Partner doing chores badly is driving me crazy!

ixwood

Pretend he was OCD about your family car and liked it pristine and you weren't bothered whether it was a bit, or even totally grubby as it's not important to you, but he expected you to hoover, polish inside, clean, dry and wax it every day or whatever..

Fireflyaway

You probably just have differrernt standards. If this were me I would decide on who does which jobs based on which ones he does well. I'm guessing his mum did everything for him at home and he just doesn't know. If he has just a few jobs he might master them. Otherwise trttrty to accept it. Rubbish hoovering is far better than domestic abuse, cheating etc! I bet you do stuff he hates too.

System

OP do you know how hard it is to live with a perfectionist?

Back off a little bit. At least he's making an effort.

indiepanda

Judi wrote: »

OP do you know how hard it is to live with a perfectionist?

Back off a little bit. At least he's making an effort.

I don't think it's perfectionism to think frozen food should go in the freezer not the cupboard, surely that is basic common sense.

svain

Im sure its already been said, but why make life difficult for yourselves. If washing up is an issue then get a dishwasher, if hoovering/dusting is the problem then get a cleaner. If both then get both. Failing that then you will have to give a little. Its not unheard for someone to do more than the other person, but in most other cases it evens itself up in other ways.
If one person is at home (not wage earning) and the other at work then that person generally does the everyday chores.

All in all, life is to short to let this kind of thing be of major concern ... "IF" ... the other aspects of your relationship is happy.

As for the frozen food mishap ..... :rotfl::rotfl:

getmore4less

indiepanda wrote: »

I don't think it's perfectionism to think frozen food should go in the freezer not the cupboard, surely that is basic common sense.

It is also not hard to share the task.

Put the frozen stuff away and leave the rest for the other person.

now there is no problem to fix.

gfplux

If after considering all your choices including can you change you still have to consider the future.
Will you or your partner be able to live with someone that is so different for 40 years or more.
There is no point in you or your partner, in ten years time deciding to end the marriage when you should have done so now.
People can change, but!