To change or not to change my name?

Izadora

gt568 wrote: »

I'd have walked had my wife not taken my name. Some things you can't compromise on!

Whereas I'd be more likely to walk if someone insisted I took their name...

Fortunately, despite being old-fashioned in a lot of ways, my OH is of the (entirely correct as far as I'm concerned) opinion that as it's my name I'm the only one who has any say in what I'm called.

gt568

Person_one wrote: »

Amongst other things...

Such as??????

Gloomendoom

Person_one wrote: »

Is your wife unnecessarily rude to people who haven't done anything to her in other situations?

I see I have hit a nerve.

No, she isn't unnecessarily (or necessarily) rude to anybody.

However, she has little patience with people who deliberately alter her preferred title to Ms.
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gt568

fairy_lights wrote: »

Seriously? Why?

Just how we both feel marriage works.

fairy_lights

gt568 wrote: »

Just how we both feel marriage works.

Would you have considered taking her name if she hadn't wanted yours, so you could both have the same name?

gt568

fairy_lights wrote: »

Would you have considered taking her name if she hadn't wanted yours, so you could both have the same name?

Nope. Goes against tradition.

Person_one

Gloomendoom wrote: »

I see I have hit a nerve.

No, she isn't unnecessarily (or necessarily) rude to anybody.

However, she has little patience with people who deliberately alter her preferred title to Ms.
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Ah, ok, so its only 'short shrift' when people know she prefers Mrs but insist on using Ms anyway, not what you originally said?

Gloomendoom

Person_one wrote: »

Ah, ok, so its only 'short shrift' when people know she prefers Mrs but insist on using Ms anyway, not what you originally said?

Isn't it?

Gloomendoom wrote: »

My wife never was a Ms, she was always a Miss. ]Anybody that tried to force Ms on her got short shrift... and still does.

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Person_one

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Isn't it?


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As long as she is fine with people using Ms as default, and just politely asks them to use Mrs, that's no problem.

I suspect you wouldn't have seen the point in posting that though, you do love to wind up us feminists with your fifties gender politics! :rotfl:

Gloomendoom

Person_one wrote: »

As long as she is fine with people using Ms as default, and just politely asks them to use Mrs, that's no problem.

No, she would rather people used Miss or Mrs as appropriate. However, if somebody else would rather be addressed as Ms, she is quite happy to do so.

I suspect you wouldn't have seen the point in posting that though, you do love to wind up us feminists with your fifties gender politics! :rotfl:

Was the fifties before or after the bra burning?