This would be funny if I wasn't so upset. Don't know what to think

MXW

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spirit

How come your friend knew about the snoring before you'd had a chance to speak to him about it?

swingaloo

You were not staying the night and he got up twice to find out the time so presumably you were not asleep. How could you be snoring?

Seems a very childish way for two people in their 50s to be conducting a relationship.

downshifted

You sound like a couple of teenagers. Try talking to each other before you flounce out in future

Primrose

Sounds like both of you have got out of the habit of being permanently in a relationship with somebody else.
You do sound rather confrontational and he,a probably not used to all this questioning when he,s been used to living on his own and not having to justify himself and account for every action he,d taken.

Back off and give each other some space. He sounds as if he's feeling pressurised by your texts and phone calls. Most men don't like dramas and confrontations and just want a nice steady relationship. You're putting too much pressure on him with all these interrogations and he's perhaps starting to feel he'd rather be lonely and have some peace and quiet.

tea_lover

He lay down on a different part of the bed so you stormed out? You sound like a right drama queen.

MXW

Primrose wrote: »

Sounds like both of you have got out of the habit of being permanently in a relationship with somebody else.
You do sound rather confrontational and he,a probably not used to all this questioning when he,s been used to living on his own and not having to justify himself and account for every action he,d taken.

Back off and give each other some space. He sounds as if he's feeling pressurised by your texts and phone calls. Most men don't like dramas and confrontations and just want a nice steady relationship. You're putting too much pressure on him with all these interrogations and he's perhaps starting to feel he'd rather be lonely and have some peace and quiet.

Thanks for your reply. Yes, I think you are right, maybe we have got out of the habit of being in a relationship. I think the problem is that he won't talk about things, and just shuts down. I'm not really confrontational, but do admit that I say what's on my mind, and then its forgotten about, he tends to bury his head in the sand. Everyone is different, and I wouldn't want to change him (although it is frustrating), it's when he says he doesn't know how he feels, and then contridictes himself, almost straight away. I'm upset because he did exactly the same thing last year, and I'm wondering what happens next.

MXW

tea_lover wrote: »

He lay down on a different part of the bed so you stormed out? You sound like a right drama queen.

No, that is not why I was upset. I was upset because, when the norm is to be cuddled up with someone in bed, and they are laid with their back to you, at the other side of the bed......And twice making a point of waking you up and telling you what time it is....... Especially when it's much earlier than you would normally be going home.

emsywoo123

MXW wrote: »

Thanks for your reply. Yes, I think you are right, maybe we have got out of the habit of being in a relationship. I think the problem is that he won't talk about things, and just shuts down. I'm not really confrontational, but do admit that I say what's on my mind, and then its forgotten about, he tends to bury his head in the sand. Everyone is different, and I wouldn't want to change him (although it is frustrating), it's when he says he doesn't know how he feels, and then contridictes himself, almost straight away. I'm upset because he did exactly the same thing last year, and I'm wondering what happens next.

I do this all the time with my OH, I am an utter nightmare, but we are in a difficult situation. Thing is, I love him, he loves me, and my teenage-esque strops are something he deals with admirably. I only do them flippantly and because I am a drama queen....I do have other redeeming qualities (I hope!) :rotfl:

We have a solid and trusting foundation, and ultimately sure of our future and relationship. Patience is key. For both of you. Also, maybe do not put all your happiness eggs in one basket, so to speak.

annandale

I don't get any of this tbh

How would your friend know that you snore?

Tbh I think the first time he got cold feet would have been the time I exited this relationship

Mojisola

MXW wrote: »

Last night, we had a night in at his house. Went to bed (I wasn't staying the night).

MXW wrote: »

No, that is not why I was upset. I was upset because, when the norm is to be cuddled up with someone in bed, and they are laid with their back to you, at the other side of the bed......And twice making a point of waking you up and telling you what time it is....... Especially when it's much earlier than you would normally be going home.

Even if it was earlier than you would normally be going home, you twice went to sleep - maybe he didn't want you to still be there in the morning, snoring or not.

You're complaining that he didn't cuddle you but you fell asleep - twice!