To change or not to change my name?

fairy_lights

If you don't know what you want to do then I wouldn't rush in to a decision. Maybe keep your name but use his socially for a while and see how it feels?

tea_lover

clairesilverspar wrote: »

I've decided to change my name. I did have a tough time deciding, as I felt my identity is very much tied up with my name - it's very individual.
We both have unusually spelt names, and I have two long middle names which would make double-barrelling look and sound ridiculous. He offered to change to my name as he didn't really have a preference. In the end I decided I wanted to change mine to his.


The thing is, it doesn't have to be one or the other. You always maintain the ability to use your maiden name, you just gain the choice to use his. This isn't quite the same for guys as they have to change by deed poll as far as I'm aware.


You could try it out for a while and then change later if you decide. Or you can use your married name for some things, and your maiden for others... i.e. Bank and Passport married name, work stuff maiden name.

No!!! Anyone can call themselves anything so long as it's not done for fraudulent purposes. A deed poll is not needed for anyone.

Mojisola

cats2012 wrote: »

For me, feminism and equality is about me having that choice

Gloomendoom wrote: »

My wife never was a Ms, she was always a Miss. Anybody that tried to force Ms on her got short shrift... and still does.

That's what it's all about - making your own choices.

JulieElizabeth

I really do hate the Ms Mrs Miss thing, which seem to insinuate a woman's marital status

Gloomendoom

JulieElizabeth wrote: »

I really do hate the Ms Mrs Miss thing, which seem to insinuate a woman's marital status

Mrs and Miss usually make it pretty clear.

Mojisola

JulieElizabeth wrote: »

I really do hate the Ms Mrs Miss thing, which seem to insinuate a woman's marital status

Miss and Mrs indicate marital status.

Ms (an adult female) was introduced as the female equivalent of Mr (an adult male).

JulieElizabeth

Sorry for clarification


Mrs = married woman
Miss = unmarried woman
Ms = woman who does not wish to indicate her marital status (this was my impression anyway)


My point is men aren't judged on the use of "Mr" but woman are on the above


anyway back to lurking...........

Faith177

I changed my name to my husbands at work straight away but everything else I have taken my time with.

I changed my passport last Jan and I have only just opened up a bank account in my married name in the past 2 weeks but have kept my old account in my maiden name (been married 4 years in April lol)

Tbh most of my stuff is still in my maiden name but if anyone asks I give my married name

Proxima_Centauri

If you are known professionally by your own surname I'd keep that surname for career/work purposes. For private/family purposes change to husband's surname.

Slinky

I took my husband's surname and added my own surname as an extra middle name.

I used to work with somebody who when he got married, they both changed their surname to a completely new name not connected with either of them.