Getting rid of lodger...also a friend AWKWARD!

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black_wings wrote: »

Unfortunately he is not named on the tenancy as he does not have:
a) any money to put down for a deposit
b) no money for credit checks
c) wouldn't pass credit checks as annual salary/30 = can only rent property for £230. Nothing in our area £230.

Right - then you need to keep that in mind. Has he got copies of the keys? What happens if you leave and he stays? It might be worth changing the locks the week before and chucking him out. If he's got the kid in toe he might get some council emergency accommodation.

(Research this, I have no experience!)

Make sure your BF never gives this guys keys to your new place

annandale

Not really surprised he can only pay you 400 quid a month if he only earns 500.

Your bf has told him you are both moving. You've got no obligation to take him with you

BTW if he's taken advantage, he's done so because you've let his behaviour go.

Really don't see the point in you discussing how awful he is when that behaviour has been allowed to carry on for a year.

Pixie5740

ringo_24601 wrote: »

Depending on how your tenancy agreement is, you could just leave him in the current place and move on - let the landlord sort it out.

Cruel.. but this shouldn't be your problem

I think doing that would still very much be the OP's problem. There's a good possibility the landlord could charge the OP double rent under the Distress for Rent Act 1737.

Pixie5740

His wife booted him out. His own parents booted him out. Now it's the OP's turn.

Pollycat

black_wings wrote: »

Thanks all for the responses so far. I want rid by it's BFs mate so this is why it's so awkward.
When we told him on the weekend about buying our own place and that he could come with us for a while if he needs to the response was 'well i don't really like that area and don't want to live there but I suppose I'll have to I've got not choice'. I felt like saying, okay go sort yourself out then. BF is a sap and doesn't want to have difficult conversations whereas I am like a raging bull. Hah!
Said friend also has a small child which he has custody of during weekends which makes life difficult as I don't like children and don't want them living with me/they tend to destroy the house and now we are left to take responsibility from our tenancy deposit.
RE telling his parents, he lived with them for a few months before becoming a sofa surfer but they kicked him out (presumably because he is lazy and hard to live with?) He now does not have any contact with a single member of his family.
He is unfortunately one of those people who blames his problems on everyone else not realising perhaps it is him with the problem.
I desperately want my own space. Boyfriend and I have never lived alone; we've sacrificed by flat sharing for 4 years in order to save every penny to buy now I want to enjoy the hard work paying off!

I think you've shot yourselves in the foot by telling him he can come with you to your new house.
The best thing for you would have been to tell him that your arrangement with him will be at an end when you move into your new house.
What were you thinking?
If his child is causing damage to your rented house, do you think it will be any different in a house you own?

I think his response to your news is truly shocking, ungrateful and selfish.
I would tell your partner that he has to tell him that you've had a rethink and, as he doesn't like the area you're moving to and doesn't want to live there, he can find himself somewhere to live where he wants to.

I'll say it again:

Pollycat wrote: »

I'd question whether this guy really is a friend or just a !!!!!!!!!!.

I really have no idea why MSE have censored the word 'free - loader'.

professor~yaffle

Pixie5740 wrote: »

I think doing that would still very much be the OP's problem. There's a good possibility the landlord could charge the OP double rent under the Distress for Rent Act 1737.

I've never heard of this :huh:

Does it apply in England and Wales, too, or just in Scotland?

black_wings

Pixie5740 wrote: »

His wife booted him out. His own parents booted him out. Now it's the OP's turn.

:rotfl: :rotfl:

sulphate

No wonder his marriage ended!

Definitely not your responsibility. He should have manned up and increased his hours or made positive efforts to find another job. DO NOT take him with you. Do not even give this guy your new address, or he will turn up at your doorstep begging to be let in like a stray animal.

This guy is an adult with presumably no health issues so you shouldn’t be feeling sorry for him.

If you allow him to move with you then he will have no incentive/push to change his behaviour.

I also agree that it may be against the terms of your tenancy agreement to sublet, but soon enough that won’t be relevant…

Be prepared to lose this guy as a friend. But do you really want him as a friend??

Pixie5740

professor~yaffle wrote: »

I've never heard of this :huh:

Does it apply in England and Wales, too, or just in Scotland?

It doesn't apply to Scotland at all just England & Wales.

black_wings

Pollycat - I agree we have shot ourselves in the foot by being too soft. I regret the conversation now and wish we had been firmer in saying he can't come with us.
I may have to go back to him and drop some big hints that it would be easier all round if he made sure he found somewhere in 2 months.
Coincidentally he has this week off work so now would be a good time to look for a job and housing.