible for everything…like the listening out for breathing changes. Time for meds. Are they okay? Are they okay? Are they okay? It’s a constant. To be the planner of everything related to them and yourself ( and for me my kids too) and then to just not have that function/responsibilities in your life and to have to try and seek your place in life again as you adjust to them not being there, as well as dealing with the grief and sadness, not to mention the paperwork. But also the day to day stuff too. I still don’t sleep terribly well but haven’t for so many years. Although I may moan about the alarm being set early I’m usually up anyway.
so I think you’re doing okay and sometimes okay is enough…we don’t have to be all singing / all dancing everyday! In those early days/ weeks/months it’s enough to get up and be clean and anything else is a bonus…my baseline was clean teeth and clean knickers. Not that I’ve never been without either but I just set that as my baseline for each day and obviously managed much more than that. I personally wouldn’t recommend a move your life across the world six months in however it’s what I did!
For yesterday,
Squeezing every little bit out of these warm, sunny days by spending as much time outside as possible.
Morning at the yard, lunged my girlie and then we had a mooch around, the honey buzzards were above us, riding the thermals high up.
Afternoon in the garden, our apple harvest is disappointing this year with many fruit rotting on tree, think we may have a fungal disease.
Tea was squeaky cheese on a bed of spinach and roasted veg.
Support from a friend over another mutual friend being difficult.
Mhags, I know you definitely don't want to be in this situation, but how wonderful that S Sue has such a wise and considerate friend here.
Love and hugs to you both x
Frizz Hair in the shower. Just like Ms Admiral!!!
5k No! The Admiral did 45k on the Windsor Walk in 1980! I still feel the aches!
Hens OK!
PK Jam of course!
Happy Birthday VJ!
Ships Log!
Watched another film on the Netflix last night! Rush Hour 2 Soda water and cheeses were consumed, we had seen the first one a bit ago! Very good! Far better than ...
Fed Empress her royal jelly this morning and took her for a walks around her empire. Neighbour is looking after her this weekend, as I am of on the Not quite Coney Island tour!
Discount card arrived yesterday that magics 25% off the food bill and fizzy water, while on the tour!
Defrosting the refrigerator today, done every year at this time and have we timed it right. No frozen food in, all used up! Did not take long to defrost as it is done regularly! Have run the central heating so pump is declogged and bled ready for the cold nights! Running it every so often prevents mess later. Service, at £60 is due in March. Last time it was serviced, Dazza the local man was chuckling how good our system was! Bothe the refrigerator and the furnace are 20 years old!
Had the nice man from the bank on the phone wanting me to move my money into a safe place! Funny how they never know your name! As the Admiral is able to con back to them, it saved another person being scammed for ten minutes!
Well deck shoes are on, Cardigan today and my pipe!
Put your hand on your heart, feel that. That is worth going for!
Keep ship shape!
Having overdone things a bit the other weekend, with mixing furniture and decorating, an aromatherapy massage yesterday really helped minimise the aches.
Treated myself to lunch out at Pizza Hut, a rare event.
Bought and put up a bit of fence screening in the garden, as neighbours that side will be moving later this year, and I wanted to sort out fence gap issues before new people moved in.
Enjoying the warm sunshine in the garden.
Dog was out for five hours with the dog walker - he collects and drops off other dogs too, and only lives round the corner so she's his last "drop off". Despite this, she was still up for a game of football in the garden.
Tried a Shirley Goode recipe for a no-bake cereal bar packed with nuts, seeds, fruits, cereal and oats - as well as the butter, syrup and brown sugar. Lovely, very more-ish.
Lit a small fire in the firepit as soon as it started getting dark and the patio coloured lights came on. Burnt dried sage, rosemary and lavender, grounded myself being barefoot on the lawn, celebrated the autumn equinox and all the blessings of the Earth, sent blessings out to all who need them.
Warm shower, clean pyjamas, new velour socks, glass of brandy poured and settled down to watch Changing Rooms.
as a wise friend pointed out I retired (already planned ) 12 yrs ago 1 month after my DD was told her cancer had spread and was terminal ,I looked after her and her children for 14 months until she died,DH was still working ,I then looked after the children full time for 2 yrs until her husband found a new partner,then just picked up the pieces as needed.we then thought that now was our time (DH by then retired) less than a year later he started falling etc and an awful 5 yrs followed.
Recently DGD has gone off to uni (the best thing for her )
lm now faffing around lost .
The verdict seems to be that I must take things gently and not expect too much of myself,but I do wish I could sleep undisturbed
Thank you all so much
1) A lazy start, including sitting at the breakfast table doing puzzles
2) meetings 9 - 3 (meh) but was able to heat my hm mushroom soup during one of the meetings - it was lish - followed by toasted hm soda bread with not hm jam yum
3) by 3:30 I was done in and no meetings till 5 so decided to have a lovely bubbly bath and read my book - the Venetian Legacy
4) which put me in mind of prosecco so, after my last meeting of the day at 5 took a bottle up to mum's. she had cooked a celebratory chicken dinner for dd2
5) and now we're home watching episode 3 of The Cleaner.
Today has been dry and windy with the odd shower of light rain.
Went for a reiki session…came away with a bag of crab apples! Which I shall attempt to make a jelly with.
Then home, very quick doggy walk and bed!
1) Not a bad sleep.
2) Hens OK.
3) More fillings of gaps and holes in walls. Also painted the bedrooms ceilings.
4) Leek and potato soup for lunch. Smaller son made linguine for tea. Then we had rice pudding and raspberries.
5) Smaller son and I went to the cathedral in floody city to watch a show about Space.
Not been on for a few days. Long drive, 350 miles, back from Northumberland and phone call from builders to say could they start on Monday? Well yes. So back home to clear out the lounge, hall etc and relocate to the kitchen/diner. Then dentist and packing for trip to Cornwall for 11 days with OH and escape the chaos!
We’re now in Cornwall with an extra overnight stop at Premier Inn so we could visit Restormel Castle in Lostwithel, beautiful views.
Good meal last night at the onsite tavern, didn’t sleep well despite comfortable bed.
Visiting Lanhydrock today and then on to our beach cottage at Cadgwith. Happy days.
Have a great Friday everyone 😊