Am I being over sensitive

FBaby

Why do we have to assume both extremes. Watching !!!!!! is a common activity. Many men watch it, some women do to and some more watch it together and love it.

That doesn't mean that all men do or wish they did. People come with different sex drive and different ways to be sexually aroused and satisfied. So because many men do it doesn't mean it's not possible that some men really can't see any interest in it and never been curious/attracted. There are probably some couples where it is the woman who watches it and the man who doesn't.

All that matters is that each enjoys a healthy sexual relationship.

Gavin83

Person_one wrote: »

I figure that's a pretty !!!! poor excuse for cheating.

Not happy? Leave, don't cheat and pretend it was justified!

Couldn't agree more.

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Yes he would have cheated on her anyway regardless!!

Maybe, maybe not. That's effectively the reason he gave anyway and he didn't cheat on his next partner, who he's still with.

I remember when she told us he wasn't masturbating anymore or watching !!!!!!. She wasn't exactly impressed with the reaction.

ChicaBonita wrote: »

I think it's only an issue when you become fixated with it, and where it colours your view of relationships and how a physical relationship should be.

I think this puts it nicely. I don't see an issue with it at all but clearly if it's becoming a problem then that needs sorting.

Of course if the partners disagree then it's about compromise or walking away. Only the couple can decide how big an issue it is for them.

Vicky.s

If i found !!!!!! on my partners account i think id be upset to, maybe im sensitive to but it would make me feel he isn't satisfied at home. If he had suggested watching it together thats different but i understand why it was a supprise. I know most men probably do it but i think if hes happy at home why?

alwaysskint96

So for the women on here that say their partners never watch !!!!!!- have you never watched it yourself- or even worse shock horror used a vibrator alone?

ripplyuk

alwaysskint96 wrote: »

So for the women on here that say their partners never watch !!!!!!- have you never watched it yourself- or even worse shock horror used a vibrator alone?

Using a vibrator is different. There's no other person/people involved.

alwaysskint96

ripplyuk wrote: »

Using a vibrator is different. There's no other person/people involved.

Might make the partner feel inadequate. If someone is looking at a picture/video, there is still no other "person" involved. Just an image

Proxima_Centauri

A better analogy for a vibrator might be a blow-up doll :rotfl:

but the thread's getting a bit X-rated now..

Lily-Rose_3

Person_one wrote: »

I figure that's a pretty !!!! poor excuse for cheating.

Not happy? Leave, don't cheat and pretend it was justified!

This ^^^ :T

If I caught my husband cheating, it would be game over. No second chances, no way. If you want to be with someone else, then LEAVE, don't treat your partner with contempt! Lying and cheating and scheming, and making them look and feel a fool. Not to mention the fact that you are doing things with this person that you should be doing with your partner. Gross. People who cheat on their partner are scum IMO. The lowest of the low.

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Quite!

If someone has to be able to watch !!!!!! etc. in order to stay faithfull that is not the kind of relationship I would want to be in.

Exactly. Very weird. I am not saying people who watch it are awful people, but if someone is only staying faithful to their partner because they're watching !!!!!!, that is very worrying and disturbing.

Pretty annoyed at how people are mocking and laughing at people who say their husband doesn't watch !!!!!!, like they're some kind of moron who is too stupid to function. It's possible he may not be. And even if he is, what's wrong with her believing he isn't?

ripplyuk wrote: »

Can they not imagine their current partner?

Is it not better to think about someone you love, than an ex, or a random couple in a !!!!!! movie?

The thought of watching a porno with my husband makes me cringe. And don't even get me started on watching it with a group of people. It's like I would never go to a party that sells sex aids, nor would I go to a strip show. Call me a prude I don't care; it's not for me. Like swinging; I would die if my husband suggested that, and think there was DEFINITELY something wrong in our marriage. Swinging is just WEIRD. (IMO.)

I do remember someone saying a while back (on a message forum I think,) that their husband bullied her into swinging, and he was apparently oblivious to the fact that he would be swapping a fat frumpy 52 year old woman for another fat frumpy 52 year old woman. He was under the bizarre illusion that he was going to get a slender, firm, sexy young 23 year old. :rotfl:

He also thought no-one would want her, and several men did. He sat it out and didn't have sex with any of the women, whilst she had sex with one of the men. The marriage broke up soon after as he couldn't handle the jealousy. #awkward

wapow

There are 2 sides to a coin. He said she said.

jamiehelsinki

If your having sex once per week there's probably !!!!!! hidden in the relationship somewhere, if your doing it most days then there's probably very little !!!!!! involved that's my view as a bloke!