Partner doing chores badly is driving me crazy!

Proxima_Centauri

onlyroz wrote: »

Are there really "many people" who eat off paper plates, only wear clothes once before throwing them away, and have an inch of dust on every surface, and have overflowing bins?

There is a basic level of housework that needs doing by even the most slovenly of people, unless they live as described above.

Sadly, I have an inkling there are more people living like that than we'd like to think

I can think of at least 5 people off the top of my head whose houses are/were awful! All of them men.

Mojisola

cjdavies wrote: »

Why are you together?

Like you, I wonder why couples who vary so much in their attitude to cleaning and housework set up home together.

Surely they must know each other well enough before deciding to share a living space that they realise how different their attitudes are to chores?

onomatopoeia99

onlyroz wrote: »

Are there really "many people" who eat off paper plates, only wear clothes once before throwing them away, and have an inch of dust on every surface, and have overflowing bins?

While you quoted me, none of those things are true of me or my home. Dishes are washed, clothes are laundered, bins are emptied. There is between none and about a 32nd of an inch of dust on most surfaces. None in the kitchen and bathroom, but I don't dust those surfaces (nor any, as I said, I don't dust), I wash them down with a damp cloth using a surface cleaner suitable to the task.

Person_one asserts that dusting and vacuuming need to be done, I assert that they don't. We will never agree.

LannieDuck

OP, what reason did your OH give for putting a frozen item in the cupboard instead of in the freezer?

onlyroz

Proxima_Centauri wrote: »

Sadly, I have an inkling there are more people living like that than we'd like to think

I can think of at least 5 people off the top of my head whose houses are/were awful! All of them men.

But even people who live like total slobs (and I do know a few - their houses are piled high with rubbish and you have to move things around to find a spot to sit down in) need to eat off clean plates and wash their clothes every so often.

onlyroz

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

While you quoted me, none of those things are true of me or my home. Dishes are washed, clothes are laundered, bins are emptied. There is between none and about a 32nd of an inch of dust on most surfaces. None in the kitchen and bathroom, but I don't dust those surfaces (nor any, as I said, I don't dust), I wash them down with a damp cloth using a surface cleaner suitable to the task.

Person_one asserts that dusting and vacuuming need to be done, I assert that they don't. We will never agree.

Re dusting and vacuuming - these are things that some people obsess over more than others. For my own house I'm perfectly fine with vacuuming every week or two. As for dusting - doesn't happen that often. But I'm more fussy about keeping the kitchen surfaces clean - they get a wipe and spray down after every cooking session.

However, I wouldn't tolerate piles of dirty dishes being left around for days, or overflowing bins. And if anybody "forgot" more than once that frozen food needs to go into the freezer then they'd be booted to the curb sharpish.

Person_one

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

While you quoted me, none of those things are true of me or my home. Dishes are washed, clothes are laundered, bins are emptied. There is between none and about a 32nd of an inch of dust on most surfaces. None in the kitchen and bathroom, but I don't dust those surfaces (nor any, as I said, I don't dust), I wash them down with a damp cloth using a surface cleaner suitable to the task.

Person_one asserts that dusting and vacuuming need to be done, I assert that they don't. We will never agree.

Your house is clearly clean and tidy because your partner keeps it that way. Spend a year living on your own without dusting or hoovering at all and see how pleasant it is to live with!

Also, washing a surface with a damp cloth and a suitable cleaning product kind of is dusting, isn't it? What did you think I meant? Swishing a feather duster around the ornaments? :rotfl:

missbiggles1

Person_one wrote: »

Well, because it needs to be done, and despite it being 2016 women generally still do far far more than their fair share in most opposite sex couples, and loads of them are tearing their hair out absolutely desperate for the men they live with to take a bit of responsibility for it!

Who says?..

Loz01

Someone putting frozen food in a normal cupboard would drive me potty... it really isn't that difficult.

Person_one

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Who says?..

Anybody who wants to live in reasonably sanitary conditions and keep stuff past its first use.

I'm certainly no neat freak, but unless you live in a hotel with a laundry service there are unfortunately chores that need to be done in every home.