Am I being over sensitive

Gigervamp

I have an ex who swore he never looked at !!!!!! and never masturbated. I thought it odd, as most men enjoy it.

One day I was looking for something and looked in the bottom of the wardrobe. I found a box and wondered what was in it, so pulled it out.

It was full of !!!!!! mags!

No idea why he lied to me, I'd made it clear that it didn't bother me.

gabriel1980

my other half actively encourages me to watch !!!!!! if she isn't in the mood for intimacy.

gabriel1980

ripplyuk wrote: »

Gosh, is that really true? I thought it would be about 30%.

My partner said he has never watched !!!!!!. I've no reason to think he's lying as it's not something I've ever expressed a view on one way or the other.

I've never really given it much thought, but my gut feeling is that I don't like the thought of it at all. I can't imagine having sexual feelings for any other man than my partner so it would be hard to understand if he could.

Actually, I think the OP's reaction and words were very measured.

To be honest I think 99% of men look at !!!!!!!

POPPYOSCAR

gabriel1980 wrote: »

To be honest I think 99% of men look at !!!!!!!

I disagree.

My husband does not and neither do the partners of some others who have posted on this thread.

Gavin83

Judging by this thread I think it highlights the differences between the sexes and I just don't think women get it. !!!!!! is not about finding other women attractive, it's about just watching the sexual act. !!!!!! isn't real, it's just a visual way of getting your rocks off and once the video is closed you don't think about it again. If 95% of the !!!!!! stars I've seen approached a single me in a club I wouldn't be the least bit interested. Women often take it personally which is highlighted by this thread but I guarantee you that in real life your partner wouldn't even look twice at the woman.

I don't see a problem with !!!!!!, it's just an extra aid for me. I'm in my early 30's and therefore grew up with easy to access !!!!!! and I don't feel it's shaped my attitudes to relationships. I have a very healthy relationship at the moment and I'm sure most men who watch !!!!!! do as well. I certainly wouldn't lie about it to a partner but I wouldn't necessarily mention it either, it's just not that big a deal. Think some people are being very unreasonable to the OPs partner here. Saying that I don't actually think I could be in a relationship with a girl who had a problem with it.

toniq wrote: »

I don't think I could understand if I was enough for him why he would need that stuff.

Would you have sex with your husband whenever he wanted it? Probably not so why would you have an issue with him using it when you'd rather have a rest? Or do you see it as ok to have a frustrated partner? My partner has a lower sex drive than me. I'd imagine if hers was higher I probably wouldn't watch !!!!!! however like 90% of relationships there's a discrepancy. Not enough to be a deal breaker for me but enough that I need to fill the gaps. !!!!!! doesn't make me love her any less and I wouldn't want anyone else.

I actually have a friend who's girlfriend banned him from watching !!!!!! or even masturbating. He then cheated on her a number of times. Go figure.

Gigervamp

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I disagree.

My husband does not and neither do the partners of some others who have posted on this thread.

Some men don't. Or say they don't, like my ex.

Person_one

Gavin83 wrote: »

I actually have a friend who's girlfriend banned him from watching !!!!!! or even masturbating. He then cheated on her a number of times. Go figure.

I figure that's a pretty !!!! poor excuse for cheating.

Not happy? Leave, don't cheat and pretend it was justified!

POPPYOSCAR

Gavin83 wrote: »

Judging by this thread I think it highlights the differences between the sexes and I just don't think women get it. !!!!!! is not about finding other women attractive, it's about just watching the sexual act. !!!!!! isn't real, it's just a visual way of getting your rocks off and once the video is closed you don't think about it again. If 95% of the !!!!!! stars I've seen approached a single me in a club I wouldn't be the least bit interested. Women often take it personally which is highlighted by this thread but I guarantee you that in real life your partner wouldn't even look twice at the woman.

I don't see a problem with !!!!!!, it's just an extra aid for me. I'm in my early 30's and therefore grew up with easy to access !!!!!! and I don't feel it's shaped my attitudes to relationships. I have a very healthy relationship at the moment and I'm sure most men who watch !!!!!! do as well. I certainly wouldn't lie about it to a partner but I wouldn't necessarily mention it either, it's just not that big a deal. Think some people are being very unreasonable to the OPs partner here. Saying that I don't actually think I could be in a relationship with a girl who had a problem with it.



Would you have sex with your husband whenever he wanted it? Probably not so why would you have an issue with him using it when you'd rather have a rest? Or do you see it as ok to have a frustrated partner? My partner has a lower sex drive than me. I'd imagine if hers was higher I probably wouldn't watch !!!!!! however like 90% of relationships there's a discrepancy. Not enough to be a deal breaker for me but enough that I need to fill the gaps. !!!!!! doesn't make me love her any less and I wouldn't want anyone else.

I actually have a friend who's girlfriend banned him from watching !!!!!! or even masturbating. He then cheated on her a number of times. Go figure.

Yes he would have cheated on her anyway regardless!!

gabriel1980

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I disagree.

My husband does not and neither do the partners of some others who have posted on this thread.

Hahaha! Yeah right. You are being lied too.

POPPYOSCAR

Person_one wrote: »

I figure that's a pretty !!!! poor excuse for cheating.

Not happy? Leave, don't cheat and pretend it was justified!

Quite!

If someone has to be able to watch !!!!!! etc. in order to stay faithfull that is not the kind of relationship I would want to be in.