Am I being over sensitive

ELIZA_D

It is difficult to suddenly realise that your OH finds others sexually attractive and you are not the best thing since sliced bread....
I think the fact he is looking at the same woman would niggle me..
Several different women , you can wonder, why that one ? those boobs? that flat stomach ! Flabby !!!! ~~~~ But the same woman, different pictures means more somehow

Person_one

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Really? I'd say !!!!!! has been easily available for over 30-40 years. Since the 80's for sure. And very easily accessible for the last 18-20 years since the advent of the internet.

Since the advent of broadband maybe, streaming video was a pipe dream on dial up!

Guest101

Person_one wrote: »

I'm in my thirties. Very easily available !!!!!! was not really a thing until I was into my twenties. Men my age will still remember passing round magazines at school and daring each other to go into 'adult' video shops. Most of them watch a lot now but it wasn't such a huge factor in defining their ideas about sex and relationships, they generally had to learn a lot of that with an actual partner which was far better for both them and the girls/women they were learning with.

I'm confused how this has gone from a man in his forties watching !!!!!! to school children?

If the last 2 decades have passed you and the OP by then that's more worrying than a bf masturbating.

barbiedoll

My brother is in his 40's and I can remember finding him and a couple of his mates, giggling over a mucky magazine that they had found in the alley at the back of our house, back in the late 70's. They thought that all of their dreams had come true with the advent of internet !!!!!!.

When we got our first home computer, my husband had his brand new AOL email address for all of 10 minutes before he opened a email with a suspicious link, (promising a tempting photo of a bewitching young woman, no doubt) which of course, then crashed the whole thing. My brother came round to help to fix it and confessed that he had done exactly the same thing when setting up his own computer. If the amount, and content of the spam emails that the pair of them regularly receive is anything to go by, I'd say that old habits die hard!

wapow

If you feel the need to control others, its due to a lack of control in your own life.
Those who said they would be hurt if their husband or other male partner was looking at !!!!!!. You seem to be more concerned about how prettier, slimmer, better looking she will be compared to your rotten stretch marked body.
You couldn't be anymore wrong and should look into counselling and loving yourself if you feel this way. Its not healthy. Then trying to guilt by saying you feel you're not enough is even worse. Talk about manipulation!
We are wired differently. What we do cannot be explained.

badmemory

wapow wrote: »

If you feel the need to control others, its due to a lack of control in your own life.
Those who said they would be hurt if their husband or other male partner was looking at !!!!!!. You seem to be more concerned about how prettier, slimmer, better looking she will be compared to your rotten stretch marked body.
You couldn't be anymore wrong and should look into counselling and loving yourself if you feel this way. Its not healthy. Then trying to guilt by saying you feel you're not enough is even worse. Talk about manipulation!
We are wired differently. What we do cannot be explained.

Wired differently! Cannot be explained! Best laugh I've had all day!

badmemory

After all the OP bashing I would just like to say - shared !!!!!! fine no problem. !!!!!! which needs to be kept a secret would seem to undermine a relationship. It would seem to me that THIS secretiveness is the problem, rather than what the actual secret is. Secrets are not a good basis for a relationship which one would hope to last.

POPPYOSCAR

toniq wrote: »

It would bother me if my hubby was watching !!!!!! on the sly and getting his kicks from that, It would make me feel I wasn't good enough and didn't turn him on enough.

I don't think I could understand if I was enough for him why he would need that stuff.

That's just me though.

No not just you.

My OH is not interested in !!!!!!.

He says why look at it when he has the real thing here.

AylesburyDuck

Person_one wrote: »

Since the advent of broadband maybe, streaming video was a pipe dream on dial up!

Nah, in the 80's their was always that one friend that could get the sort of !!!!!! that was too soft (wink) for the local Blockbusters! :rotfl:

Ames

badmemory wrote: »

After all the OP bashing I would just like to say - shared !!!!!! fine no problem. !!!!!! which needs to be kept a secret would seem to undermine a relationship. It would seem to me that THIS secretiveness is the problem, rather than what the actual secret is. Secrets are not a good basis for a relationship which one would hope to last.

Was it a secret though, or did the OH see it as something so normal it just wasn't worth mentioning? It's something most men do, so he probably assumed the OP would realise, just like he's (presumably) never mentioned specifically that he wees standing up and shaves his face.

It was on his iPad that she could access, so it wasn't something he was hiding away.