17 y/o girl and 29 y/o guy? should the guy know better?

fitnessguy1

Loz01 wrote: »

Agree with others, I think the age gap could be a problem just because you're at a diff point in your life, not the fact that she's younger and you're older. Im 30 and people that are 17-25 are just completely different from me.. theres a lot of growing up done from late teens to late 20's!

As for veganism - that should be an issue to determine a relationship... I don't eat meat or dairy either but I don't squeal in revulsion when someone offers me a bacon sandwich... just politely say no thanks. Look for places with good veggie and vegan options etc. I think thats a small thing really.

regarding the vegan issue. i teased her about being one of those hardcore hippie vegan types, but she said she's not strict about it. she said she just prefers not to eat meat because it brings her skin out in blemishes and makes her feel sick.

fitnessguy1

i dunno about it all. i may stay friends with her and see where it goes, but for now i am gonna take a step back. it's only been couple of days since i met her anyway, and because we go to the gym at similar times occasionally i don't want it to be awkward. i already promised her i would show her how to box, and that we can do padwork and workout together so she can get in shape faster.

i do worry about her falling for me though, not that it will happen, but she's already texting me a lot and reiterating how she likes talking to me and she likes that i want to know about her life. she's a sweet girl and we get on, it's just a shame about the age gap.

Primrose

Sounds like she,s already falling and vulnerable. Step back now then if you have doubts and keep any future relationship friendly but at arms length.

DCFC79

SnooksNJ wrote: »

Does she have a father because I can't imagine he will be pleased.

If she does the OP might need to pass the "Are you suitable for daughter" test

Mrs_Ryan

I'm 36 and the lad I sponsor at the rugby is 20, and he is hard work! He's a nice lad, good looking but I feel like his mum when I'm talking to him, I constantly feel like I'm telling him off (I'm not but it just feels that way :rotfl:) I couldn't go there, it would do my head in! I know there are people who do have massive age gap relationships but I would question what you think you have in common?

Tiddlywinks

fitnessguy1 wrote: »

regarding the vegan issue. i teased her about being one of those hardcore hippie vegan types, but she said she's not strict about it. she said she just prefers not to eat meat because it brings her skin out in blemishes and makes her feel sick.

You see, even that response suggests immaturity on her part.

onomatopoeia99

Primrose wrote: »

Well unless you're a vegan yourself, I'd find that even more challenging to live with than dealing with a 12 year age gap. If it ever got serious, could you potentially live with somebody who felt repulsed every time you wanted a cheese sandwich, a bacon buttie or steak and chips ? And who was a potential nightmare to all your friends if you get invited round for a meal because your girlfriend won't eat anything they're used to cooking. Or even worse, living with somebody who wouldn't even cook any of the things you like to eat either ?

You're making a way bigger deal of that than it needs to be.

Example: friend of mine is a vegetarian and has been since childhood. She doesn't eat meat, but she will cook it for others, and doesn't throw a paddy when her husband eats it. She simply accepts that while she chooses not to eat it, others can make a different choice. There is no requirement to be evangelical about one's diet choices.

bugslet

CruisingSaver wrote: »

As a Mum to a 17 year old girl I'd be furious if a 29 year old man was cosying up to my daughter. Even with the most mature of 17 year olds there's a massive difference in age and experience to bridge.

Just no!

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Age gaps and their effect on relationships are very dependent on the ages of the people involved. I doubt many people would feel particularly positive about a relationship between a young person of 17 and someone of 39.

I was just 21,when I started going out with Mr Bugs who was 43, very nearly 44. It was fair to say that me parents were not happy, but we still managed 28 years together, so the age gap was irrelevant really.

However I was a very mature 21 and he was young at heart so it worked; I'm not sure this and from previous posts that either of you are terrifically mature. Keep in contact and see where it goes, but I'd not be rushing into things.

Dird

Bogalot wrote: »

You had a girlfriend two days ago. What happened to her?

He's a fu_kboy. I'm sure I'm jealous af as his biceps though, 0 gains for me

fitnessguy1 wrote: »

she spoke about her training (we met at the gym) and her fitness goals etc, what she does outside of training like yoga classes. i spoke about how i am trying to learn yoga and stretching, just little things like that.

So you have things in common with literally every female in the gym. Every female in the gym will want to tone and has done/does yoga or spin class

joeblags

CruisingSaver wrote: »

As a Mum to a 17 year old girl I'd be furious if a 29 year old man was cosying up to my daughter. Even with the most mature of 17 year olds there's a massive difference in age and experience to bridge.

Just no!

you never know, it could be your daughter hes trying to seduce.