Getting rid of lodger...also a friend AWKWARD!

JReacher1

Yeah don't take him with you. You've given him two months notice and he needs to sort himself out in that time. You're buying a new place with your BF, you don't want this guy and his kid there as well. It is ridiculous.

black_wings

BrassicWoman wrote: »

BF needs to have this conversation. I am not sure I'd be buying with BF if he won't.

BF did, he was the one who told him we are moving in 2 months

professor~yaffle

black_wings wrote: »

Thanks all for the responses so far. I want rid by it's BFs mate so this is why it's so awkward.
When we told him on the weekend about buying our own place and that he could come with us for a while if he needs to the response was 'well i don't really like that area and don't want to live there but I suppose I'll have to I've got not choice'. I felt like saying, okay go sort yourself out then. BF is a sap and doesn't want to have difficult conversations whereas I am like a raging bull. Hah!
Said friend also has a small child which he has custody of during weekends which makes life difficult as I don't like children and don't want them living with me/they tend to destroy the house and now we are left to take responsibility from our tenancy deposit.
RE telling his parents, he lived with them for a few months before becoming a sofa surfer but they kicked him out (presumably because he is lazy and hard to live with?) He now does not have any contact with a single member of his family.
He is unfortunately one of those people who blames his problems on everyone else not realising perhaps it is him with the problem.
I desperately want my own space. Boyfriend and I have never lived alone; we've sacrificed by flat sharing for 4 years in order to save every penny to buy now I want to enjoy the hard work paying off!

If you don't tell him clearly, NOW, that he needs to get himself another place to live he (and his sprog) WILL be moving with you. You know this, right?

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Depending on how your tenancy agreement is, you could just leave him in the current place and move on - let the landlord sort it out.

Cruel.. but this shouldn't be your problem

JReacher1

ringo_24601 wrote: »

Depending on how your tenancy agreement is, you could just leave him in the current place and move on - let the landlord sort it out.

Cruel.. but this shouldn't be your problem

I would suspect you wouldn't get your deposit back if you left a random guy sat in the spare bedroom!

BrassicWoman

black_wings wrote: »

BF did, he was the one who told him we are moving in 2 months

But!

"My boyfriend feels bad for him and will say he can come with us for a while"

has he told your friend he's coming to stay? If he has - do NOT exchange contracts until it's sorted!

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JReacher1 wrote: »

I would suspect you wouldn't get your deposit back if you left a random guy sat in the spare bedroom!

It might be worth it!

black_wings

ringo_24601 wrote: »

Depending on how your tenancy agreement is, you could just leave him in the current place and move on - let the landlord sort it out.

Cruel.. but this shouldn't be your problem

Unfortunately he is not named on the tenancy as he does not have:
a) any money to put down for a deposit
b) no money for credit checks
c) wouldn't pass credit checks as annual salary/30 = can only rent property for £230. Nothing in our area £230.

Hence why in my eyes, I think we did a good favour to get him out of a tricky spot for 12 months.

FredG

The guy is leeching off your goodwill. He is offering zero and taking lots in return and seems to have a remarkably entitled attitude regarding it.


If you take him with you, you'll be stuck with him for years. I guarantee it. Do what's right for the two of you, not the three.

professor~yaffle

black_wings wrote: »

Unfortunately he is not named on the tenancy as he does not have:
a) any money to put down for a deposit
b) no money for credit checks
c) wouldn't pass credit checks as annual salary/30 = can only rent property for £230. Nothing in our area £230.

London is ridiculously pricey, I know, but assuming he's fit and healthy, he needs to either move to a cheaper area, or up his working hours, or both.