I find this a bit odd

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As others have said - everyone grieves differently, and she may be numb with shock, or pent up with adrenaline and wanting to 'sort everything out' or anywhere in between. My goodness - the first week after a sudden death - it's indescribable.

Right now she needs you as a friend. Can you bring her food, offer to do her washing, drop kids at school (if appropriate), ask her what she needs in terms of help?
It's better to make small repeated offers of (specific) help than to say "call me if you need anything", because she may feel too overwhelmed to think, too afraid of crying to pick up the phone. Be there for her, and let her talk if she can.

I'm sorry for your friend, I'm sure you are a good friend to her and will make a difference in small ways to her grief.

lisa110rry

My dear 90 year old mother in law lost her husband tragically suddenly when she was 45 and he 46 (thrombosis). The only change to her name in the following 45 years was that instead of being called Mrs [husband's name] [husband's surname], she became Mrs [her name] [husband's surname].

Things change with time and the generations.

Faith177

Maybe its to stop randoms contacting her so she can have some privacy? If friends of friends of friends are messaging her with condolences she might thinking changing her details will make it harder to find her?

Mojisola

pollyanna24 wrote: »

Usually, the first year after someone dying, they don't send Christmas cards.

I've never heard of this before.

duchy

Mojisola wrote: »

I've never heard of this before.

My Mum didn't the year my Dad died.
I was very much under the impression it was convention.

seashore22

I've never heard of it either and I'm getting on a bit and thought I knew most obscure traditions.

Where do you live pollyanna?

sheramber

While 'A merry Christmas' may not be appropriate you can get cards specifically for those who have lost someone.

duchy

seashore22 wrote: »

I've never heard of it either and I'm getting on a bit and thought I knew most obscure traditions.

Where do you live pollyanna?

Clearly you've missed one.
Christmas decorations also don't get put up within the mourning period of a year either.

Torry_Quine

Mojisola wrote: »

I've never heard of this before.

I've not heard of this either. It can actually be a way to let people know.

Mojisola

pollyanna24 wrote: »

Usually, the first year after someone dying, they don't send Christmas cards.

sheramber wrote: »

While 'A merry Christmas' may not be appropriate you can get cards specifically for those who have lost someone.

I understood pollyanna to mean that the bereaved person didn't send cards rather than finding an appropriate one to send to the bereaved.