To change or not to change my name?

Person_one

Gloomendoom wrote: »

No, she would rather people used Miss or Mrs as appropriate.

She needs to get over it.

Ms is the title that makes no assumptions, it is a sensible default and its ridiculous of her to expect people not to use it.

Peccary

An easy one for me as i never liked my name before (didn't hate it enough to change it), husband's is much less common. If it had been unusual or i'd hated his i would have kept it.

I know lots of women who use both names (i know a lot of academics) and some who never changed it.

Proxima_Centauri

Gloomendoom wrote: »

No, she would rather people used Miss or Mrs as appropriate. However, if somebody else would rather be addressed as Ms, she is quite happy to do so.

Was the fifties before or after the bra burning?

The latest politically correct nonsense is that people shouldn't use the pronouns
'he' or 'she' now. They're suggesting the gender-neutral 'Ze' as an alternative. (No I am not making this up.. )

onlyroz

Ultimately it doesn't really matter, and it really comes down to which name you prefer, and if you mind having a different name to your husband.

barbiedoll

I use my maiden name for my bank account but for everything else I use my married name, simply because I prefer it (put together with my first name, it has a whiff of the superhero about it )

I like the principle of the term "Ms", I don't see why a woman's marital status should be declared by her title, but goodness me, it's a difficult one to pronounce. Mzzzz? Mz?

Personally, I think we should all be addressed as "Princess" :rotfl:

Gloomendoom

Person_one wrote: »

She needs to get over it.

Ms is the title that makes no assumptions, it is a sensible default and its ridiculous of her to expect people not to use it.

It makes the assumption that she is female and that she has a hang-up over other people making assumptions about her marital status.

Person_one

Gloomendoom wrote: »

It makes the assumption that she is female and that she has a hang-up over other people making assumptions about her marital status.

She has a hang up about something if she has such a huge problem with other people using Ms!

Torry_Quine

I don't like Ms either and will correct to Mrs but I certainly don't think less of someone who gets it 'wrong'

Mojisola

barbiedoll wrote: »

I like the principle of the term "Ms", I don't see why a woman's marital status should be declared by her title, but goodness me, it's a difficult one to pronounce. Mzzzz? Mz?

No more difficult than Mrs - it's only because we're used to saying "Missus" when we see "Mrs" than it seems simple.

People unused to English struggle to see how we get "Missus" from "Mrs".

Primrose

Never occurred to me not to change my surname on marriage. Jolly glad I haven!t had to suffer 40 years of risking getting the wrong plane ticket name matched up with bookings which didn!t match passport name, or bank accounts which wouldn't accept cheques made out in a maiden name, etc. Virtually every female I know who hasn,t changed her name on marriage has suffered an inconvenient administrative screwup at some point or other.

Keeping life simple in this respect has lots of advantages, especially if children come along.